He’s done it again

[Soshitatgifts]

Long time user with name change here!

Firstly I KNOW this is a bit of a non problem and I’m being a bit of a brat!

DH and I had a discussion and decided that Christmas would be pared right back this year -absolutely not an issue.
I told him all I wanted was a dressing gown and slippers, and due to previous history was very quite specific about the kind of thing I wanted, and only just stopped short of sending him actual link wish I had now. Basically a cosy but still “nice” dressing gown and fairly structure slippers which I could wear outside, hanging out washing etc-think faux sheepskin mules kind of thing.

He said to me this morning “don’t look at the Amazon account, there are deliveries coming for me”

Being me of COURSE I looked 😳and he’s ordered the most fucking hideous dressing gown, think oversized checked lumberjack shirt, and marshmallow like slippers.

AIBU to give it a couple of days and “innocently” bombard him with links to what I’d actually like? I’m a terrible actress when it comes to opening disappointing presents, and I know that no matter how cold it gets, I won’t be wearing that dressing gown!

if you want something specific for a gift then you need to BE specific. Noones a bloody mindreader.

At least youve got it changed now

Fucking hilarious that the posters who really seemed to be offended by the OP not liking the first gopping dressing gown are now being acutely rude about the lovely one from Next. 😂

Well done, OP. Handled like a champ. And you’re going to get something much more to your taste.

I like them too, would be very happy with that dressing gown especially, looks lovely and cosy, £17 fo

DH choices seem far more up to date.
The "sheepskin" things are certainly chavalicious.

Posted too soon

I meant to say that £17 for slippers is very expensive for me, so I'd never buy them for myself, my £3 pair from Primark do me just fine!

I think you need to send links though OP, if those items are not to your taste, but I don't understand the poster who made the comment about Amazon clothes.

I would wear the dressing gown

Noe the slippers

If it makes you feel any better last year DP got me a flying squirrel onsie (not been worn since Christmas day) so this year I've tried to gently steer him in the right direction by asking for a necklace (I like slightly kooky jewellery like animals on them) and he has proudly declared he has bought me one and its "ostentatious and slightly goth" so needless to say I'm rather apprehensive...

@LuluBlakey1

I agree, the dressing gown alone is £56

In my world that's expensive.

Haven’t you just been deleted on the other thread for your comment about bitchy women? So not ridiculous.

Saying OP's husband is probably gay and calling that poster a misogynist is ridiculous yes

Thanks anyway @Soshitatgifts 😆

And you can’t distinguish between cotton lumberjack shirt/pjs and a pink fleece faux plaid dressing gown? 😯

That’s much better.

These slippers (like your DD’s) might go:

https://www.woolovers.com/womens/accessories/womens-sheepskin-mule-slipper-beige-10764

What he chose is exactly what you described to him. Maybe his crystal ball wasn't working about the pattern...

I think that's much nicer, OP, glad it's sorted.

He does seem to know your preferred colour palette though...it's a similar shade of pink to the one he chose.

Enjoy.

Well done OP. I'm glad you are getting what you want for Christmas.

MN is what it is. There will always be people telling you that you are unreasonable/snobby/entitled/selfish blah blah blah for having an opinion on what you want - especially if it's neutral/high-street. Shame on you if you don't martyr yourself to the cross of gratitude and wear the lumberjack number for the next 25 years before darning, adding a lace trim and turning turning it into a wedding dress for your first born DD. 🙄

Just tell him you saw the order by mistake and it’s horrendous. Send him the links for what you want.

No way on God's earth I would let my DH choose slippers or a dressing gown for me. Are you mad, OP? 😄

Seriously, I'd just fess up, tell him you know what he's bought and you hate it. Give him the links for what you like. Or just order it yourself and hand him the parcel to wrap when it arrives.

I feel your pain OP. Over the years the presents for Christmas and birthday that I received from my D(ex)H were, amongst others:

a kitchen bin
set of saucepans
rotary washing line
doorbell
key safe box
car mats

When I expressed one year that I’d really like something maybe a bit romantic, and just for ME, he responded with ‘but I get you the things you NEED 😳 Needless to say we only lasted 5 years!

Hahaha. Love this 😂

The op hasn't posted millions of times. Surely it's not too onerous to read the most recent update?

Personally I wouldn't be shopping on Amazon for anything for ethical reasons!
Glad you've sorted it amicably OP. I know many couples who no longer buy presents for this very reason. Being that men often don't have a clue and women often spend ages thoughtfully looking for gifts. To anyone reading this Yes I don't care that its stereotyping in this era but I have said it and its out there.

Glad you've (presumably!) got what you wanted now, and I'm glad your husband wasn't hurt or offended when you mentioned you weren't keen.

Totally understandable that you didn't like your husband's original choices, but I think in future you need to realise that not everybody is observant about things like clothes, patterns, colours etc. The dressing gown he chose was not your style, and that's fine, but equally I can totally see why he might have picked that, and the slippers, out based on your description. My DP is a lovely man and very kind and thoughtful, but if I were to say to him 'Hey DP - what kinds of colours and prints do I wear?' he wouldn't have a clue. He just doesn't notice those things. He doesn't notice hair or nails either. I don't know how the hell he doesn't see these things, but he just doesn't!

I love the dressing gown but it does remind me of the blanket I have on my sofa. I like my dressing gowns fluffy (ironically I've found the best ones come from Tesco) so wouldn't get on with this as a dressing gown at all. You need to be honest with him I think and explain that you appreciate the effort but you probably needed to be more specific to him about what you wanted.

Just forget it and buy your own slippers.

Strange that you need to go to all this
hassle To get basic items of clothing.

Another reason why present buying should be knocked on the head.

Buy what you need, when you need it

I think you are being unfair to bloke. He has selected stuff that match perfectly and meet your brief. You clearly should have sent links. I send several for my DH to choose from if I want an element of surprise. I don’t get all the drama on your part. If you have been together that long, surely you can tell him you’ve seen them and they’re not for you. I’m sure he rather go to the trouble of returning them, than give you something you don’t want!