Page 3 | Would of/could of/should of

Bluevelvetsofa · 13/12/2023 14:05

I saw ‘filas’ this morning, it transpired the author meant ‘feelers’

Silverbirchtwo · 13/12/2023 14:07

emmetgirl · 13/12/2023 13:06

Seeing "your amazing!" makes me want to scratch my eyes out.

Your amazing what?

Original poster

Getamoveon36 · 13/12/2023 14:09

Bongosbanjo · 13/12/2023 13:48

Saw a new one today, ordinance instead of audience.

That’s a new one to me too, maybe it’ll catch on….🥺🥺🥺🙄

OP posts:

MsClarice · 13/12/2023 14:09

"We was" just talking about this

AgnesX · 13/12/2023 14:10

Cue up to get a queue...

Janinejones · 13/12/2023 14:12

Step up the curb

beautifullittletree · 13/12/2023 14:14

Well since you are in AIBU I will say yes, you are. Sadly not everyone has been given the same chances at education, neither is everyone as able to learn or as intelligent as those who have it all spot on.

For many years o thought it was could have - nobody taught me otherwise and in everyday speech that's what I heard (coming from could've obviously) so yea I think YABU.

I can be quite sensitive about these threads though; I think they are juts mocking people less educated and able which isn't a nice trait. I have had to work really hard to pick up a lot of the basics in written language and when people flippantly comment about how awful it is to see of instead of have, I do question their motive.

Wishimaywishimight · 13/12/2023 14:15

My friend asked me to borrow her some money. Yeah, yeah, I know it's used commonly in some parts of the UK, I still think it sounds wrong.

Northsideoftheriver · 13/12/2023 14:16

I have a pencil that says "silently correcting your grammar."

When I hear people say could of and we got late, a small part of me dies.

BeadedBubbles · 13/12/2023 14:19

Am still twitching from a recent thread about queue jumping where the op insisted on writing que instead of queue. When her mistake was pointed out (many times) she very huffily said that she knew the correct spelling but was using que as shorthand. Her desire for brevity didn't extend to anything else she wrote. Some of us were so distracted by the misspelling (pronouncing que in our heads as kay) we couldn't focus on the rest of her post. It ended with her telling us we must be old and unemployed if I remember right

beautifullittletree · 13/12/2023 14:22

BeadedBubbles · 13/12/2023 14:19

Am still twitching from a recent thread about queue jumping where the op insisted on writing que instead of queue. When her mistake was pointed out (many times) she very huffily said that she knew the correct spelling but was using que as shorthand. Her desire for brevity didn't extend to anything else she wrote. Some of us were so distracted by the misspelling (pronouncing que in our heads as kay) we couldn't focus on the rest of her post. It ended with her telling us we must be old and unemployed if I remember right

So a poster got defensive because she was embarrassed about her mistake being pointed out multiple times? I feel sympathy for her tbh

And the unable to concentrate on the post becsue she said que and not queue is really strange. Surely people could have just read it as intended, corrected the error in their heads then answered the thread?

Great example of 'I'm better than you'

Catslovenip · 13/12/2023 14:23

“ Was you there? “

I judge these people as harshly as the “ Would of” people

ColleenDonaghy · 13/12/2023 14:24

beautifullittletree · 13/12/2023 14:14

Well since you are in AIBU I will say yes, you are. Sadly not everyone has been given the same chances at education, neither is everyone as able to learn or as intelligent as those who have it all spot on.

For many years o thought it was could have - nobody taught me otherwise and in everyday speech that's what I heard (coming from could've obviously) so yea I think YABU.

I can be quite sensitive about these threads though; I think they are juts mocking people less educated and able which isn't a nice trait. I have had to work really hard to pick up a lot of the basics in written language and when people flippantly comment about how awful it is to see of instead of have, I do question their motive.

Completely agree - I don't think there needs to be any barriers to participation on online forums but these threads do put people off. We're not at work or writing a dissertation.

Not to mention they always descend into slagging off regional variations (of course people use their local phrases, it's informal) and often slagging off language that is actually perfectly correct.

ElevenSeven · 13/12/2023 14:24

Catslovenip · 13/12/2023 14:23

“ Was you there? “

I judge these people as harshly as the “ Would of” people

‘We was goin’ 🤮

ColleenDonaghy · 13/12/2023 14:25

BeadedBubbles · 13/12/2023 14:19

Am still twitching from a recent thread about queue jumping where the op insisted on writing que instead of queue. When her mistake was pointed out (many times) she very huffily said that she knew the correct spelling but was using que as shorthand. Her desire for brevity didn't extend to anything else she wrote. Some of us were so distracted by the misspelling (pronouncing que in our heads as kay) we couldn't focus on the rest of her post. It ended with her telling us we must be old and unemployed if I remember right

If you were so distracted by a misspelling that you couldn't understand the thread then perhaps you should have stepped away from it.

BeadedBubbles · 13/12/2023 14:26

So a poster got defensive because she was embarrassed about her mistake being pointed out multiple times? I feel sympathy for her tbh

But they insisted it wasn't a mistake! It was their preferred style. It was pointed out quite politely at first (not by me) but they became very aggressive. The consensus on the thread was that they had totally unnecessarily complained about a member of staff. So don't waste your sympathy on them.

threecupsofteaminimum · 13/12/2023 14:26

beautifullittletree · 13/12/2023 14:14

Well since you are in AIBU I will say yes, you are. Sadly not everyone has been given the same chances at education, neither is everyone as able to learn or as intelligent as those who have it all spot on.

For many years o thought it was could have - nobody taught me otherwise and in everyday speech that's what I heard (coming from could've obviously) so yea I think YABU.

I can be quite sensitive about these threads though; I think they are juts mocking people less educated and able which isn't a nice trait. I have had to work really hard to pick up a lot of the basics in written language and when people flippantly comment about how awful it is to see of instead of have, I do question their motive.

With the best will in the world I disagree. I'm a TEFL teacher, a latecomer to the profession. I genuinely believe my grasp of spelling and grammar is down to how much I read. I've always been a book worm, my mum says I used to read everything, even newspapers a a kid, this is not anything to do with disparity in educational opportunity. Libraries are free.

beautifullittletree · 13/12/2023 14:28

@BeadedBubbles

But they insisted it wasn't a mistake! It was their preferred style.

That was what I meant by being defensive!

It was pointed out quite politely at first (not by me) but they became very aggressive.

Defensive. Embarrassed.

The consensus on the thread was that they had totally unnecessarily complained about a member of staff. So don't waste your sympathy on them.

So anyone people don't agree with is fair game?

beautifullittletree · 13/12/2023 14:32

@threecupsofteaminimum

With the best will in the world I disagree. I'm a TEFL teacher, a latecomer to the profession. I genuinely believe my grasp of spelling and grammar is down to how much I read. I've always been a book worm, my mum says I used to read everything, even newspapers a a kid, this is not anything to do with disparity in educational opportunity. Libraries are free.

Are you always so ignorant?

Catslovenip · 13/12/2023 14:33

I don’t think it’s anything to do with education. I think it’s a cultural quirk. Wearing socks with sliders and dressing down. Trying REALLY hard to look like they’ve not tried at all and that they don’t care about anything . Rejigging the English language is just another part of this. It’s bloody annoying though.

TarkaDalOtter · 13/12/2023 14:33

You have done amazing with this thread OP.

I wish the pedants on here were not my tribe but you are.

I will put you on a pedal stool.

Giggorata · 13/12/2023 14:33

I just wonder why people don't use the spelling and grammar checks that are available.

BeadedBubbles · 13/12/2023 14:34

@beautifullittletree - I was going to copy some of their very unpleasant remarks but I see they've been deleted. They went considerably beyond being defensive/embarrassed.

Anycrispsleft · 13/12/2023 14:34

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/12/2023 12:52

This is all the fault of contractions.

Could’ve should’ve would’ve

Yes!

I come onto these threads and usually about 5 messages in there's someone going "it's WOULD HAVE, COULD HAVE, SHOULD HAVE" and then the people that are saying "would of" think they're being asked to talk Proper with no contractions instead of being corrected on spelling and nothing more. And then it's a short move from formal vs less formal to working vs middle class and then you get 18 pages of '"I was sat" isn't dialect, it's just common grammatically incorrect"' and what everyone called a sofa when they were wee and then everyone forgets what the question was.

shepherdsangeldelight · 13/12/2023 14:36

beautifullittletree · 13/12/2023 14:14

Well since you are in AIBU I will say yes, you are. Sadly not everyone has been given the same chances at education, neither is everyone as able to learn or as intelligent as those who have it all spot on.

For many years o thought it was could have - nobody taught me otherwise and in everyday speech that's what I heard (coming from could've obviously) so yea I think YABU.

I can be quite sensitive about these threads though; I think they are juts mocking people less educated and able which isn't a nice trait. I have had to work really hard to pick up a lot of the basics in written language and when people flippantly comment about how awful it is to see of instead of have, I do question their motive.

Interesting that your post includes the phrase "nobody taught me otherwise" but yet you object to people (generally kindly and gently) pointing out where errors have been made. As you say yourself, how else are you supposed to know?

If you know it should be "could have" and not "could of" it's actually very difficult to read a sentence containing the latter - your mind tries to jump to different meanings from that intended. That's why grammar and spelling exist- otherwise why should we bother at all and not just accept that people can write in whatever way suits them?