AIBU to absolutely hate people being in my house

[PullUpTheDrawbridge]

I mean I totally hate it. Any form of guest (except family) has me muttering expletives under my breath or in my head within 20 mins. I just want them OUT!

That really made me laugh!

People here still actually drop in on others - they don't need to make an appointment as seems so common in MNland, where people don't even bother to answer the door!!

Some people do that and many people are busy so don’t have the time or energy (physically, mentally, and/or emotionally) for visitors. More people also wfh so can’t just drop everything for a chat, two working parents with children in morning and after school care, children activities, caring responsibilities, etc and many of these people are still socialising in some way, just not as much at home.

I struggle to understand why some people think others should be social in every environment including the privacy of their own home and if they rather not, there must be something wrong with them even if they are sociable everywhere but.

People have preferences and know how much they can give of themselves so why judge those who don’t have the same capacity as if it is a failing of sorts not to feel comfortable or like something others do.

I agree...

I am autistic and I have had to do a lot of work on the money-pit old house that I bought recently. Having workmen walk all around the house, use my bathroom and mess up my rugs has been torture.

I manage to 'train' my handyman to remove his shoes or wear building shoe covers but the others constantly forget...

Why is it some of you think this is weird if you are NT? Despite popular narrative, NT doesn't equate to, 'must be absolutely comfortable with everything other NT people do because all NT people are exactly the same', you know.
NT people still have trauma, depression or other reasons. They aren't some homogeneous mass that have this easy life where everything ND people find difficult is a walk in the park.

I don't think it's weird in the sense of being very unusual. It's only being on MN that has taught me how surprisingly widespread a feeling it is. I do think it's weird in the sense that it feels like it's quite a recent phenomenon that it's so widespread. Human beings are in many ways very isolated compared with how we must once have been, and people ard finding ever more ways of keeping others at a physical distance. However much people say 'You do you', 'People have their own issues' etc, research seems to indicate that this isolation is actually really, really bad for us.

@LiarLiarKnickersAblaze

Your assessment of the distinction between introverts vs extroverts which translates roughly as "introverts = good, extroverts = assholes" would be hilarious if it wasn't so worrying.

You seem not to have the most basic grasp of what these two classifications even mean. Introvert doesn't automatically equate to being shy/anxious/antisocial and extrovert doesn't automatically equate to being loud and socially confident.

Maybe do a bit of reading around a subject before you shoot a whole bunch of people down on the internet because you think they are not like you.

@Thepeopleversuswork your latest post is actually quite ironic, well done!

https://fb.watch/oSHDx0jkHQ/?

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OP i get it!!

i am exactly the same, the EFFORT required to make sure the house is TIP TOP as if it's about to be marked outta 10.

i completely redecorated my kids bedrooms thinking it would make it easier to have playdates. That was 2 summers ago and we've had mates over once.

I could have written your description... i can FEEL everything!! its too much!! i need my safe space back!

The whole experience (including thinking about it beforehand) feels jarring.