Partner not come home freaking out and angry

[annabel586]

My partner went for Christmas party with work last night, he was going to drive but called me about 7 saying he was getting a cab home at 10. He tried calling me twice about 9.30 but I was in the shower so missed the calls.

Been calling him back ever since and he's not answering at all- rings through to voicemail. This is VERY unlike him as he always keeps in touch and calls me back etc

I know it's only been a couple of hours but I'm going out of my mind with worry now. I'm so angry but upset as well, I would never do this.

You are a fucking child if you'd get behind the wheel of a car when drunk and then blame your wife for it because she might've told you off for being late.

A 'full grown man' would take whatever consequences he needed to before he'd recklessly put innocent people's lives in danger.

Fuck me, what an utter twat.

And his colleagues are utter twats, too, if they were present and didn't stop him.

You must be devastated, OP, I'm so sorry. You must be torn between being relieved he's safe and simultaneously livid and horrified by his idiocy and irresponsibility. I just hope he didn't have an accident and hurt someone.

I also hope he doesn't need to drive for his job, or he'll be unemployed, too.

ETA: and mea culpa for not reading all OP's posts before replying to earlier posts.

God, what a nightmare for you OP. Ignore the idiot trying to twist things and blame you. Some men just don't want to grow up.

Sounds like you’ve picked another wrong un’, OP.

If only there were an edit feature

Sorry but that is an overstatement. Experience with a family member. It was awful and shaming, but life did return to normal. I don't think it will help the OP to catastrophise an already horrible sitch.

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Oh I’m so sorry that’s beyond shit and selfish of him. I’m glad you know now though, I can’t imagine the worry you must have felt

Having witnessed repeatedly the dreadful impact drunk drivers have on families (I work in hospital theatre) I could not continue a relationship with this man.

What I don’t understand is how he’s coming home if he has no keys. Can you explain this @annabel586 ? Do you own or rent together?

You certainly have. Spectacularly so.

I have noticed that some posters edit their posts but can’t see how you do that.

I'm sure as a grown man he'll be able to sort something out. Another consequence of his stupidity

I wouldn't be letting him back through the door.

Assuming you aren't on the app (and if you are, just why?) You click on the three dots on Android or website, I don't know if iPhones/iPads are the same

Quite, but I would be worried he might be stupid enough to break in. We already know he’s thick as shit.

What a shock and more difficult for you as it reminds you of harder times gone by. I guess only you can know what he is really like and if this is a ‘dealbreaker’ but don’t make any hasty decisions. Look after yourself and give yourself a bit of time.

He’s done something pretty serious and could have killed someone, which is not something that can be swiftly moved on from but it might be something you can work through. None of us can know the right course of action for you but you have our support and good wishes (with one misogynistic exception 🙄).

Good luck. Glad you are at your mums.

Click on the 3 dots top right, the Edit Post option is last on the drop down list

See what I did there? 😄

We do but the last thing the OP should be doing is waiting in for him imo

Omg so sorry OP. At least you know now and he is safe. The limit is low these days so he may not have been blind drunk. Still not good though x

@BMW6 @VisionsOfSplendour only if you've paid for the premium version of MN

I'm so sorry OP. Al that time you were worried something had happened

Hopyou're OK today, let your Mum look after you. 🙂

Drunk driving and ctrashing into another car and destroying it certainly is a very big deal.

I remember all the nights my ex-husband did this to me. It was awful waking up to an empty bed at 4am with no contact from him. Glad he’s my ex.

Quite. I wonder how that excuse would go down in a court of law? Sorry judge, but I’m not responsible. I only did it cos I was worried mummy wife would be mad.

I'm sorry op