AIBU to not pick 4 year old DD from school?

[marshyrun]

DD2 is 4 and in reception. She’s had the usual on off cough / colds since starting in September and is just coming to the end of a bad cold, she went to school throughout with me just giving her calpol in the mornings.

She woke up today absolutely fine, had breakfast, in good spirits. Still a slight cough but had some calcough before leaving.

School have just called to say her teacher has said she’s not herself, they checked her temp (all fine), she doesn’t feel sick or anything, they’ve said she’s just being quiet and clingy and not enthusiastic about participating in some of the activities. They’ve asked me to come and collect her if she’s still being “clingy” after lunch.

AIBU to not pick her up unless she’s actually poorly? I’m the first one to drive to school if my child is poorly but this doesn’t seem to be the case today. She’s naturally shy and quiet anyway so her being reserved is not out of character at all!

"My niece picked it up and took it home, my sister got sick, caught sepsis and has now died leaving her child motherless and me sisterless."

You sure weren't! But decent of you to acknowledge that.

Sorry, I was writing it as an alternative post.

Many people send them as 'childcare' to get them out of thier hair all day. That was part of the reason of invention of school wasn't it? So they had somewhere to go all day that was warm, and be fed and looked after?

I didn't think not collecting was an option when the school phoned and asks you to pick them up. My ds has rumination syndrome so he keeps being sent home because he has thrown up even though he is fine. My other ds doesn't sleep through the night so in primary I used to get phoned quite often to say he had fallen asleep in class so I needed to collect him. In secondary I just get an email from the teaching assistant.

@GettinChillyHereFFS no?? School is for education. 100 years ago (and fewer) it would have benefited most families to keep their children at home from school so that they could help around the house/farm/look after younger siblings/go to work.

I think school has evolved a little since then.

I call a spade a spade.

Your constant projection of your own failings onto random Mum’s on the internet says all anyone needs to know about you.

honestly? she IS noticeably poorly- thats why they called? unbelievable. i hope your daughters ok

lol this thread is batshit 😂 all the privileged stay at home mums unable to comprehend why it might not be possible to have the kids at home every single time their nose runs. We’ve even had someone fake the death of their sister.

Batshit shakes head

You do know education isn't optional in the UK, right? What a strange thing to think that people are only sending their kids to school for free childcare.

The "school is not childcare" debate is so boring.

Of course it's childcare. Most parents need to work and, for that, they need childcare. School, together with wraparound care where necessary, is the form in which society delivers the necessary childcare for parents to work.

If school isn't childcare, then there should be a rule that families of school-age kids can't have two working parents - since one parent should always be "on call" as childcare for the kids.

We don't have this rule because school is childcare.

I am not allowed into my primary age DC's school to provide "childcare" for my DC while the teachers provide "education". Why is that, if school is only education and not childcare? Because the school is caring for my child - i.e. providing childcare.

😂

Surely the fact that the op was at work so she can keep her children housed, clothed, warm and fed is a good testament to how much she loves her children.

Op I'm a single parent and I remember the dread of seeing the school number on my phone. I would have gone and got her but been v frustrated when as predicted they're absolutely fine!

I'm so sorry about your sister, it is absolutely horrendous and your poor niece losing her Mum at presumably a young age.is dreadful.

You really can't stop children getting ill, in the absence of vaccines mild childhood illnesses are the only way to build their immune system and prevent many more people being immunocompromised in the future.

There may be lessons to be learnt in your sisters care but it's not in children spreading germs.

Bloody hell I've just seen the update that your sister hasn't actually died. But that she could have. And if she'd had wheels she'd be a bike 🙄

Batshit.

Gosh op yours are the opposite of our school. My DC fell asleep in the afternoon i offered to come get her and they said nah she's comfy no point waking her just get her at home time!

They never send kids home unless they are really really unwell.

Lots if reception children have days when they are clingy and unenthusiastic - they get a bit tired, aren't with their best friend as a partner, are grumpy about the school lunch or simply haven't accepted having to do some teacher led activities that don't interest them. They do sort of have to learn to put up with it.

I sent three children home from school last week. All had been off, and sent back too soon as their parents had to go back to work. While I sympathise totally with people having to work, these children were not ready to come back, and were all really quiet and sad. They needed to be snuggled up at home on the couch, not in a busy classroom with goodness knows what other bugs flying around that they could catch easily as they were still poorly themselves.

I was very close to sending another one home today, but a parent came in and gave them some paracetamol which sorted them out and they managed to stay for the rest of the day.

Totally unreasonable. She’s 4 - needed medicine to go to school & is acting out of character!! Poor kid - go and get her!!

If school are concerned enough to call, pick her up.

My son's school has a sign up saying when you can and when you can't send them to school with an illness... A cold is on the send them to school side. Most normal things are.

I’d be there as soon as possible. They won’t call unless necessary in my experience

You’re not meant to give calpol before school. If they need calpol, they aren’t well enough to be in.

it’s now been spread to everyone else and no wonder she struggles once the calpol wears off!!

Literally a joke. Selfish people like this make me so angry and only think about themselves.

The only time I've never collected one of mine was when the school phoned with literally 25 mins to the end of the day and If I'd collected her when they phoned I would of been late for my middle. I feel that was a bit daft to phone me with 25 mins to go. But apart from thar I've always collected, if the school think they need to be home then they should be

I think you need to trust their judgement. They've gotten to know your child by now and as they are with her and they feel she needs to be home you should go and get her. School is exhausting at 4 years old let alone when you aren't well. Schools aren't usually in the habit of sending children home unnecessarily.