Married 2 years. DHs family forgot our anniversary. Mine remembered.

[crossroads1]

DH's family forgot our anniversary, only been married 2 years. They remember all other important dates. But no effort for us. My family all remembered first thing in the morning and sent us both messages.

Should i bring this up to DH? I just want to tell my in laws where to stick it!!

Could this be my chance to distance myself from them? My get out of jail free card? I never liked them from the beginning.

It's easier to remember anniversaries when the couple have been married a long time and it gets embedded in your mind.
Always harder with newer couples

I don’t even remember my own, let alone anyone else’s.

Odd to use such a minor slight as an excuse to cut them off. How would you feel if your husband said the same of your family?

But dont you see the difference?

It is whatever the family tradition is - yours is NOT to make a thing of anniversaries, fine. But OP's inlaws make a fuss of EVERYONE else, but "forget" theirs.

Surely you can see the difference 🙄

@crossroads1 YANBU

In my experience, if you want people to remember anything, including birthdays, you have to flag it up beforehand. It’s ridiculous to have a massive family whatsapp group all congratulating each other on stuff. When do you have time to do anything else?

Do they remember though?

Or is everyone else just a bit better at dropping hints ("Can you babysit on Saturday mum so we can go out to dinner for our anniversary?" type of thing) so the anniversaries get remembered? Or perhaps, since yours is most recent, they haven't added it to their phone for a reminder yet?

Or perhaps they are just distancing themselves from you..

You’ll have to do the PA Facebook & Instagram posts saying “Thank you to everyone who contacted us to say Happy Anniversary. How lovely that you remembered our special day!”

Get a grip. Nobody cares. The in-laws sending a card is the unusual bit.

Newsflash no one cares about your anniversary, your birthday, your kids birthday after 1, or anything else that hat is privy to your household family.

😂
This can’t actually be real, who on earth is that precious?

Exactly this.

i would know when dbs anniversary was, because i babysat usually. Or it would come up in conversation beforehand. Or one of them would post on Facebook with prompted me.

The fact that they message doesn’t mean they remember other people and not yours or that theirs is important and yours isn’t.

No. No you won't. Most couples really don't care about this sort of thing! It wouldn't cross my mind to expect an anniversary card from my DM, DMil, or anyone else in the family.

When do you have time to do anything else?

Doubt it takes 12 hours a day to wish people Happy Birthday/ Anniversary lol
one minute at most to type it out and send it. That leaves 11hours 59 mins for everything else 😂

I think @tescocreditcard has the perfectly attuned response here . As well as poster who suggested setting fire to their house.

OK so everyone else got a WhatsApp msg on their anniversary , not you. IT's NOT FAAAIR . Is DH bothered. ? Have you bothered telling him. Seriously if you are looking for excuses to lose contact with them , this is a pretty poor one IMHO. It would be better to come clean with DH and tell him you just don't like them before he reconsiders and shoves you in the attic whilst looking for a governess.

Maybe they don't wish your anniversary is a happy one? Maybe your wedding wasn't something they wish to celebrate? Sorry, it's a bit harsh, but it really is the obvious answer.

DH is lucky if I remember! It's not important enough to damage relationships for, at all.

where do you find the energy to even be arsed? I couldn't imagine wasting my energy and time on this nonsense.

Your not a victim stop making yourself one to cause some family angst.

People FFS

It’s not just harsh, it’s nasty and completely unnecessary.

Another nasty response. People aren’t covering themselves in glory here.

Ever heard of sarcasm?

Why don't you like them?

This is why I'm glad I've got daughters!
No dils to come along and alienate me from my dc/gc

I really needed that laugh!

I hardly remember my own wedding anniversary 😂

This. It sounds like you are just looking for an excuse to reduce contact with his family. Be honest. Do you know when your pil's own anniversary is?