Partner not come home freaking out and angry

[annabel586]

My partner went for Christmas party with work last night, he was going to drive but called me about 7 saying he was getting a cab home at 10. He tried calling me twice about 9.30 but I was in the shower so missed the calls.

Been calling him back ever since and he's not answering at all- rings through to voicemail. This is VERY unlike him as he always keeps in touch and calls me back etc

I know it's only been a couple of hours but I'm going out of my mind with worry now. I'm so angry but upset as well, I would never do this.

I wonder if he was so drunk he thought he’d left you a message when he called? Probably clutching at straws here though!

Have to say this raised an eyebrow for me, too. I wouldn't say OP is "borderline hysterical," and I'd rather sway towards that than not give a hoot anyway.

Hi OP. I hope you hear from him soon. I’d be fuming. However, if this really isn’t like him, I’d be more worried that he’s had an accident or something? I hope 101 were helpful x

Definitely has to be worth a call to work if you haven't got the telephone numbers of any of his work colleagues.

I don't know much about facebook, but are you both on it. If so, can you contact anyone he works with that way.

This is horrendous. I don’t understand the other comments - I would be absolutely apoplectic. Especially if I was pregnant. Hope he comes home soon and you manage to get some sleep x

Very sensible

He IS missing. You definitely did the right thing

Thinking of you 🥰

Hopefully his phone just died etc etc. But this is really really inconsiderate if he knew he didn’t have his key, not to just let you know. He could have used someone else’s phone surely. What a tw@t. The issue here is not that he went out and stayed out, it’s that he knew you’d be waiting to let him in and he didn’t give a shit about you.

Definitely do as suggested and try and phone his work or contact work colleagues. Also, do you know exactly where he was last night? If so, worth phoning there in case they know anything.

I know you're really worried, but I'd be tempted to make a plan in case he phones wanting a lift home, ie are you willing to do it. If not, tell him you've made plans to go shopping and for coffee, or you need to do a food shop and he'll have to wait.

Selfish. Go out and enjoy the day, he'll roll up very sheepish at some point.

How difficult for you OP. Its very frustrating that he didn't leave a message when he called too. I really hope he comes home soon.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. My ex did this, only once, but I never really forgave him.

It’s so inconsiderate and selfish- my now partner and I often don’t come home and stay elsewhere if we’re out having a good time, but the rule is always let the other person know.

I am sure your DP is okay and was just drunk and selfish, but I understand the anxiety and worry until you know for sure.

Every single year we have these threads and the most confusing thing to me is grown arse adults who don’t have a key to their own house, wtf?

I hope you hear from him soon. Staggering in a few hours late as a one off is very different to not being home by the next morning. Assuming he's OK, he has been horribly thoughtless at best.

And reporting him missing was the right thing to do. Especially as this is not his usual style.

I’d be so worried too @annabel586 and I really hope he’s okay.

I've literally just tried this but it is a construction company so their offices are not open on weekends.

This is horrific I just want to know where he is ☹️

@annabel586 I'm so sorry you haven't heard from him yet. If he was very drunk last night he is probably still sleeping it off somewhere. But I absolutely get why you are so anxious - I would be too. Hope you hear from him soon

Hes a sod for making you worry like this. Takes seconds to send a text.

Is he still not back now????

It could be that he's lost his phone and stayed at a friends but there's no way he can't call or borrow someone's Facebook to send you a message etc.

I'm with you on the frantic worry and anger. When he is back you must tell him what he has put you through. There is a point that he's just being neglectful! He's past that point now.

Please keep us updated op x

He'll be on someone's sofa, snoring. That's the most likely reason you haven't heard from him yet, so worrying for you OP.

I can see why you're worried - I would be too - but it's still only 8.30. Ime drunk people who have stayed out all night don't show up til gone 11am.

I think the idea of going to your mum's house is a good one. You can leave a key with a neighbour (or not).

And of he was slurring at 7pm I think he'll have been very drunk indeed.

Totally understand your anxiety. I’m certain he’ll be sleeping it off at a colleague’s house and be home soon. London to Kent isn’t the easiest to navigate if he was very drunk so I imagine one of his team suggested he stay, which is probably safer in the long run. Sorry you’ve had a night of worry.

Maybe get to yours mums and still go to the Christmas market tonight. Don’t let the weekend be about him having been out.

Still not back.

I really don't know what to do with myself- I appreciate he might be drunk and passed out somewhere- but the radio silence started at 9.30 last night- which is a long time?

Blimey that's awful OP ,he must of crashed somewhere. Not on letting you know. Hope he's home soon.