Having to book hotel just to maintain sex life?!

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DH and I (both early 40s) have a toddler and I also have a teenager from a previous relationship. Typical story - both have demanding FT jobs and also with the demands of both children- demands of the toddler are obvious and the teen, well, it's just the presence of a teenage child in the house that kills the moment - basically we are struggling to maintain a physical relationship. I'm sure others have experienced similar. DH has suggested that we get a babysitter for toddler and go for a few drinks in our local town, but book a hotel room just so we can be intimate. I don't want to actually stay out overnight (we don't have anyone who could look after our toddler overnight anyway), and I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving our toddler overnight regardless, but he's saying we can just book a room to use it for a few hours after we've been for drinks, then check out and go home. I feel this is a little odd! It feels a bit seedy and the hotel will know surely, what we are doing, if we just stay in the room for a few hours then check out?! Do people actually do this or is this weird? 😬

Stop avoiding having sex. Honestly, your teen will suddenly have lots of sleepovers.

😂 same. Just bloody do it.

Just have sex at home. Surely your teenager doesn't come barging in your room at night ?

Those saying have sex with teenagers in the house, do you have any?

Teenagers stay up later than lots of parents, especially those with three year olds.

And as for the poster suggesting letting teen hear parents having sex, well there is a register for you.

We're often tempted to do this op. Three teens in the house and two with asd who never sleep. It kills the mood!

We have sex in the shower usually with the door locked! Music on, running water. Feral children in the house elsewhere.

Go for it and have fun.

I used to work in the hotel industry and this was happening all the time.
The hotel employees don't bat an eye and the management love it as they get two lots of revenue for the same room in a 24 hour period.😁

We never stopped having sex because of having teens ( or any age child actually ) , just shut the door , stick the tv / radio on in the bedroom and keep the noise to a minimum.

Just close the door and get on with it. I've had teenagers for several years and we are just careful not to make loads of obvious sex sounds.

Mine slammed shut too and there are now cobwebs.

My parents had a lock on the inside of their bedroom door, but we were asked to knock the door before coming in anyway and we wouldn't dream of barging in during the night.

Similar situation; very early in the morning or evening very quietly. Preferably with some kind of background noise in your room like a TV.

Literally creased up laughing at this comment!! 😂😂🤣🤣

No of course they don't barge in, but their room is next door to ours so I'm conscious of noise. It just kills the mood for me and I can't relax and enjoy it.

This.

The only thing they'd remark on is the fact that you're actually married to each other.

Sounds rather romantic actually.

Go straight to the hotel, take a bottle of something with you if desired, & enjoy. Hotel staff will have seen it all before & they don’t need an explanation.

My friend books a hotel sometimes over her lunch break with her husband!

I'm pretty sure I couldn't be turned on under those circumstances but it seems to work for them.

DH and I used to do this pretty regularly. It works well imo.

We also occasionally used to take turns of staying over to get a full night of sleep when our youngest’s medication regimen meant 3 hourly wake ups in the night.

Sex with DH, then him heading home and me having an uninterrupted bath and a takeaway pizza while watching the tv, uninterrupted, before an uninterrupted nights sleep was absolute bliss.

Hotel staff won’t care. There are actually some hotels that you can book a day room in!

We have several teens in the house and still manage an active sex life. Our bedroom door has a lock, and they know never to walk in even if it's unlocked. I don't really see the big deal, I mean we spend every night together in bed, so why would it matter if we get some fun time before sleep?

Could you both book morning/afternoon off work if toddler at nursery ,or even whole day.

If you're embarrassed about checking out only a couple of hours after checking in I guess you could tell reception staff that there's been a domestic emergency and you have to leave — but I imagine that's what everyone who's having a fling says. If you can afford it, why not?

Yep book a hotel, or buy a holiday home 😉 our DS’ are never interested in visiting, we go to check up on it a lot 😂

Pay your teenager to take the toddler to the park and as soon as the door shuts, get at it!

definitely both book the day off, you can be as loud as you want with teen at school and toddler at nursery/childcare

(the hotel is more fun though)