Married 2 years. DHs family forgot our anniversary. Mine remembered.

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DH's family forgot our anniversary, only been married 2 years. They remember all other important dates. But no effort for us. My family all remembered first thing in the morning and sent us both messages.

Should i bring this up to DH? I just want to tell my in laws where to stick it!!

Could this be my chance to distance myself from them? My get out of jail free card? I never liked them from the beginning.

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Ok so I agree that wedding anniversaries are for the couple, but my mum sends my aunts and cousins cards on their anniversaries so I understand some are a bit crackers about this.

Fair enough to be a bit miffed that yours hasn't been remembered when others are. I think using this as the reason to distance yourself is WAAAAYY OTT.

Most likely either:

1. They haven't remembered because no one has memorised the date as it's recent (I can still remember birthdays of girls I was at school with but have to think twice about my children's) and no one has had any memories pop up in their photos yet. We all know what it's like in group chats - once one person remembers, that reminds the rest!
2. Or, they just don't like you. Seems it might be mutual, so meh.

You say you've never liked them.
Maybe they have picked up on this and that's why they treat you differently.

Do people actually give this much of a shit about this level of petty crap?

Jesus Christ.

OTHER PEOPLE DO NOT CELEBRATE YOUR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY. ONCE YOU ARE MARRIED NO ONE CARES.

Its not important. Get a grip. The world does not orbit you.

Both sets of parents send cards on our anniversary every year, and every year I’m amazed that they care. Even we barely give a shit. OP is being unreasonable.

Get a grip. You're not bridezilla any more. No one gives a stuff about other peoples anniversaries.

I can't remember my own wedding anniversary neither I know does my sister. It honestly doesn't matter. Two years isn't that long. Let this go. Wedding anniversary is really only for the couple and tbh its not that important. Those that make a big thing of it tend to split up if you believe what people post on. Facebook. I've never ever had a anniversary card from my parents in...not sure have I been married..14 or 15 years...might be 16. Kinda not important. My mil always sends a card...only card some years as we forget it..

Happy anniversary OP.

Your expectations are way off the mark imo. It's your anniversary not theirs. Try to be a little more realistic and then you won't be so disappointed in the future! Maybe your own family remembered because you've been talking about it? Either way, you're setting yourself up for upset if you expect other people to feel the way you want them to and to celebrate stuff that is not their priority.

It was normal in my family growing up that anniversaries were acknowledged (parent to child, child to parent and sibling to sibling chiefly, 'big' ones for aunts/uncles).

It was normal in dh's family that they weren't.

In-laws have never acknowledged our anniversary (1st, 10th, 25th). It's just them.

Maybe have a chat with dh about his expectations/experience within his family? Enjoy your day with dh and appreciate those acknowledgements that you have had

I usually forget mine! DH remembers because he has a rolling alert on his phone.
I’ve never sent anyone else anniversary congrats unless prompted (Facebook post saying it’s their anniversary, I like the post).
you are overthinking this massively.

Disagree. It's the single most obvious answer to the question asked.

The truth can be harsh and/or nasty (as any grown up would know). And what are you suggesting by "unnecessary"? Are only pat-on-the-head/ poor-you-aren't-they-awful-to-you answers necessary, or required, or allowed?

It's a fake and pitiful world where only #bekind replies are permitted. Don't like the truth? Don't listen. You don't get to accuse someone of being nasty just because you don't like what you're hearing. The world is not going to progress if you just pretend unpleasant things don't exist.

Anniversaries are just for the couple. Nobody else remembers and nobody else does anything - and nor should they. Leave your poor in laws alone.

I’m wondering what your pre wedding Mumsnet posts were like….🤯

Have you put anything on there on how you are celebrating?

You obviously don't like them and desperately want a reason to distance yourself from them. Go for it, they'll probably be relieved as you seem a bit tedious.

It’s not a big deal. You sound petty.

I don't think anyone ever acknowledged my anniversary! Couldn't care less - as long as my husband did!

Crikey, so precious.
The only person that needs to remember your wedding anniversary is your husband.

I would call the police, if not for yourself but to stop these criminals before they don't send one to someone more vulnerable.

22 years in and we forgot our own this year. I never expected anyone else to acknowledge my anniversary though, that's a bit needy.

Hhahaahhahaha😂

My mum is like this, forget their anniversary at your peril.

Me? As long as DH and I acknowledge it I don't care.

Woah, you are tedious.

So very, very unreasonable.

Catch a grip. You are just looking for a reason to cause trouble.

Why do you care if you don't like them anyway?