Regifted baby gift, is this off or am I just tired!

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Ok this is mostly lighted because clearly it’s not important and written by a very tired Mum of a newborn who is probably extremely irrational and over thinking everything! I received a gift from a friend which was obviously regifted as you can’t buy the brand anymore and it is completely the wrong season for baby and sized for a toddler, not a newborn. The family have a very nice life style, so it’s not that they couldn’t afford anything. I’m all for regifting but this is not something I can use and it’s totally obvious it wasn’t bought just now. Now I’ve got to take it to the charity shop and not the one in the small village we live in, in case she sees it there! I have always bought very nice thoughtful gifts for the children in this family as well. Is this a a little bit off or AIBU?

Define "summer," though.

I mean, t shirts and things do get worn as layers all year round. Swim wear gets worn all the time if you go to the pool.

I always gave larger things because new parents get snowed under with teeny, cute little newborn things and very little for when they get older.

She may have forgotten to buy a gift and had to go and raid the "stuff for regifting" that lives in most people's wardrobe or storage cupboard.

If she is a nice friend generally, I really wouldn't dwell on this.

If you are spending a lot of time giving people "thoughtful" gifts, do this because you actually enjoy shopping - don't use it as a reason to get arsey when people don't give reciprocal gifts that meet your standards.

Good points about people gifting bigger sizes and the might still fit etc Although, I still would think that they hadn’t bothered to work out which season it would be when my baby was that age and I do think it is a bit disappointing when you go to so much effort for their DC. Well now you know.

The reason people are well off is that they dont waste money.

They were gifted an item they couldnt use to passed it on. You cant use it either so....refgift yourself.

I mean, if it was me and they were probably going to have another baby I would regift it back to a) make a point and b) see if they mentioned it!

But if not, wait until someone you know can use it, and give it to them saying it was a gift you were given but you cant use so hope that they can, buying something else as well if you want to. Or pop it on Vinted.

As for sizes, I always buy a large pack of muslins and a pack of sleepsuits in size 9-12 months as a newborn gift!

You don’t know when hot weather will come next year or what size clothes your baby will be in at that point. If you like it, hang onto it.

It's not necessarily regifted ...I definitely pick things up here and there if I see a good bargain and I keep them in a box for future gifts. I'm sure I would have some out of season items that I would still gift on!

YANBU. I would stop putting thought into their gifts. Buy cheaply in the sale.

But you don't know how big your baby will be.
You have newborn mother brain!
Dd was perfectly normal sized and he at normal speed until she was 1.5 ish then just didn't grow at a normal rate. Aged 6.5 she's in age 3-4 trousers! I'm tall and my son was always much bigger sized than his age at 4 he was in age 6-7.
If you hate the gift in terms of style or whatever that's one issue but don't go on the size. I was given truly grotesque age 3-4 tracksuit things for my son when he was a week old. ( these were very definitely the last dregs of the sale). Stuffed them in the drawer years later they were ok for sleeping in or roaming the garden where it didn't matter what they looked like or if they were a good fit.

I remember someone (who I thought of as a close friend) came to see our newborn baby when we got home. Our baby was born in a very hot and sunny May and weighed around 7lbs. The friend gave us a present for baby- the thickest Christmastastic woollen hat and the size was 4 years! Yes my child would eventually reach that size, by the time 4 years had passed I'd no idea where we'd put that hat anyway. It was given to us stuffed in a Sainsbury's bag so felt like she'd grabbed a random thing on her way to visit. I didn't feel offended or hurt just a bit confused. The point is some people give seemingly odd gifts sometimes but we just have to hope there's been no malice in it. Hopefully your friend has not meant anything unkind with her gift either and you could maybe keep it for when baby is bigger.

Keep it just incase, your baby could be bigger / smaller and it might end up fitting them. I got my 4 month old loads of Christmas clothes in 3-6 months and they are all too small, he was small when he was born so would never of imagined they wouldn’t fit. They can be in different sizes than you think.

It might not be a regift, it could be something they’d got in a sale. And gifting toddler stuff when they know you likely have loads of small baby stuff shows some thought I think. What is the item and what size? DS wore the same pairs of 18-24 months shorts the summer he was 1.5 and again the summer he was 2.5. He’s nearly 3 and lots of his winter jumpers as well as his coat are being worn for the second year in a row. I think you’re wrong to make assumptions it won’t fit. If you just don’t like it though then that’s something else entirely and give it to the charity shop, no big deal.

Sizes of baby clothes are bizarre. Ds was born in May, and his first winter has two snowsuits. One was 6-9 months (thick puffer type), the other 12-18 months ( fleecy type). Both gifted, both fitted at the same time. No way would the 12-18 month have fitted the following winter when he would have been 18 months.

I have a gift stash of things for nieces and nephews I pick up in the sales. I would assume it's this rather than a regift and that the sizing was intentional knowing you'd have lots of newborn things. It doesn't sound like it was done with a lack of care from your description. I'd put this down to exhausted overthinking op and shove it in your cupboard in case it does fit come summer. Babies and toddler sizing can be wildly unpredictable after all!

Maybe she found a retailer that still had some pieces of the brand? I can often locate hard to find because they are no longer made items.

Maybe she keeps a box of things for gifts as a go to for when she needs one? I do this with cards.

You might be surprised and find your baby fits it at the right time.

Toddler sizes generally last longer so there’s a good chance it could fit at the right time or if there is an early or late bit of good weather it may come in useful.

I would check the actual size of the item. Kids Kids sizes are random.
My petite 6 year old is in sizes from 18-24 months to 8 years old, depending on brand….

Toddler sizes generally span 6 months so there is a good chance it will get used. Just hang on to it for now. Mine didn't necessarily wear clothes at the age the size label said anyway.

My 7 year old still wears jumpers his brother wore when he was 4.

My 11 year old wears adult clothes and is already taller than me.

Don't go by sizing - just say thank you and put it away,you may well need it!

Congratulations on your new baby 💐

Definitely don't dismiss it based on the size just yet. DD has just turned 2 and is currently wearing the clothes in size 3 to 4 years old that DS was still wearing last month (he's almost 6!)

You don’t know what size your baby will be in the summer though - or the summer after! Or when you might book a holiday. I think you’re overthinking and being ungrateful. Give it to charity if you really don’t want it but honestly I’d keep it, I have a bag of bigger sized clothes for baby and toddler, you never know when they might come in handy. They go through clothes surprisingly quickly especially as they get older! I used to love it when we got given stuff in the bigger sizes, less wasteful than the small ones.

What summer item won't fit? Please tell us and we'll let you know if best tucked away or donated.......

Toddler sizes can fit for months and you can't say what size your baby will be at that age. I had one still in 9-12 month clothes age 2 and another who was the size ahead at all times. A toddler item is highly likely to fit for more than one season. No need to get rid yet. Maybe it was an item they particularly liked so they sourced. Even if it was a re gift no big deal tbh

I wouldn’t read too much into it personally. A lot of people (myself included in the past!) may not think too much into what baby will need to wear when according to the seasons. They will just buy something they think is nice.
Depending on the brand, as others have said some retailers may still have it available. For example I got my baby things from Boots quite recently that were Mothercare branded, having thought they closed down completely.

How can you be sure it won't fit your child in summer, either this year or next?

It might have been purchased from ebay/vinted. Or yes it might have been REGIFTED! SHOCK HORROR!

As long as it hasn't got poop stains on it I'd just keep it and see if it fits when the time comes. Then charity shop it.

Ah overthinking

It’s not unusual to get newborns stuff for bigger babies / toddlers - they need more stuff then, and it’s more interesting stuff