I can understand if you’re ND, but if you’re not, what’s with never allowing anyone into your home? Different strokes for different folks I know, but it’s oddly antisocial and weird. I’m hoicking up my judgey-pants.
I allow people in my home if I have to but I don’t particularly like to. I prefer going out and meeting up with people somewhere instead. I’m also not fussed about going to their homes either and rather not because there seems to be an unspoken expectation that you must invite them to yours if you go to theirs. I will also be the one that travels to wherever a friend is if that means they don’t come over.
I’m social everywhere else and have spent many years working public-facing jobs but when I come home, the only people I want to be social with in person is my family. Also, with the oldest (8) being autistic, it’s difficult. With his sensory issues he gets upsets out of the blue, once a day or every other day and starts moaning and shrieking, slamming doors, and throwing himself all over his room and the landing outside. He also doesn’t like wearing clothes so is often walking around in his underwear and has a tendency to twiddle with his privates through them and unfortunately takes them out occasionally no matter how many times DH and I have tried to stop such behaviour. He does these things at home but not outside of it (thankfully).
I barely like having family stay but that’s more due to not taking our schedules or the way things are set up for the children into consideration, telling me they’ve done something instead of asking, and ignoring what I’ve said about things in the house and causing more work for me.