Am I rude

[TheAverageJoanne]

Interested in thoughts here. I've just been looking in a jeweller's window in my own world really and stepped in front of a woman also looking in the window. I'd put her in her 60s, she was with a guy about her own age and a younger guy. I didn't register her until she muttered something and then glared at me and said "manners".

I've got a lot on my mind at the moment and didn't think, I asked her what she meant and she said I'd walked in front of her for which I apologised but she carried on talking about having no manners. Of course I have manners but I wasn't thinking. She' made a mountain out of a molehill IMO. If someone had done this to me I really wouldn't care, and I'd accept an apology and move on.

I've got an uncle like this. Always going on about people not saying thanks for holding a door open for example. I take his point but he goes on and on, passive aggressively.

I'm not mannerless or rude but like most people I make mistakes.

Nothing worse than people who are unaware of their surroundings.

Well you were rude there yes.

I think there is. Starvation and genocide for stsrters.

You need to split the 'being a rude person' from 'doing a rude thing'.

You did a rude thing, you apologised. It doesn't make you a rude person or her wrong for pointing out your rude behaviour in this instance.

cringe

@Leo227 What's the difference between being intentionally or unintentionally rude?

@MuckyElbows I was cringing yes.

There’s arguably quite a small amount of both outside a high street shop, though

You apologised. What else can you do.
She was rude to not accept it with good grace.

Did you apologise before she said anything or was her comment required to prompt you? If you're in public it's on you to be aware of your surroundings and others, you walked right in front of her which is rude.
Also comparing day to day politeness to genocide is absolutely ridiculous.

YANBU there, I’d be cringing too if i was rude in public, even unintentionally. it is embarrassing isn’t it

Gosh, I agree that she made a mountain out of a molehill! If I do clumsy things like this I just laugh and say “oh I’m so sorry, was in my own world!” And most people just laugh too and get on with their day!

So you just stood infront of someone looking in a shop window? I would have found that incredibly rude!

I don't think that's comparable to not saying thank you to someone holding the door open but that is crap too. This is much worse! I imagine she felt pretty worthless and invisible having someone just take over the spot she was looking at like that.

@TheAverageJoanne it doesn't matter, in the instance you were rude by not paying attention. just accept you made a mistake a move on? trying to justify yourself just makes it worse I think that you haven't the grace to accept your own mistake.

There isn't, you were thoughtless and rude in that instance, but it's important to keep things in proportion - it's one comment.

If you're distracted, in your own bubble, unaware of what's going on around you - then anyone else impacted by that is going to find it rude.

The issue is on mn. To say there is nothing worse than someone being rude is hyperbole

So is saying ‘manners’ in a patronising way not rude? Could the lady not just have said ‘excuse me’ and then OP apologise?

Someone makes a mistake so the other person gets to be a dick?

Peoples reading comprehension is so poor. Shes not arguing if she was rude or not, shes saying the women to point it out several times made a mountain out of a mole hill and wouldnt let it go. To constantly refer to someone who made a mistake as they were in their own little world as rude is beyond tactless and she was worse imo.

Oh for god sake 😂

Her literal title was “am I rude”

I agree.

@IAmAnIdiot123 No I didn't stand there taking over the viewing spot! I stepped in front of her without thinking to look at something else.

I might have misunderstood but of you are looking at something and someone just stands infront of you blocking what you are looking at, would that not upset you?

Just popping past obviously wouldn't even register but sounds like the op was browsing and just stood infront of the woman.

I don’t disagree with you OP and think this woman probably has some irritation issues she should work on but then isn’t this thread its own molehill mountain?

I’d probably file it under ‘shit people do that doesn’t matter’ and think no more about it tbh.

Yes your action was rude but i would hope you don't do it often.