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starsandheart · 2023-12-18T17:24:46+00:00

Dh and I both have dds from a previous relationship, mine is 7 and lives with us f/t his dd is 8 and we have her 50/50. Does anyone have any experience with bigger age gaps? And how it affects the family dynamics?

Stress101 · 19/12/2023 06:44

6 years between my niece and nephew. They have always been like two only children. Niece is now 18, attending college, working part time and is out of the house a lot. Nephew mostly spends time with cousin who is the same age. When they are together they don't speak to each other because they have nothing in common.

GlitteryUnicornSparkles · 19/12/2023 06:53

10 & 13 years between me & my sisters (I wasn’t planned) and we get get on well, I have fond memories from my younger years of my younger sister taking me out skating with her and her friends and dressing me up for fancy dress competitions and having sleepovers at their houses when they moved out and had their own.

Stress101 · 19/12/2023 06:53

Ohnonoohoh · 18/12/2023 23:41

If I was ever going to have a big age gap like that, I'd have to have 2 close together

My mum had us 3 aged 5,6 and 7 and then my newborn sister.

She was never part of our "group", not on purpose, she was just always so much younger than us, we didnt have much interest in a baby or toddler and by the time she was a child we were teenagers who again, were not really interested in a small child.

We were all nice to her, but none of us are close to her and even to this day, she is still the "annoying" younger sister because of the way she now behaves. It's a shame too because I try really hard to like her, but she is so very annoying and attention seeking.

I blame the way she is on her technically being a single child. I think if she had had a sibling around the same age she wouldnt be the massive attention seeker she has always been

I have 2 children, aged 6 and 8 and if I was to ever have another, I would definetly have to have 2 because of the way I've seen having one play out in my siblings

Totally agree with this. I was 7 and my sister was 6 when my mother had our youngest sister. Oldest two went to school together, only a year apart, same friends, hobbies etc. Youngest sister was more of a hindrance especially when I was about 12/13 and my mother expected me to babysit and bring her out with me during the summer holidays etc. My mother always wanted a sibling close in age for the youngest but sadly my Father didn't want anymore children. They actually separated when my sister was five so she spent a lot of time with my Dad and Dads family. My mother actually bought her a puppy when she was 11 for some company as we were all working full time and she was home alone a lot. Quiet sad really for her when I think about it.

CatherinedeBourgh · 19/12/2023 07:56

Hibernatalie · 18/12/2023 20:42

Where was your dad?

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TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 19/12/2023 10:05

Its just luck if they have a close relationship. There are big gaps between all my siblings and to be honest none of us have any kind of relationship as adults. As children we had a forced relationship where we were expected to take an interest in each other

bryceQ · 19/12/2023 10:07

I have a twelve year age gap with my brother and we are really close. Hang out multiple times a week

Vettrianofan · 19/12/2023 10:29

Ohnonoohoh · 18/12/2023 23:41

If I was ever going to have a big age gap like that, I'd have to have 2 close together

My mum had us 3 aged 5,6 and 7 and then my newborn sister.

She was never part of our "group", not on purpose, she was just always so much younger than us, we didnt have much interest in a baby or toddler and by the time she was a child we were teenagers who again, were not really interested in a small child.

We were all nice to her, but none of us are close to her and even to this day, she is still the "annoying" younger sister because of the way she now behaves. It's a shame too because I try really hard to like her, but she is so very annoying and attention seeking.

I blame the way she is on her technically being a single child. I think if she had had a sibling around the same age she wouldnt be the massive attention seeker she has always been

I have 2 children, aged 6 and 8 and if I was to ever have another, I would definetly have to have 2 because of the way I've seen having one play out in my siblings

That's the reason I had four DC. I have a 16, 13, 8 and 6yo. I didn't want 8yo not to have a sibling close in age growing up. I am glad they each have one other sibling to relate to.

I always feel sorry for siblings when there are three boys then a girl in that order and wish they could get a sister! Mine are all same sex.

SallyWD · 19/12/2023 10:32

I'm 15 years older than one of my siblings. We've always been very close and always will be. I'm late 40s and he's mid-30s and we have a great relationship.