To think this is my queue to move out now

[Givealittlerespecttome]

After several years of renting and no plan for the future, I tell my boyfriend we need a plan and he says 'I don't know what to say.'
I'm usually the one doing all the work so he sees I'm upset then reluctantly looks at flats for all of 5 minutesethen gets bored.
I ask him hypothetically if he could see himself living with me in another 5-10 years and he sighs and says.. I don't know.. it's hard to say.
The saving grace is that our lettings agency phoned yesterday and said that we never actually signed our tenancy back in September, so technically they're only owed a month's notice.

Go for the flat. Seize this opportunity and be thankful you haven't had children with this man. Good luck

He isn't going to be what you want him to be. Move on and give yourself chance to do what you want in life.

I don't see the problem with pointing out an error like that on an anonymous forum. It could save the poster making an embarrassing error with people she does know. We are all learning all the time.

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And you really couldn’t work out the meaning from the content of the OP?! Oh dear.

The OP is definitely not the one with a lack of intelligence here!!

All these poor ‘puzzled’ and ‘confused’ posters on the thread ;-)

OP well done for seeing the light. The next few months will be tough but you deserve better x

dont go at the weekend, look at the flat, and if you like it, go for it - us it rental? Buying will take a bit longer…
Then start sorting out your stuff and get ready to leave. Tell him you won’t be renewing the tenancy. Then watch as he scrambles around having to sort things out himself, and under no circumstances let him move in with you.
he might start grovelling- because this is inconvenient to you. Or he might not do anything- and then you have your answer - he may have been planning to leave himself.
best of luck!

Go for it 😃you only have one life.

yes, keep making allowances, keep lowering the standard why don’t you, let us all converse and debTe at your level, totally ignoring the perplexed, confused, educated, helpful, life experienced amongst us, just keep bashing, sure to elevate the queues

Leave now op. Trust me or this will be your life

Errr no, actually, I WOULD be leaving if a partner I had was so flippant about us and our future. 'Do you see us together in 5 years' the OP asked her partner. 'err I don't know what to say' he responded.

Is your bar really this low @TheHateIsNotGood - that you would allow yourself to be strung along indefinitely, by a flaky man child who can't give you a straight answer as to whether he wants to be with you long term? Oh dear. I think you need to raise your bar!

No need

Any intelligent person would have immediately understood what OP meant and any decent and secure person would not have felt the need to be a dick about it.

I wouldn't call asking for what you want/need putting pressure on. If something is important to you and he can't be bothered, it definitely lets you know either settle or move on. It's a defining the relationship moment. Sometimes it's hard to let go when they act like that. It's like they do the bare minimum to keep you but they don't care enough to commit.

Thank you for intimating that I’m lacking in intelligence - just pointing out that the title doesn’t make sense, no need to be bloody rude.

Wrong. It's not on, it's rude, and it's against the rules.

Also, if you can be bothered to read the full thread; the posters pointing out the OP's error, couldn't be fucked to actually contribute anything else to the thread, or help or advise her, or offer any sympathy.

No no no... they wanted to point out her ERROR as soon as they could, and say NOTHING ELSE. Makes them feel better about themselves, making other people feel like shit. I know people like this in real life, and I avoid them.

@TheHateIsNotGood
The people the OP was due to be meeting see the family and friends of her (hopefully ex) partner . She does not have an existing relationship with them - therefore it would be pointless meeting up at this moment in time whilst she is unsure whether it is worthwhile remaining in a half-hearted relationship .

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Yup, when you've got a life changing question to ask its all about the spelling, didn't you know, lol

OMG do it do it do it OP!!!!! DO IT!!!!!!!

Tiny bedsits can be made really homely and snug.

Time to sweep out what no longer serves you and make way for a brighter future. Good luck!

Not really a race you’d want to win.

The internet is really not for you then, if reading the opening post didn't make it glaringly obvious.

I think I would love for the convenience - it appears your BF likes the same.

Either he will miss you and want to talk about your future or he’ll bury his head under the sand.

Either way you’ll have your answer.

I pointed out the error and contributed to the OP’s post. And it wasn’t to make myself feel better, or superior, or to make the OP feel like shit. It was because I’m sick and tired of seeing standards falling in grammar and spelling everywhere and people not giving a shit. Posters on MN regularly display terrible spelling and grammar, and some of the replies to posts demonstrate a basic lack of reading/comprehension skills. I’m old fashioned enough to think this matters. Sorry if that offends.

I have an appointment to view the flat tomorrow night. I feel awful doing this, I don't know why, I just feel so devious.

The sighing bit and looking, for all of 5 mins, leaving everything to you. His general apathy would piss me off. You need to do what your gut tells you to. Do YOU imagine yourself living with this man for next 1,2,...yrs.
Lots of other good men out there honey
Good luck