Regifted baby gift, is this off or am I just tired!

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Ok this is mostly lighted because clearly it’s not important and written by a very tired Mum of a newborn who is probably extremely irrational and over thinking everything! I received a gift from a friend which was obviously regifted as you can’t buy the brand anymore and it is completely the wrong season for baby and sized for a toddler, not a newborn. The family have a very nice life style, so it’s not that they couldn’t afford anything. I’m all for regifting but this is not something I can use and it’s totally obvious it wasn’t bought just now. Now I’ve got to take it to the charity shop and not the one in the small village we live in, in case she sees it there! I have always bought very nice thoughtful gifts for the children in this family as well. Is this a a little bit off or AIBU?

Honestly you don’t know that - baby and toddler sizes are utterly random

I actually don’t think you’re being that unreasonable if it turns out it doesn’t fit when it should (ie next summer). I had a lot things bought like this and at the time I suspected it wouldn’t fit. I waited to see but I was right. I was appreciative and tried to get plenty of wear out of every single gift (sending photos to whoever got each one initially) so I was a bit annoyed at the waste of money tbh, because I definitely couldn’t put my daughter in thinner strappy summer dresses in winter. But I was happy to take them to a charity shop for another little one to get some wear out of them. I do agree with posters though that some babies do have sudden growth spurts. My first stayed along the same average centile line though, as I predicted.

As for the regifting, it’s not something I do personally but can understand the reasons why some feel the need to. If I’m being totally honest though, not that I’d ever say it out loud in real life but it is a bit disappointing when it happens and the gift giver has given something that really isn’t you and they have plenty of money. But I can still appreciate why they might do it for the environment, if money doesn’t seem to be an object.

Congratulations btw!

Remember that clothing from companies who have gone bust can still be bought in other stores. Boots, for example, sell Mothercare clothing in their mini range. So don't be too fast to judge.

Can tell this is your first baby, one of mine was in age 3-4 at 2 and a half and my son was in size 2-3 at age 4 nearly 5,

Remember that even summer wear can be layered up and worn in winter. My girls are always in dresses with a polo neck underneath and tights.

Oh and sell it on rather than charity shop? Then you can give the money to charity if that's your goal.

I would feel the same as you OP seems not very thoughtful . Take it to the local charity shop and give it equally as little thought.

I would agree with others that you have no idea about finances. Not really. Particularly now with a COL crisis. I have a nice lifestyle and a large house and some obvious big expenses (private school!!!) but with everything going on our incomes have taken a big hit for a couple of reasons. We have alot of other peoples children to buy for over Christmas and it is actually starting to be a big worry and concern and I have started selling things (and enquired about a Saturday morning job in our local jewellery store in the run up to Christmas.. hope to hear today) in the hope we can mitigate as much as possible. I know that sounds first world problems but my point is that unless you are someone's accountant you don't actually know what their finances are.

I’m all for regifting but this is not something I can use and it’s totally obvious it wasn’t bought just now.

Why can’t you use it? I always buy (brand new) toddler size clothes in off season sale for newborns! I figure that new parents will be swamped with newborn clothes and they grow so quickly, so instead of adding to that pile I always thought getting a nice toddler piece for them to put away was sensible. In order to get a really nice piece that would normally be over budget I get offseason thinking it won’t matter as they are only going to be putting it away anyway, it’s not for now. For example I will get a really decent toddler winter coat at a 50% discount in summer.

I’ve also been ‘guilty’ of getting some really nice pieces at high end closing down sales and putting them away thinking someone I know at some point will have a baby and I’ll be able to give them a smashing gift (again, toddler size so as not to add to the newborn pile). It never crossed my mind people would think I was regifting!!

If it's something like a thick snowsuit in a size around what your baby might be next summer then ynbu as that's completely thoughtless.

Yes and I agree with @HoppingPavlova about seeing nice things and putting them away for 'someone'. I used to have a 'gift drawer' when I was more organised. Nice little things on sale that would come in handy one day.

Lighthearted or not yes you're unreasonable. You have absolutely no idea what size clothing your child will be wearing in the summer. To be honest I'm racking my brains to think of how you can be 100% certain an item of clothing won't be used when you're baby is only a few weeks old and coming up short, it just sounds like you're cross because you think it was regifted so you're making up an excuse to get rid of it.

Unless it’s the small sizes (like up to 6m) you have absolutely no idea. Also it’s sometimes snows in March and other years it’s a heatwave. Sometimes September is chilly, other years it’s an Indian summer. I basically keep clothes I’ve been gifted and don’t use to regift as it’s such a waste. Half my kids wardrobe is clothes with the tags still on.

If your not happy with it sell it on Vinted and buy something you want.

i try and get most of the clothes I buy on there (even gifts) it’s much better from a sustainability point of view.

just keep it,
see if it is suitable at a later date.

Like a lot of people have said, I always buy bigger sizes because they grow out of the baby ones so quickly. And as for seasons, every baby / child grows differently, so it's impossible to predict, but a summer outfit should be pretty safe. Unless it's a swimming costume I can't imagine an outfit that wouldn't work in winter, with extra layers for outdoors obviously. Maybe add a long-sleeved babygro underneath and a cardigan on top if your house is cold.

I despise stinginess so would be irritated too.

Sounds like it is something your child will grow into rather than a new born Summer outfit which will be far too small. Can you share the size? Babies grow at different rates and Summer can start in June and last well into September... You sound very picky.

Your baby might be bigger or smaller than average and so you might find that your baby does fit into the outfit at the right season. It’s not uncommon for some babies to be at least 3-6 months bigger/ smaller in size. You can never be sure if the weather either, we might have an unseasonably hot spring/ autumn. I’d just put the outfit away until nearer the time rather than assuming now whilst baby is a newborn it won’t be suitable for them as a toddler,

you’ll probably end up using it. I’d hold on for now.

I usually buy bigger sizes when friends have babies. It wasn’t until I had my own baby that I realised I was buying sizes in a season that wouldn’t fit the baby at that time- Christmas outfit that would end up fitting them in summer and being too small at Christmas.

It’s not that I hadn’t put thought into the gifts, it was more I bought what looked nice without working out ages etc.

I was gifted lots of bigger sizes when my baby girl was born. Some of the stuff I did regift as it wasn’t my taste/ wouldn’t fit but I usually bought something else and that was just added in the bundle.

I agree with PP - I think you were expecting an expensive gift from your rich friend and were annoyed you didn’t get one. But she could have been in masses of debt for all you know.

I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. If she’s a kind and caring friend otherwise then that’s what’s
important - not how much she spent on a gift your kid will wear a couple of times before growing out of it.

You sound like you are determined to write it off as worthless OP.

You are being typical "new mum" not wanting a regifted item.

Reality is you can get warm summery weather from april through September, toddler sizing is less variable and they don't outgrow it as fast, its also far less easy to predict what size your child will/wont fit. My eldest i had to size up, youngest was always a size or two down.

Its a perfectly reasonable gift and you don't have to give it to the charity shop but if you prefer to thats your choice.