Married 2 years. DHs family forgot our anniversary. Mine remembered.

[crossroads1]

DH's family forgot our anniversary, only been married 2 years. They remember all other important dates. But no effort for us. My family all remembered first thing in the morning and sent us both messages.

Should i bring this up to DH? I just want to tell my in laws where to stick it!!

Could this be my chance to distance myself from them? My get out of jail free card? I never liked them from the beginning.

You clearly really, really, really want an anniversary mention as others apparently get one, you even started a thread on it . 👀👀👀😂

Sounds like you're just looking for an excuse to distance yourself from your inlaws!

Good God OP.

Get a grip.

You're having a ridiculous over-reaction to a complete non-issue.

I think it's nice for parents to remember their own DC's wedding anniversary, but as pps have said @crossroads1 most people aren't arsed about other peoples anniversaries. My older DD got married last summer, and we got her and her DH a 1st anniversary card, and she ALWAYS gets us a card for our wedding anniversary. So does our other DD.

It's not hugely common for people to buy wedding anniversary cards for others, but I would think that children/adult children probably would for their parents, and vice versa... Parents would buy for their adult children. JMHO.

Distancing yourself from them because they didn't get you a card is a bit pathetic though - sorry Seems harsh. Does your DH know how much you loathe them? Could it be because you have made your feelings clear that they CBA with a card or greeting for you? 😬

Happy Anniversary by the way.

Two years is nothing though. They probably only remember everyone else's because they've been happening and talked about for a lot longer than that. I have a friend like you who says nothing until the date has passed, then tries to guilt/shame everyone for forgetting. If it is important to you, drop it into conversation beforehand. Don't sit quietly testing people.

Perhaps they don't much like you either, so it's win- win for everyone 😉

That’s quite rare. I struggle to remember my own, although my husband usualky does, one year we both forgot.😂 I’d think our daughter had lost her mind if she got me an anniversary card.

You are being unreasonable. It's really not a big deal to anyone but you and your husband. It's nice if people remember. Not important if they don't.

You say in your OP that you don't like them, you never have and you're looking for an excuse to "tell them to stick it."

With a relationship like that, why in God's name would you expect them to wish you a happy anniversary, @crossroads1 ?

"Yay, let's celebrate the day that DIL who hates us officially joined the family..."
^ said no one ever.

Why should anyone remember/care about celebrating your anniversary except the two of you?! I've never understood this. It is a celebration between you two. As long as you both remembered, that should be all that matters. It sounds like you are looking for an excuse to tell your in-laws 'where to stick it' because you simply don't like them. Time to grow up and stop causing drama where there isn't any!

In our family WhatsApp, if someone forgot then one of the couple would say "It's our anniversary today!" and that would be it.

It really isn't!

MHO is it's a complete waste of money, how does it add to your anniversary?

Distance yourself from them because they didn't say Happy Anniversary? Talk about dramatic.

My ex father in-law forgot we were married...after 5 years...and he introduced me to a friend of his as ex husband's girlfriend.

He was at our wedding, too.

I think you should focus on the fact that your own family remembered. And presumably your DH remembered.

As others have said - your comment... I never liked them from the beginning - its probably very obvious to them.

Why not do a test? Congratulate your DH on the WhatsApp group Were any of his family bridesmaids, or groomsmen.. congratulate them too. You'll have your answer and see who responds.

What does your DH think?

I understand that you are hurt, but If you've only been married two years, it seems a bit harsh to cut yourselves off from his whole family... especially over such a small issue.

This is not worth fighting over. Don't stress over a whatsapp. Focus on the good things in your life with your DH.

I think you’d find it difficult to find anyone who didn’t laugh at you when you said you distanced yourself from your in laws because they didn’t say happy anniversary. I also can’t imagine you’d have a third anniversary if you tried to cut off your husband’s family for that reason. Of course it’s frustrating if you feel you’re being treated differently but I think you need to gain a bit of perspective as this really isn’t a big deal.

Your family are weirder for remembering

It's really not terribly important, OP.

Even though it seems to you as if everyone else gets the anniversary wishes except you two. It still really isn't terribly important.

Bridezilla is alive and kicking ..... two years later...

Really hoping you are joking why would anyone remember your wedding anniversary but you.

Lol! Thanks, i needed that!

This.

You sound ridiculous OP.

It was very nice that your family acknowledged your anniversary- but I wouldn’t usually expect anyone to acknowledge/celebrate my wedding anniversary apart from my husband and perhaps children.

You should worry, my in laws sent an anniversary card for my husband and ex's anniversary date. Luckily I'm an adult with a sense of humour, grow up.................