Married 2 years. DHs family forgot our anniversary. Mine remembered.

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DH's family forgot our anniversary, only been married 2 years. They remember all other important dates. But no effort for us. My family all remembered first thing in the morning and sent us both messages.

Should i bring this up to DH? I just want to tell my in laws where to stick it!!

Could this be my chance to distance myself from them? My get out of jail free card? I never liked them from the beginning.

They obviously forgot.

Honestly who cares? other than the OP

It was never a thing in my family to do anything for other people's wedding anniversaries but it was in my husband's. It was my in-laws that sent cards mine never did but no offence was intended. Different families have different customs- like visiting graves with flowers his family do, mine don't.

Someone always remembers in the whatsapp group and we all tend to send a message. It's not me expecting special treatment.

😂 poor you..

I never liked them from the beginning.

Maybe they've picked up on this, maybe they don't really like you either.

Why does it matter though? Live is far too short to think about this.

Entitled...

It's comes across as a bit needy to be honest. Crack open a bottle of wine with your DH and salute your anniversary. Please do not make some passive agressivd comment on the WhatsApp group as you will come across........erm.....not well.

@crossroads1 This would not be hill I would die on - if you want to tell them to stick it I would find a better ( or the real ) reason , even if you do have a Whatsapp group. I never remember my DB's anniversary date ( I know which month. ) I remember my parents' only because because it is the same day as mine.

You don't like them - that's allowed but this to me would be a petulant excuse.

Don't be so silly. The only person who cares is the person you married.

I forgot my two year wedding anniversary. I think it was a bit of a gift for DH because several years later he still brings it up 😂

We never remember our own anniversary let alone anyone else's! MIL always sends a card which triggers our memories. DP don't remember ours either.

That's disgusting behaviour . I'd be getting on that what's app group and telling them all what a bunch of absolute cunts they are. No way would I let that go

I think if everyone else gets a mention, it's only right you guys do too.

I can see why that's aggravating, OP.

YABU nobody cares about anniversaries unless they are their own

I have no idea when any family members' anniversaries are, with the exception of my youngest sibling, and that's only because his second child was born on the same date a year later and my SIL made a joke about how she wasn't sure if she could keep up the same standard of anniversary gifts every year after setting the bar so high on the first one 😂😂

Its absolutely not a thing in my family. i wouldn't expect anyone but me and H to remember it.

Its lovely your family remembered, everyone including me and my husband forgot our 1st anniversary and that has now happened every year.

We get to September and think oh we forgot again got married in August, its now become a standing joke and is funny.

You choosing to distance yourself from your Husbands family over this as you don't like them is totally up to you, but you could be making a huge mistake unless your Husband has your back.

this is not about remembering purely our anniversary.

They all remember eachothers and we are the newest married couple in the group. There are 10 of us in there - 6 of us being couples where wishes are ALWAYS exchanged. Whether its 2 years, 8, 10, 15 whatever.

I have always made an effort for every single one of them.

This is what i'm getting at! Thank you!

Lol!
Me and Dh hardly remember our anniversary never mind anyone else!!

They’re probably hoping you’ll distance yourself….🤣

Never occurred to me that wider family should remember wedding anniversaries tbh. I'd always assumed it was just the couple.

This! My parents had one parent and 9 siblings between them but never once did an anniversary card arrive at our door!

So have you or Dh ever remembered anyone else's and been in the first to message them? Or do you both rely on someone else messaging first?

DH should be sorting messages and gifts etc so YANBU to leave it all to him.

I don't think my parents or my in laws ever remembered our anniversary - why would they be expected to? I don't think I can remember my daughter's wedding anniversary but it was her special day not mine.