Married 2 years. DHs family forgot our anniversary. Mine remembered.

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DH's family forgot our anniversary, only been married 2 years. They remember all other important dates. But no effort for us. My family all remembered first thing in the morning and sent us both messages.

Should i bring this up to DH? I just want to tell my in laws where to stick it!!

Could this be my chance to distance myself from them? My get out of jail free card? I never liked them from the beginning.

Catch yourself on.

It's your anniversary, not theirs. You are being very unreasonable.

Right I should have prefaced. We have a big family whatsapp group with his side. They ALWAYS post for birthdays and other married couples anniversarys... for instance happy anniversary guys, have a a good day, etc.

normally i wouldnt care, but if its memorable for everyone else in the family why not ours?

Go round their house and beat the crap out of them

I barely remembered our anniversary never mind expecting other people too!
It would be a silly thing to get upset by

You can’t be serious op; lol. Who remembers someone else’s anniversary, that’s not a thing. Other than in your family, 😂

Like everyone else says, anniversaries are just for the couple themselves. My parents and inlaws never remember ours and I don't expect them to.

Your anniversary is for you two to celebrate. I never realised we were supposed to congratulate family members!

It's your anniversary, nothing to do with anyone else at all. Why do you expect a card/present for staying married for a whole 24 months. It's not as if it's a decade or longer.

😂😂😂

No one answers your question better than Schitts Creek
https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1513827782369713

I don't expect anyone other than my husband/myself to remember our wedding anniversary, and there have been a few years we have forgotten. It is not really a reason to cut off your husbands from his family.

I can think of a few reasons…😂

Genuinely, didn’t know this was an expectation of families?

To send messages first thing to say happy anniversary? I always think anniversaries are for the couple. Not everyone else.

I think yabu

It would never occur to me to try and remember other people's anniversaries or congratulate them. If it was a big number and they're holding a celebration of course I'd write a card, but otherwise no. This an insane thing to get upset about IMO.

Maybe it's really obvious to them that you don't like them so they don't see why they should bother?

You are seriously looking for a reason to distance yourself from them. Good grief you sound like hard work and I'm never usually rude like that!

Why should anyone care about your anniversary apart from you two😂

I always thought that the wedding anniversary only concerned the husband and wife. I send birthday and Christmas cards but have never sent another married relative an anniversary card. It's something personal between the couple.

The only person who needs to acknowledge your wedding anniversary is your spouse.

Because somebody probably my reminds them of the others.

Maybe because yours is near Christmas when people are notoriously busy and distracted with other things.

Maybe because they thought you are so high strung you may feel they were intruding on you.

We have never received an anniversary card from anyone except from my DM who sends us one card every year and the year we celebrated our 25th anniversary and invited people for a lunch. I find it odd to cut off family because you didn't get a card or a message. Life is too short for that sort of silliness.

You sound very spoilt and childish.

In my experience nobody is really that invested in other people’s wedding anniversaries. I certainly don’t expect people to celebrate or mention mine!

If they consistently treat you differently to others in the family that’s a different and reasonable complaint, but I don’t think you can criticise them too much just for not being that bothered about your anniversary.

Yabu, dh and I can barely remember our own.

Can you list the wedding dates of all your family members who are married??

We went to SIL's wedding this recent summer and both dd and I were bridesmaids. I'd still have to think a minute before I could tell you what the date was. I really doubt I'll be sending them a text first thing on the day next year!