To kick dh out after he invited an 18 yr old girl to our house last night and sha""ed her in my bed while I was on a night shift?

[totaleclipse]

Of course he says he only nearly did, but changed his mind at the last minute......yeah yeah whatever!!!!!!

i think you know what the right thing is to do. it will be hard but it gets easier over time being on your own but it will not bw permanant. take care and be strong. you know there is only one right decision here. if you fogive him ion time he will do it again as once they realise you will never leave them they will continue to do it. if he wants to make amends tell him he will have to move out and start all over again to build your trust, that is if you would do it.

(((((((((hug))))))))))

Oh my god what an arsehole

Shred his clothes and throw them out after him

please do not make excuses for him, he knew fine well what he was doing.

Thanks, am pretty sure this is the end, I refuse tobe a doormat.

Hope you gave the 18 yr old slag a few choice words also

are you absolutely sure it wasn't the two friends that shagged?

Oh my Gosh.
It's terrible and the only thing thats unreasonable is you even considering that you might be unreasonavble! (iykwim).
Fucking prick.

Holy Shit Fuck!! Get rid. What a nightmare...

don;t destroy any of his stuff, no matter how tempting, it is criminal damage

Well he admitted it, well sort of, he said he almost did, but on close inspection of the condom, i'd say he did, unless instead they decided to play tug of war with it.

when my mate found out that her dp had cheated on her she tracked down the girl and shaved off all her hair so that and i quote every time she looked in the morror she would see what she had done. she also left her dp immediatly. much respect. they have a two year old child and they were hoping to try for another.

besides am quite sure the male friend was'nt even there, and I think it was planned as we dont use condoms, so she must have brought them with her, or he bought them

I'm very very very very for you Total

There was also an empty bottle of wine in the bin, and only 2 glasses on the drainer.

i think all the evidence is there isnt it? please stop torturing yourself. have you told him to get out yet?

From your title and then OP I am a little confused

Has he slept with another woman in your bed, told you, to get rid of his guilt, and then said it was a joke because he has seen your response?

He has gone, came back an hour ago, said should he take some clothes, I said yes, he said, what, just for tonight, I told him I was in no mood to talk or make decisions on no slee.

sleep

Did you hit the bastard?

It wouldn't have helped, but would have made you feel better!!

Have you contacted the girl? Or the guy that was supposedly there?

what a prick. Kick him out.

saying something to the girl won't help - HE is the one with a wife and children.

No, cant be bothered to waste my time on a silly little girl, besides it would probably only boost her ego, and his male friend will only stick up for him.

Bethoo - how did she do it? The shaving?? Were tranquilisers involved?

totaleclipse you've done the right thing. What a complete bitch and bastard to ruin 3 innocent peoples lives and wreck a family. I feel like knifing them for you.

I agree with Scorpio, and you're right, she was just a silly little girl, he owed you something, she didn't.