Married 2 years. DHs family forgot our anniversary. Mine remembered.

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DH's family forgot our anniversary, only been married 2 years. They remember all other important dates. But no effort for us. My family all remembered first thing in the morning and sent us both messages.

Should i bring this up to DH? I just want to tell my in laws where to stick it!!

Could this be my chance to distance myself from them? My get out of jail free card? I never liked them from the beginning.

I think wedding anniversaries, except large ones like 25 or 40 are for the married couple themselves to celebrate. I have never sent a wedding anniversary card to anyone outside of these big ones.

Perhaps they don't like you and wish you hadn't married their son?

For the love...none of my children are married yet, but is this really a thing? I'll have to remember their anniversaries and make a thing of them?

Then yes, I think this is your get out of jail free card to no longer wish them happy anniversary.

If DH wants to keep wishing them that’s his choice, don’t have a word with him about it.

Does Dh get annoyed if you don’t wish his family?

Perhaps it is not deliberate and they forgot or have bigger stuff going on.
If you are so quick to take offence, you will fall out with a lot of people during your life unneccessarily.

Getting this upset about not getting a happy anniversary on a whatsapp group is slightly worrying. Do something nice together and don't be so obsessed with what everyone else gets/does

If you really want to get your own back, don't wish them a happy anniversary

This is insane sorry OP. The only person who needs to remember is your partner.

My entire family and my in laws forget our anniversary. Guess who cares? Nobody because it’s our anniversary! Likewise I don’t remember anyone elses! You really need to get some perspective if this has upset you this much as it’s not normal. My MIL forgot my sons birthday this year and felt terrible about it, I’m sure you’d have cut her off there and then even tho she apologized and had sent his gift she just forgot to call.

I don’t know. My Mil and Fil always sent a card or rang on our anniversary. It was their way of letting us know that they supported our marriage and that we were important to them. I would approach this with a sense of humour, though, along the lines of “Oi! Can we get some recognition for hanging in there for 2 years? 😆”

Seriously OP don't u have bigger fish to fry? Just get over it already

It's yours not theirs, I don't see the issue. Some people don't go in for celebrating others' anniversaries

YABVU. Only you and your DH need to remember your anniversary. Your family need some more interest in their own lives…

I don't get offended when my family forget my wedding anniversary. Its only important to me and DH really.
But it's annoying when they gush over each others and I don't even get a text. And the inlaws are worse as SiL got married on our anniversary, and her anniversary has totally replaced ours.

I can barely remember my own anniversary let alone anyone else’s

No 🤪

My mum usually remembers but forgot this year and we didn’t care! My husband and I wish each other happy anniversary in person and have a meal out, we don’t do cards and don’t text it to each other so why would we expect others to remember! Remembering others anniversaries isn’t normal IMO.

If you were my in-law I’d find you batshit and really rude for texting that. Why do you need recognition off me? 2 years isn’t exactly long either…

Since when, in the history of ever, should anyone be buying anyone else an anniversary card? It's your anniversary, not theirs!

Never heard of this before

I'm afraid you are making a massive mountain out of a molehill. My in laws do always remember our wedding anniversary, which is nice, because my wife and I usually don't! My family certainly don't, nor would I expect them to.

Stop being such a precious spoilt diva !! Its your anniversary not theirs, why should anyone else remember! How old are you ? FFS

If you keep getting entire threads all saying the same thing, consider who is the problem.

Find better ways to occupy your time other than creating drama with your husbands relatives over absolutely nothing.

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Christ I barely remember mine own, let alone anyone else's! Didn't get or expect any acknowledgement from anyone, was actually surprised she remembered, and at this time of year especially when there's so much going on, I really wouldn't expect anyone to think twice about someone else's wedding anniversary. That's for you and your DH to celebrate as you see fit, nothing to do with anyone else, family or not.

JFC is this real?

They forgot your WA. Boo hoo.

Go NC with them, they’ll probably be grateful.

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Oh good god. Leave the WhatsApp. If you don’t like his family why are you on it anyway? You sound like a teenager. Wedding anniversaries are for you and your DH, I have literally never wished anyone else a happy anniversary unless I’ve been at some kind of party.

I can’t believe how many people are on here who seem so petty about these things, especially with regard to inlaws. If you buy someone a nice present, or wish them a happy anniversary it should be because you want to give them something or because you are genuinely happy for them. Not because you’re looking for an excuse to bellyache when they don’t reply in exactly the same way 6 months later.