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But embarrassing for me, but was DH wrong too?

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Suze889 · 18/12/2023 17:57

Work night out recently. I got completely hammered on red wine; I must say now and I do mean this, this is really unlike me but it happened so have to to tell the truth. Work colleagues were also drunk but luckily female colleague’s husband was on hand to take us back to hers. I love about 45 minutes away and was supposed to be getting the train home but was not capable of this. I know the shame. This is where it gets weird. Colleague and her husband called my husband from my phone. I was incapable of speaking to him and was lying on sofa. My husband was completely unperturbed by the whole thing, refused to come and pick me up, (it was only nine o’clock) and pretty much left me at my colleagues so I had to stay the night and THEY had to drive me home the next day. So embarrassing. My colleagues were also a bit drunk And outraged at my husband’s behaviour and when he refused to come and pick me up. They called back to discover he had turned his phone off! Now I was completely oblivious to all this happening but now I just feel so little and small. If the shoe had been on the other foot, I would have collected him, I have done similar before. My colleagues all think he’s a dick but are being polite and I am mortified on all fronts.

OP posts:
schmuzz · 04/01/2024 06:07

You're not wrong op. You know how your husband makes you feel. It's not normal. It says a lot that your colleague's husband was more concerned about getting you home the next day than your own.

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 04/01/2024 06:49

I think he should have picked you up.
However, if this was roles reversed and a woman posted here 'my DH has got so drunk at a work night he's lying on his work friends sofa and can't even speak to me', I feel like a lot of the advice would be leave him to it, dont rush out to pick him up'
But I do still feel like he should have come and picked you up especially as its so rare, and I'd say the same the other way around.
Your update re the car accident is absolutely disgraceful though. My DH had a relatively minor car accident recently and my entire day was given up to look after him and make sure he was OK, and I'd been up all night with about 3 hours sleep for a charity walking event the night before!

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