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My (so called) friend is telling outrageous lies about me!

223 replies

wtafluv · 02/12/2023 08:27

Absolutely horrified! Just found out that someone considered a real longtime friend, has been texting people to ask if they've heard the rumour that I'm sleeping with a colleague (high profile as he's the CEO of a very well known company).

A close friend today showed me the messages. Couldn't believe it.

This is absolutely fiction. I barely know this man.

What on earth do I do how? I'm horrid and shocked.

This woman had text me today about a play date with our doggies!

OP posts:
FUPAgirl · 02/12/2023 11:23

I agree with the above - send the screenshot and then end the 'friendship'. Sorry this has happened to you 😔

housethatbuiltme · 02/12/2023 11:27

Are you 15?

Like maybe I have a dull life but drama from stuff like this stopped in my teen years.

I cannot imagine a grown woman saying "omg. Did you hear WTAFLUV and Mr CEO apparently had sex". I mean I have never heard an adult talk like that.

StockpotSoup · 02/12/2023 11:27

“I can’t come dogging with you today. I’m already going with the CEO. But then you knew that already, didn’t you?”

or

”I’m afraid I have to cancel our doggy date today. I can only cope with one bitch at a time”.

Whowhatwherewhenwhy1 · 02/12/2023 11:32

I would screen shit the message and meet her and confront her then dump her. Follow up with a text message to
all she sent it to telling them its not true

Tonight1 · 02/12/2023 11:34

I have met some malicious/misleading people in my time!

Yeah screenshot, circulate and avoid

wildwestpioneer · 02/12/2023 11:35

These people hide behind screens, send her a text and she'll manipulate it and turn it around.

I'd meet her today and ask her wtf is going on, why is she spreading rumours! Regardless of if she made it up or she's passing on something she heard would she not speak to you rather than texting someone else. She won't like being called out in person, she can't hide behind a phone. Once you've said your peace leave.

I presume you have mutual friends? I'd screen shot the message and create a WhatsApp group, post the screen shot and tell everyone that it's utter bollocks and if they receive anything else from x concerning you to please let you know - I might also add x into the chat so she knows that she's been rumbled

willowthecat · 02/12/2023 11:35

Could her phone have been hacked ?

Quitelikeit · 02/12/2023 11:35

You’d be the last person to know if it was a rumour

initial thoughts are she heard it elsewhere!

3peassuit · 02/12/2023 11:38

Confront her and watch her squirm.

Keepinmovin · 02/12/2023 11:38

Write back and say "I can't do the doggy playmate as I'm having to deal with some awful rumours that are being maliciously spread by someone. I need to get to the bottom of it ASAP and find out who's spreading them. Will keep you posted! X"

Then let her stew

EvilElsa · 02/12/2023 11:38

I'd send her the screenshot and write 'obviously not' in response to the meet up. There's nothing more to say really.

NoraBattysCurlers · 02/12/2023 11:40

If this is indeed someone you considered a real longtime friend, surely the first thing you would do is confirm that it was her who sent the message.

I would first rule out the possibility that someone else has accessed her phone or her webtext/social media account.

PonkyPonky · 02/12/2023 11:43

I would reply ‘oh yes looking forward to seeing you, need to discuss this nasty rumour you’ve been spreading about me’. And let her squirm!

Crumpleton · 02/12/2023 11:45

I'd definitely call her out on this one, even if she's only asking/sending messages it's a nasty rumour and exactly how rumours spread.

If you do decide to do anything be careful with your wording in how you ask about what she wrote in her message to your friend she sounds like the type that if you say what's this about me sleeping with/seeing/shagging my CEO all she'll HEAR is I HAVE been sleeping with/seeing/shagging my CEO.

IfAIwasfedMN · 02/12/2023 11:51

I don't know why you'd bother to meet or message. You've seen the screen shots of what she has written. No need to give her any satisfaction that it has hurt you or worried you and certainly no need to spend any more time with her or on her. She knows what she has done! I would tell any mutual friends why you are not talking to her again and if she feigns innocence they'll fill her in.

RuledbytheWashingMachine · 02/12/2023 11:54

I would tell her that you can't meet today as you're meeting Mr CEO later at a hotel and then ask her to come along too!

Middleagedmeangirls · 02/12/2023 11:54

This is gossip. You don't go to the police with gossip. It was a private conversation between two people not a public statement so it's not libel so not a civil matter either.

@wtafluv You say there is definitely no rumour to this effect - how can you know this for sure? This might just be the first time you've heard of it.

I'd meet this woman ASAP and ask her what she has heard and where she heard it. Set her straight and ask her to correct other people if she hears it repeated. Then have nothing more to do with her.

rwalker · 02/12/2023 11:57

Just message her ask her why she’s been asking people about this

OhComeOnFFS · 02/12/2023 11:58

Not sure why people are suggesting meeting up with her - she's the last person I'd want to see.

I would message her though and tell her you know what she's doing, you've no idea why she's doing it and in the spirit of friendship, you think she needs urgent medical help because she is clearly very unwell.

PaperSn0wAGhOst · 02/12/2023 12:02

ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 02/12/2023 08:58

I wouldn't send the screenshot because you'll be dropping the friend that showed you in it.

Just tell her you know she's spreading rumours about you and does she want to explain herself.

Then dump.

She’s probably sent the message to a few people.
I would ask her she’s sent the message and if she says no then ta da . . . Show her the screenshot!

ExTheCheater · 02/12/2023 12:04

She's no friend of yours. If you went on the dog walk she would have probably told people that's when you told her.

Ramalangadingdong · 02/12/2023 12:12

Sorry haven’t rtft but it does no harm if I repeat if it has already been said.

Could it be that someone hacked her account? Otherwise it is very strange that she asked for a play date - unless she is having some kind of mh episode.

That said there are some mean people out there. God knows what they get out of this sort of thing.

LookItsMeAgain · 02/12/2023 12:14

If I were you, I'd send her a message that could not be misinterpreted.

"Hi SoCalledFriend,
I believe you've been asking around about whether the CEO and I have had sex and used social media platforms to spread this rumour around. I would strongly urge you to correct this rumour straightaway or I will be forced to seek legal advice in relation to the options available to me as these rumours are false and without foundation. I will know if you've sent out apology messages so I would recommend that you start correcting your error right now! @wtafluv "

Call her out on it and let her tie herself up in knots wondering what legal advice you'd be getting and what might lie in store for her.

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2013/26

Defamation Act 2013

An Act to amend the law of defamation.

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2013/26

Kittensat36 · 02/12/2023 12:16

If you are going to confront her, do it in public like the pp who called out a liar in the pub. Witnesses are needed

Anyone who can knit a night of passion out of a nodding acquaintance, can deffo make an attempted murder out of you saying "why did you test x saying I've slept with Y.?"

Or own it. Say that you and he are going on a puppy shooting weekend next month.

SerafinasGoose · 02/12/2023 12:20

CherryBlossom321 · 02/12/2023 08:32

Get screenshots as that’s libellous.

Libel is a luxury for the very wealthy.

This also wouldn't qualify.

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