Partner not come home freaking out and angry

[annabel586]

My partner went for Christmas party with work last night, he was going to drive but called me about 7 saying he was getting a cab home at 10. He tried calling me twice about 9.30 but I was in the shower so missed the calls.

Been calling him back ever since and he's not answering at all- rings through to voicemail. This is VERY unlike him as he always keeps in touch and calls me back etc

I know it's only been a couple of hours but I'm going out of my mind with worry now. I'm so angry but upset as well, I would never do this.

Also his mother messaging me worried about how down he will be and how we should all support him 🙄 is not helping

I just said this is going to have consequences on my life as well now so I need to do what's best for me

Good for you @annabel586 !!

Oh dear, OP. You’ve just fucked yourself with the mention of wine. 😂🙄

Enjoy your day of relaxation. Is this his first drink driving incident?

how does this effect him work wise he'll definitely be banned

What's he like normally, OP?

This is awful, and most likely a deal breaker, but is it out of character? Is he normally a knob?

If it were my DH I think I'd want to know more before making any decisions.

Bloody hell OP I'd be furious with him as well. As for you having a beer at 11.30, I don't blame you...funny how drinking before 12pm is acceptable for some when it comes to December 25th though....Bucks Fizz/Champagne for breakfast anyone?

Adding "hun" to your post makes you sound rude. Given that your previous post was crass and ignorant, you would do well to take a break from posting.

He will lose his licence - do NOT become his chauffeuse when he gets out of the nick. He has to deal with the consequences of his own actions.

Oh he has one of those mothers does he?

Well done for your reply OP.

@MaisyAndTallulah

if wasn’t crass and ignorant. Plenty of people said the same thing prior to the drink driving update. Thanks for your post though 👍

Oh OP FFS don't mention wine, the righteous brigade will have you at the AA before the end of the day 😂

Seriously, I'm glad you're okay and you're with your family. Just chill and take your time deciding what you will do, there's no rush.

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope it was a parked car and that there wasn't anyone in the other car destroyed.

I know you are in a state of shock and still coming to terms with what this will mean for you going forward.

Don't be guilted into enabling him and providing support. It is only by sheer luck that he didn't kill someone. You owe him nothing.

Support a drink driver?

I'd find that hard to do tbh-even more so one with a mum like that!

Wonder if he's down because of what he did or because he got caught??

Look after yourself & enjoy the wine.

What do your parents think of it all?

Utterly stupid. Totally reckless. Not sure why people are calling for divorce though. He COULD HAVE hurt someone. But he didn't. Til death do us part.... or you get arrested

Wow 😳 And his mother ffs! He could have killed someone.

Op refers to him as her partner so perhaps she could leave with needing a divorce.

Would that be OK?

Have a lovely evening with with parents and pugs. 🤗 And have a frickin glass of wine if you fancy.

Beware his mother.

She is blind to what he's done and entirely on his side. She brought him up.

Well done OP. The last thing you need is his mother guilt tripping you. He deserves everything he has coming. Thank goodness he didn’t kill anyone. Hugs x

So drunk driving is stupid and reckless but okay as long as you don’t actually hurt someone?! Glad my bar is set a bit higher.

One if my relatives was killed by a drunk driver, I have zero tolerance for it.

What strikes me is that he took his car in the first place. I understand that he didn't intend to stay more than a couple of hours, but unless he was planning to stay sober or just have one or two drinks, he clearly must have known there was a chance he would be drink driving on the way home. But he appears to have drunk heavily from the start as he was slurring his words on the phone. I'm guessing he has done it before and believed he could get away with it.

Yes, I just thought that . If my DS did that, I would be picking him up from the station and bollocking the living daylights out of him. I wouldn’t be asking his partner to go easy on him.

His mother sounds completely blind to his faults. He doesn't need anyone's support. He's committed a crime and if that impacts on his job and his personal life, then tough shit.

Christ op. You could do without that.. I'd tell her that she was welcome to 'support her drunk driving son' if she wished but you need to look after yourself.
Does he need to drive for work. Will he be able to manage to keep his job?

The operative word being prior 😁

Bloody hell. Sorry to hear that. So him phoning you at 930 was him wanting to tell you he'd been arrested.

He's lucky he didn't hurt or kill someone.

As for his mother I understand it's difficult for her but ffs, he doesn't need supporting, he needs shaking till his teeth rattle.