My next door neighbour shouts at his DD

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My NDNs have an 18 month old. The dad absolutely bellows at her and smacks her. This has been going on around a year. I also hear him playing with her and singing to her and making her laugh.

I find it really distressing. And I try not to judge but I can't understand what she could be doing that's so bad at such a young age and so frequently. I hear him shouting every day. As soon as it starts I'm on edge, listening and hoping he won't smack her. I don't know what I can do other than wear ear defenders all the time?

Reported to children's services

You cannot be serious, how hard is it to report to social services or the police. Are you honestly saying you have been listening to a baby being abused for a year and done NOTHING?

Cross post, so how many times have you reported it?

I didn't say I'd done nothing. Naturally, I've reported to Children's services.

To be honest social services do very little. I'm in a very similar situation with hearing an older child constantly being screened at and social services are involved as the child has a social worker and the police have visited many times but nothing ever gets done apart from having a word with the mother which does no good. So I don't think the skepticism towards the op is warranted

He smacks a baby? That's not right at all, it's abuse. Please do something to protect her. Ring NSPCC, police, or Social Services. Where's the mother in it all?

Unbelievable. I wouldn't be able to block it out and pretend it's not happening to any child - but a BABY?!

Can noone read? Op has contacted ss 3 times!

I admit I haven't phoned the police. In all honesty I don't know if he has smacked the toddler but I did hear him threaten it once.

I can care about the little girl and at the same time also care about my own children and not being too distressed to look after them.

I already have ear defenders, I have sensory issues due to being autistic.

I was brought up in a household like that and maybe that is why I haven't phoned the police. I didn't think they would come round for shouting.

I have of course spoken to children's services. Imo, this is worse than shouting at or even hitting his wife.

Why does ear defenders mean it isn't real? Lots of people use them especially when they have autism.

Mother of god.. pick up the phone NOW and dial 999/ children's services/ nspcc...

The shouting has about a year. She could be 20 months I don't know exactly but definitely been going on since she was 9-12 months. I only heard him threaten to smack her the other day. I don't know if he actually has but when he starts shouting it makes me think he's going to smack her!

If you don’t want to hear it then escalate it to the police. Don’t worry about what you should or shouldn’t do, let the police decide.

Wtf, so this started when she was 6 months old? I actually feel sick. Please please keep reporting this, and give this baby girl a voice

Please report to police. Poor baby.

I haven't let it go, I wouldn't because that was me at that age 😥 I always seem to make this mistake of thinking something is so obvious I don't need to write it and then everyone acts as if I'm not even a human being!

OP has now changed her story - she thinks the baby might have been smacked, but isn't sure. Again, I'm asking - where is the mother?

It's nothing to do with spoiling my evening!! Why would it be?!

Changed it more than that. She can hear a toddler being smacked for a year, to now when it was threatened once.

Bloody hell you report it

Knock on their door and say you've been hearing it for too long, and you'll report if he doesn't stop. They won't know you already did. Maybe it will make him stop.