Do you find this offensive like I do and would you comment on it?

[Sunandnomoon]

Shared by an elderly friend of my mum’s on Facebook. I find it offensive but I’m debating whether it’s worth the hassle of saying so.

It’s certainly not kind, it’s condescending and misogynistic. I’ve known her my whole life and I’ve never seen her be unkind before, actually she did my mum a great kindness many years ago, so I’m not looking to be confrontational or mean.

I just think shit like this being unchallenged makes the world a little bit worse off every day.

Don't go out with your Mingerals on show ladies.

FB is full of this shit.

Same with “boomer poetry” and those dull lists of “back in our day curry was a name not a food, pasta didn’t exist, and we could all play out all day and night because we had nowt else to do” which are all shorthand for “there weren’t black people back then” or something.

Cesspool of social media.

She's entitled to her opinion, and she won't care what yours is. Just leave it.

I'd probably ask who was the perv that took a pic of my mate and plastered it on social media.

Well if you challenge her, be prepared for all her FB friends that see your comments to challenge you and before you know it YOU’VE caused a shit storm, not the nice lady that helped your Mum. You just disagree with her, she doesn’t need calling out.

I'd just roll my eyes and move on. My mil put a post on fb calling young people today snowflakes....a week after my teen dd tried to take her life. She just literally doesn't think at all. Tbh she wouldn't think she's done anything wrong.

I’m an elderly woman and I think it’s a load of misogynistic shit.

Mingerals 🤣🤣🤣

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Not offensive but a load of shite.

Sadly, the type of people that post crap like this are not worth arguing about. It's the playing chess with pigeons argument

If she's anything like my mother she hasn't read it. My mum is as close to blocked on FB as it's possible to be in that I have to ACTUALLY go to her page to view her. This is due to some very 1950s views on pretty much everything. When I challenged her about her Brexit posts she admitted she just shared them as they were on her feed. She's still doing it now, but I don't want my friends and customers knowing she is my mum. She just likes and shares whatever is in her wall.

Just leave it. Two reasons - she is a product of a by gone time and it won't end well or resolve anything.

Yep. Sometimes we are locks. Or compared to a car (decreases in value once it has been „driven“) etc.

stupid comparisons that are used to objectify women. Usually made by ignorant people (ime).

but SM isn’t the place to challenge them. And it will simply increase the visibility of their posts.

It's funny how often people want to challenge 'old women' about posts like this but not sexist young men when by my reckoning there are a shit tonne more of the latter on social media than the former.
If you must shout at someone for being sexist on the internet, why not go for Andrew Tate? At least then lots of other sexist arses will see your arguments too.

Not offensive, just absolute bollocks.

Well she’s definitely an MNer.

Tbh it’s not worth saying anything.

I usually get really annoyed with the woman judging other women’s clothes choices on here but I definitely wouldn’t be happy for my DD to walk around like that and I believe the message is trying to be inspiring to young women who feel they need to dress like that for male attention.

As a PP said it’s not offensive but it is a load of shite.

I came off FB but I remember loads of religious posts like this and I didn’t even waste my time reading them.
Most people don’t even read it themselves, they just repost.

It’s a generational thing. I don’t think we can judge different generations by the same standard. Some relativism is appropriate in my opinion. One elderly lady’s post encouraging young girls
to cover up isn’t going to bring down the feminist agenda.

You say yourself she’s a nice person, just leave it.

Why pay it any attention. My FIL often posts garbage like this on Facebook after a few whiskies.

YANBU.

Just point out how illogical it is.

Diamonds are actually found in the lab where you can grow them and they are systematically added to certain tooltips for strength, 100% on display.

Mining diamonds is one of the most immoral things people could do on this planet and those who succeed aren't somehow morally getting something precious, they are usually well funded, in many places corrupt and monopolistically dominating an industry that systematically exploits its workers. They are often the product and subject of violence and the world would be a better place if it was completely free of diamond mining and they were all just grown in labs.

Ask her if she can square that round gaping hole, nay chasm, in her analogy.

Find some equally twee religiously framed spiel about how God made the world to be beautiful and we don’t have to spend a fortune to find his true treasures. He makes the sunrise everyday, all we have to do is get up to see it; flowers bloom even on the side of the road and we can see his glory just by looking; love is all around us in the smile of a friend or the helping hand of a stranger on the street. God’s treasure is not in the precious metals and gems that man covets and can never satisfy, but in the beauty and love that man, in his image, embodies and appreciates.

Or some such guff.

Social media is not the place to have this debate.

Not worth the hassle. An elderly lady’s opinion is unlikely to be taken seriously or do any damage. Leave her be.

So weird that you would even give this that much headspace. Literally who gives a shit about what some old dear posts on fb. What could you possibly hope to achieve by commenting or discussing it with her?? The picture/text obviously resonated with her on some level, should she check with you before she posts something in the future?

Of course it’s a load of old tripe but meh.

Well, that’s vomit inducing bullshit. And offensive in a cringe worthy, patronising way.

Would I bother commenting? Depends on my mood. If I was in a bad mood already then yeah I probably would but I wouldn’t expect anything good to come from it- the person who shared this shite will still think they are wise and correct and feel suitably smug.

I find it disgusting, essentially suggesting she thinks women should be hidden away in loose robes if men are to consider them 'worthy'? And if they wear revealing clothes nice men won't want them?! This is not an age thing, this is a sexist pig thing. My elderly parents would certainly be horrified by this - the boomers are the generation of mini skirts, bikinis and female sexual liberation after all! I'd find it difficult not to say anything.

I think it is very dated but not offensive.

The intention is to build up someone's confidence if they are dressing in revealing clothes for attention. It fails to acknowledge women can dress how they like and this is not a sign they don't value themselves.

I absolutely would not discuss on facebook or real life unless she brings it up to me directly.