Regifted baby gift, is this off or am I just tired!

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Ok this is mostly lighted because clearly it’s not important and written by a very tired Mum of a newborn who is probably extremely irrational and over thinking everything! I received a gift from a friend which was obviously regifted as you can’t buy the brand anymore and it is completely the wrong season for baby and sized for a toddler, not a newborn. The family have a very nice life style, so it’s not that they couldn’t afford anything. I’m all for regifting but this is not something I can use and it’s totally obvious it wasn’t bought just now. Now I’ve got to take it to the charity shop and not the one in the small village we live in, in case she sees it there! I have always bought very nice thoughtful gifts for the children in this family as well. Is this a a little bit off or AIBU?

That’s true as well good point. Not clothes but The Range have wilko things in there.

The OP has had a first baby, admits to being tired and probably emotional. I completely understand why she might feel disappointed that a 'friend' has gifted/re-gifted an item from a company that no longer exists and is unlikely to fit at the correct time. Personally, I feel that's quite thoughtless and rude behaviour (by the 'friend').

Congratulations on your new bundle of joy.
Yes, lots of opinions but I confess I'd feel as you do and I'm not tired and emotional.
Some people make little effort with gifts and I always find that disappointing as I go above and beyond to find just the right thing. Having said that, perhaps the recipient doesn't think so 😅🤣

Me too. My go to baby gift bag is a pack of vests (or muslin squares, or easy fasten babygro) because they are cheap and you can’t have enough of them in the early days and because that’s a super boring gift, something 6-12 months appropriate for the season the child will be that age.

Maybe the donor has alot going on and this is the best she could manage right now.

I actually think this is off.

A gift should be made with thought and generosity. Doesn't have to be expensive but something that's bought or made specifically with the recipient in mind.

Not here's some old tat that I found in my drawer, I'll just give them that.

Definitely over thinking. Sizes are absolutely meaningless tbh, they vary from item to item and shop to shop. I would only be offended if the item was hideous. You're definitely overthinking, but you're allowed to. You've just had a baby, your brain will be in overdrive. Congratulations. X

Can you not keep it for when it fits. I always buy clothes that are older as you always get too much in one size. I never buy newborn or 0 to 3. If I know someone is expecting I often buy in sales, so get more for the money. Making sure it will be the right season. I once bought a baby gift which I then never used then got the chance 2 years later. Does not really matter when they buy it. Nothing wrong with regifting.

Wow thats really ungrateful! Can't you just put it in the wardrobe with their other clothes?

Personally I think some people just enjoy being offended.

I think that's very unkind, in the circumstances.

I'd say that very few things are really summer only, what with holidays, the fact that some indoor places (especially soft plays) can be really hot inside. Summer clothes are fine for layering in winter (tights and long sleeved vest/top under "summer" clothes works well.

I can think of plenty of winter only items (snow suits, thick knitted sweaters) but really struggling to think of only summer items.

I was referring to you.

The OP has admitted that she is being irrational.

Why would you be referring to me? I'm not the OP or 'offended'.
But, if I had a new baby and a 'friend' couldn't put a little bit more effort (not referring to cost) into their gift, I would feel hurt and definitely wouldn't 'enjoy' the sensation.
In anycase I don't feel the OP is being irrational and neither do 50% here. Fairly even split, which would suggest, by your reckoning that 50% of people 'just enjoy being offended'

@randomsabreuse , cotton knits are summer only - they take too long to dry in the winter.

Exactly, you're theoretically in a huff about this and you can't even blame postpartum hormones.

I'm glad I'm not friends with the people who think this is a normal thing to be offended by. Sounds like very hard work.

Suspect you might be over-thinking it.

It's pretty common to get gifts for new babies in larger sizes. In the view that babies grow quickly, and thinking you'll be bogged down with newborn stuff that they quickly outgrow, but then find you've got nothing for the subsequent sizes.
Do the math, does the size of the item match the season it'll be when your child gets to that age? For instance, for a newborn now, if I wanted to get something in the 6-9 month size, I'd be looking for Spring/Summer items.

I assume you understand how MN works? The OP asked for opinions. All those who think it's a bit shabby to gift something from old stock that is possibly not going to fit at the right time, aren't 'in a huff' they're merely voicing their, asked for, opinions which differ from yours.
You, on the other hand, are very attacking of those who don't share your views. Saying that you're glad you're not friends with those who differ as it must be 'hard work' isn't very friendly or even necessary.
The point of MN surely is to garner opinion and at the end of the day we're all different, in this particular case 50/50.

Have you ever had a baby?

"Possibly not going to fit at the right time" could apply to literally any item of clothing you might give a new parent. But if it's toddler sized then it most likely will fit at some point.