Am I rude

[TheAverageJoanne]

Interested in thoughts here. I've just been looking in a jeweller's window in my own world really and stepped in front of a woman also looking in the window. I'd put her in her 60s, she was with a guy about her own age and a younger guy. I didn't register her until she muttered something and then glared at me and said "manners".

I've got a lot on my mind at the moment and didn't think, I asked her what she meant and she said I'd walked in front of her for which I apologised but she carried on talking about having no manners. Of course I have manners but I wasn't thinking. She' made a mountain out of a molehill IMO. If someone had done this to me I really wouldn't care, and I'd accept an apology and move on.

I've got an uncle like this. Always going on about people not saying thanks for holding a door open for example. I take his point but he goes on and on, passive aggressively.

I'm not mannerless or rude but like most people I make mistakes.

@Purplespothmm you don't think people should be called out for poor behaviour? I will always do it, its a shame so many people don't as you can see the increasingly negative impact its having on societies manners in general these days

So they should just be stepped in front of and suck it up?

Unnecessarily shaming? How about not being rude and being considerate of other people around you in the first place.

@Muchof Read the OP. In particular the last sentence.

OP, you have excused/offered up a reason for your own rudeness by saying you have a lot on your mind. Fair enough, we all have moments where we're not at our best.

Perhaps the woman outside the shop was also having a bad day, and you stepping in front of her was the straw that broke the camels back.

I think it's sensible to assume the best of people if we can.

Are you for real? You certainly don't live up to your username.

Of course I "got a description" (I'm not being arrested here btw) because after she said something I spoke to her and saw who she was with. I can't believe you don't understand that.

I was at a gig last night with a disabled friend in a wheelchair, so we were sitting near the back. No less than five people at different times throught the gig decided that standing right in front of us was a good spot, and it didn't occur to any of them to check whether they were obscuring our view.

@BrutusMcDogface

im hazarding a guess that your attitude is very different to the OP's.

@Pinkpinkpink15 What do you mean by the above?

@StockpotSoup

id rather some of them didn't!!

I think we all do things that other people consider rude occasionally. I wouldn't spend any more time thinking about this one, OP. You said sorry, that's all you can do. Maybe this is something that happens to her a lot so she has a bit of a thing about it, and you just happened to be on the receiving end? I think when people react out of what seems proportional to an occurrence, it often has more to do with them than with you. I wouldn't spend any more time thinking about it.

@Mirrormeback

the old lady'

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how bloody rude!!

the time between 30 & 60 flies past!!

II hope when you get there (I'm not quite there yet 54) you remember some whipper snapper thinks you're OLD!

@TheAverageJoanne

that I think Brutus is friendly & apologetic

& you are confrontational & rude.

It's hardly the worst thing ever. But in my experience people who are in their own world so much so they don't notice or care about others are generally a bit selfish.

Why am I walking around aware of others and their space but you get to swan around not bothered? Yes if course we all have bad days. But the number of people so unaware of their surroundings can't all be having a bad day. Also you could have been yet another person to be rude to her that day.

Equally though, if the woman is that annoyed by a small thing she must send a lot of time being annoyed!

I can think of many things worse. Judgemental people who go over the top about a small error for example. Those people are far worse.

Good Lord if you feel worthless because someone lost in their own world doesn't register you then you have some big internal work to do

You were having a bad day.

She was having a bad day.

The whole thing is a storm in a teacup - best to move on and not waste anymore time or energy on it.

Good grief talk about hyperbole! I know I'm neither of those things.

I made a mistake which doesn't mean that's typical of my personality or behaviour. In fact your contributions to this thread are more confrontational and rude than anything I or the woman yesterday said or did.

Perhaps I should have worded my post "Was this behaviour rude?" Instead. Because one act doesn't define the whole person.

Have you ever dropped anything, brokrn anything, forgotten something? Of course you have. Everyone has. So I guess that makes you a clumsy scatterbrain then by your own definition.

Mind how you go.