Regifted baby gift, is this off or am I just tired!

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Ok this is mostly lighted because clearly it’s not important and written by a very tired Mum of a newborn who is probably extremely irrational and over thinking everything! I received a gift from a friend which was obviously regifted as you can’t buy the brand anymore and it is completely the wrong season for baby and sized for a toddler, not a newborn. The family have a very nice life style, so it’s not that they couldn’t afford anything. I’m all for regifting but this is not something I can use and it’s totally obvious it wasn’t bought just now. Now I’ve got to take it to the charity shop and not the one in the small village we live in, in case she sees it there! I have always bought very nice thoughtful gifts for the children in this family as well. Is this a a little bit off or AIBU?

It can be safely stored with all the other clothes the child will have (most of which they'll grow out of within a matter of weeks), creating even more space.
We're not talking about finding an inordinate amount of space here.

Keep it until yours reaches that age, you never know how a baby will grow or the seasons now. If it is the right size for that season all well and good. If it isn’t, you could mention to her that it is a shame it either doesn’t fit or is not the season, so she knows, then give it to a charity shop.

I think the problem here isn't that the gifter thought ahead and gifted based on how quick babies grow. It's the fact that the brand doesn't even exist anymore which makes it clear it was just thoughtless regifting. If I was a new mum, I'd be a bit miffed too.

None of that matters.

That would irritate me, I would ask for the gift receipt (on off chance it isn’t regifted) so you can change it or leave it in the local charity shop; I wouldn’t be bothered if they saw it or not. I find re-gifting really stingy and don’t like to at all.

Eh... I bought my nice an outfit 2 sizes up for a different season for Xmas.

It certainly not re-gifted (I WISH I had had it for my kids, its GEORGOUS but only in baby sizes and my youngest is a toddler).

Curious what brand it is, most have closed their physical stores but moved online, some have combined into other shops but still exist... like Mothercare is still sold in Boots.

It does to the OP 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think I'd keep hold of it, you honestly don't know what size your baby will be when.
I've two short kids, usually a size down from where they 'should' be. Things that in theory should have fitted their first winter actually fitted their second. And their must be people the other way round tall babies who grow into things very quickly.

And if you think Ladies clothing sizes can be a bit off. Baby clothes can be wild!

Why can’t you keep it and use it when they grow into it?

Is it mothercare brand? Because boots actually bought their clothing brand and now sell mothercare clothing as well as their own miniclub.

Yes, you cannot guarantee that it won't be OK, with the longer summers, and babies do grow at different sizes. You are probably in a group that are having babies, so keep it and if it is not used re-gift it yourself perhaps

I’m like you OP I wouldn’t give a gift that would likely be out of season. For me that’s more of an issue than it being regifted as it doesn’t seem like there’s been any thought.

I’ve saved my son’s clothes for my new baby but their birthdays are 6 months apart so the nice snowsuits I have saved will likely be useless since they’re too big for a newborn and he’ll likely be too big next year. I’d be a bit confused if someone gifted me winter clothes for a 6 month old when my baby is born.

I always buy 6-9 month for a newborn gift...id never buy newborn as think the parents buy it and baby our if newborn clothes so quick

I get it. You feel that they put a lack of thought in in it and maybe they did. Like the saying goes you shouldn't give to receive and I always spend within my budget no matter who I am buying for. I'd keep a hold of the item just now incase it will be of use, if not you can always donate. Next time you buy something for a member of their family spend only what you are happy to.

When I had my third baby I got loads of clothes from my husbands aunt from Next but they were the wrong season and my baby was bigger than average. I was able to get the value on a gift card and then spent it on things she needed. It's for this reason that if people want to gift clothes I ask for a bigger size or better yet suggest a gift card (only if my parents or mil were asking).

I've never bought new born or 0-3 for new babies, I always buy a bigger size as you get loads of tiny stuff from first visitors. You will have a toddler before you know it, if you like it, then keep it, if it's not your style then gift it on

Regifted, charity shop find, bought for some reason but never used........

What does it matter?

So much waste in our world - I welcome any opportunity for people to avoid waste.

At the end of the day it's down to whether the person gifting is generally a good egg, means well, is a good friend.

My 20 month old is wearing a mix of 9-12m and 12-18m. They don’t just go by a text book of growing up!

I always pick up baby clothes when I like them and gift them whenever appropriate. And always buy 6 months to 18 months

Your baby will grow into it OP. Re-gifting is a sustainable thing to do and we need to prioritise our planet wherever possible.

I wouldn't assume it's regifted. TKMaxx sell some brands that aren't on the high street anymore as do Brand Alley and Secret Sales, as PP points out Mothercare still available in Boots, Debenhams still sold online etc, Catalogue Outlets still sell BHS etc...

I would say that's not such a bad regift, as they go... When my first child was born, friends gave us a Gift Voucher that had expired, as we discovered when we went to use it! (It had obviously been given to them for their toddler's birth, then lost &found or not used, and passed on to us!). I don't have any issue at all with regifting, but felt an out of date voucher was pushing it! 😅

I’ve been bought so many things for my twins that are seasonally/size incorrect! Someone bought my daughter a summer dress and by the time it fit it was November. Some people don’t think ahead that way.

Put these things on Vinted!

It’s probably been bought and put in the present drawer for when there’s a new baby. It’s a nice ,kind thing to do does not mean it’s been regifted. It’s the sort of thing I do.

And when giving clothes to the kids I always go up by at least 6 months for babies, or as they get older by 2years. Lots of my nieces and nephews are very tall for their age.

Me too @OhIlovetosew makes me think people will think my gifts are secondhand. I buy nice things when I see them and put them away in a drawer.