To think this comment from a friend was cruel?

[Kelly099]

I was walking through town with a friend looking for a bite to eat. We walked past a charity that provide hot meals and drinks for the homeless/vulnerable, and there was a large crowd of people waiting to receive their meal.
My friend joked 'This is where we're eating tonight.'
I was quite disgusted, and told her 'You're very lucky to not be in that position.' she didn't say anything and changed the subject.
I'm sure it was just a case of speaking without thinking, but I was quite disappointed tbh.

Oh get a grip, YABVU

It would depend on what she's like as a whole. If this was a one-off, then I wouldn't dwell.

Some people use dark humour to cope with sad situations. The joke wasn't a comment about how she views people in less fortunate situations. I might have laughed at that joke but I'm also someone who gives money to people on the street and would do a lot to help them if they had a specific need I could fill.

Really?

it was a joke

but you did not get it

you sound sanctimonious and lacking a sense of humour. I don’t think the joke was at homeless people’s “expense” either. I’d be giving you a wide berth if I were your friend…

Just really wondering about your username?!

This. Dark humour gets me through life, same as most people I know. Otherwise we'd just be sad all the time.
You can have dark humour and be one of the most caring people.

I personally don't think jokes like that are funny so I'm with you OP. And I usually am up for banter.

bet you are

It was probably a throw away comment, but some people are very easily outraged these days.

It was tasteless but not worth holding against her. I think her motivation was just to make you laugh and on the spur of the moment she has misjudged.

If I were the friend, I'd be the one re-thinking the friendship here.

It was a bad joke but a joke nonetheless.

I wouldn't have laughed, but would have left it with a "Really?" and an eye roll. You made your friend feel bad and probably ruined her evening.

But you came out of the night with the moral high ground, if that's worth anything.

I had a friend with three children, one with Downs. He used to say he had 2.4 children. He thought it was a joke. Nobody else did.

That's horrendous.

That's appalling. Totally different to op's experience, though.

Surely if you are friends then you must be aware of her sense of humour by now, instead of it being a shock to you?

@Calliopespa Imagine Pippy Longstockings, but instead of having actual long stockings, I breastfed for years and now my boobs look like two long stockings with a snooker ball in each toe.
I know you shouldn't laugh at your own jokes, but just saying "Pippy LongTits" (or even thinking it!) makes me have a little giggle to myself. Well, got to rely on my humour now - my tits are shot to shit 😂

And now I'm laughing to myself about the thought that this thread might get picked up by the Daily Mail and this very comment could get picked out as they do "One mum turned to MN to ask whether she was being unreasonable to find a crap joke offensive. And while many were quick to agree, some others shared their outrage. "I'm with you OP" said Mumboobs123, "get over it" lambasted UserBigBoobs99, while another user went into a long ramble about her long tits..."

But maybe this isn't the right thread to be making bad jokes. 👀

Meh it's no big deal. Life is very depressing and grim, we can't go around never making a joke about it and taking it so seriously 100% of the time or we'd all have nervous breakdowns.

Christ.

Ffs 😂

I have an irreverent sense of humour but I agree with you OP and I wouldn’t find that funny.

So true! I laugh at inappropriate things but that doesn't mean I wouldn't be the first in line to help and make a difference where I can. Sometimes you have to laugh or it would all get too heavy.

She clearly wasn’t mocking the homeless. Personally I believe your behaviour is worse.

Now that's fucking nasty.