To leave toddler playing in the other room for a bit?

[Frogmarch89]

So 18 month old has a giant playpen full of toys. If somebody is in the room she will only play in it with somebody else, she won't play independently. However if there is nobody else in there she happily plays with her toys and talks to her Teddy bears and dolls.

So sometimes I put her in it, make a cuppa and go in the other room for 20 minutes or so. Both doors are open so I can hear her playing and it is safe in there.

I mentioned doing this to my friend and she says that its not normal to leave a child that young alone. I didn't really think anything of it, it's only now and again and gives me a chance to have a cuppa in peace.

AIBU?

If you say so. Again that's your opinion. Healthcare worker knew what I was doing. I'm pretty sure if she thought i was neglecting my son she would of reported me to social? But she didn't.

Sadly it is but it's still rare.

No, you aren’t. It’s absolutely inexcusable to take that sort of risk with a baby. Inexcusable.
To not know the risk is one thing, to think you know better is a particularly awful approach. Defending it is another level of dreadful.

We are. And I'm not going to take shir from anyone else on here. Go and be judgey elsewhere.

To the people saying this is lax parenting or unsafe what exactly is the difference between this and leaving an 18 month old to go to sleep in their cot? What is unsafe anyway when the mum is just outside can hear everything and has a peep in occasionally? 🙄

OP enjoy your well deserved mini breaks whilst your daughter amuses herself perfectly safely!!

The opposite of 'better' is not 'dangerous',

I would never put my son in a dangerous situation

Absolutely fine OP - you crack on 👏 speaking of helicopter parenting though I heard the funniest story from a friend recently. An acquaintance of my friend booked into a hotel for a week with her hubby so they could spend Freshers Week with their 18/19 yr old DS at his new Uni! 🤣🤣🙈 (no additional needs for the son btw).

Omg how embarrassing for the boy!

That’s the biggest pile I’ve ever read.

i think you have consent rights a bit warped. The idea is you don’t share someone’s images publicly without their consent. A live stream for safety is a completely different matter. Where do you draw the line? No monitor at all? Do you never take pictures at all of your children?!

You do know it’s exactly the same right?! Not all video baby monitors are connected to the internet etc? The only literal difference is that there is picture as wel as sound.

You did, though. You just don’t want to acknowledge that.

You neglected to follow safe sleep guidelines for a two month old baby. That is putting them in a dangerous situation.

@FestiveSandman I think you've made your view known, over and over and over again!

This is no longer about you advocating for the safety of a baby, it's not you continually berating a mother.

I think you should leave this post now.

*now you

Doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Rare doesn't mean screw the research let your kid sleep whereever

Look I don't need or deserve judgement. I went with what I felt right and it worked out. We were both happy.

Thank you.

It means look at the research and making your own risk assessment as a parent.

Ultimately, we all take risks with our children. Especially if we drive.

Because I didn't respond to you on my thread you thought to come back to this one. Just leave it.

Look I'm glad it worked out.

You do not have to respond to every comment I make, you know.

@FestiveSandman stop trying to get the last word against @Mamato29192, it's clear for everyone to see if the search your posts, that you've come back on here hours later to inflame the situation.

You've made your point, so stop this bizarre behaviour, quite honestly it's making your point less valid, because you seem irrational.

Yes its very bizarre 😐

Thank you.

It is bizarre to keep replying to someone when you apparently aren’t interested in what they have to say, isn’t it? 😂