To think children should have their mothers surname

[Laurendelaney1987]

if the parents are not married. You did the hard work! Why the fuck should the child carry his name?

I think every child should have both partners name eg mr smith and ms Jones have a daughter

Rose Smith Jones

smith is middle name or the other way around

my child have my surname never regretted it

Did all the men in your birth family also ‘get shot’ of said difficult last name? Or are they all fine with it?

@Bature Well there aren't any men of my generation with the surname. Also the uncles who do have it are back in the old country where it's a bit more manageable.

My Dad actually changed his first name when he moved to the UK so he didn't have two unmanageable names.

Not my actual names but I basically went from Sophie Dziemianowicz to Sophie Gold and my life has been much easier ever since. Not sure what's unfeminist about making your life easier?

Also, anecdotally, as soon as I had a boring surname my success in applying for jobs and getting interviews went through the roof and I don't think it's coincidence...

Yanbu. I've never changed my name and my children have it.

This is exactly the type of annoying post where the poster declares - with the usual sense of superiority of other women - rlthat she knows best and why oh why oh why don't all women just doas their feminist betters tell.

Proof - if proof were needed - that the only thing feminists hate more than men is other women.

You don't have to agree with other women's choices, but a simple respect for them would be nice.

@Qwerty556

Proof - if proof were needed - that the only thing feminists hate more than men is other women.

Proof, if proof were needed, that you don't understand what feminism means. Fixed that for you.

I do think that we need to be challenged as women about our choices sometimes.

As we don’t live in a vacuum. Our choices make a difference to society for better or worse.

I’ve been judged and criticised for giving my children my surname.

Almost all women do not give their kids their surname. So this isn’t on the whole an individual choice. As if it were, it would be 50/50.

Thanks!

And me. But I don't know anyone IRL who has made the same choice.

Nobody has to change their last name upon marriage so why do it?!

@Quornflakegirl I didn't! I am also a...shock horror...married Ms!!!

@DialEmforMurder I couldn't agree with you more. I am also a married Ms...the amount of times I've been asked if I'm actually married is unreal!!
But we are the tiny minority sadly 😥

I agree but don’t think women should change their name at all either! I get really weirded out/disappointed when friends change their name after marriage.

@DialEmforMurder I think a lot of the issue is people just assume that they change their last name and title upon marriage "by default" without stopping to question it or indeed understand the traditional reasons behind it.

@Sconehenge What about when they change their title?

@keye "You don't have to agree with other women's choices, but a simple respect for them would be nice."

Showing respect for women is assuming by that they have the awareness and intelligence to see how their choices affect other women and the way women are perceived in society. And in this case, pointing out that a) you don't have to get married to change your name if you don't like it and b) no man has ever said "oh , my name is tricky to say and spell-I think I'll take my wife's name when I get married"

@LorlieS I’ve never really thought about that - probably because we don’t use titles on social media/in life except on forms. I don’t really mind a title change so much if you wanted to indicate you were married - as long as you kept your identity and own last name (or double barrelled). I just hate the sense of erasure of your own family and identity that removing your own last name suggests.

To suggest that women who change their names on marriage are not very intelligent is insulting. Thank you for proving my point.

@Sconehenge I'm married and a Ms - think it's ridiculous that men are always Mr regardless of marital status but women somehow feel the need for others to know. No idea why tbh?