I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

[BlackFriYay]

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

Karma in Action

That's utterly priceless!🤣🤣🤣

I'm in the ignore it and make him sweat camp. Block him.

If he should make contact asking about DNA tests then I would take great enjoyment out of telling his solicitor that DD is now 15 (or whatever age she is) years old so cannot be his, and here is a copy of her birth certificate. It would be great to see him get egg on his face which he would be having to pay for. 🤣🤣

😂😂😂 That's hilarious!

I think it's a bit silly to leave it unread to punish him because you're going to need to use headspace to message him at some point. If you do it now then you can block him and close that chapter. You dont need to play power games to boost your self esteem.

YABU

You don’t pretend to be pregnant or have had a baby with someone, that’s just childish.

Tell him the truth and just block him.

Please do this op 🤣🤣

Jesus Christ, all these women acting as if men have absolutely no say in a pregnancy. Men have a CHOICE. They do not have to risk unwanted conceptions. They are not helpless victims who don't have access to condoms. They can even choose NOT TO HAVE SEX if they think it's too risky.

For crying out loud.

Ooh give it at least a week before you tell him or ideally never. 😂

I'd be photoshopping on mini football team kits of his team with comments like 'following in Daddy's footsteps'.

Evil and unnecessary? Yes.

Nourishing to the soul - also yes.

You're totally not going to hell for not leaping to put the poor man's mind at rest. Given that he told you he's not on social media he's got a bloody nerve looking for reassurance about something he found out where he wasn't invited to look. I'm more cynical than some posters here (though less cynical - and evil - than others!) and wonder if he just wanted to make sure he wasn't going to get nailed for maintenance at any point. Just tell him whatever you're comfortable to tell him, at whatever time you feel like doing so, with a clear conscience, since you weren't the one playing silly buggers in the first place. I liked the "thought you weren't on social media" suggestion, personally. But silence and blocking is probably the way to go.

Sensible response: no, it's not, don't worry.

Not sensible response: how would you feel if it were?

He hasn't been careful at all with your feelings, so I don't think you have any responsibility to be careful with his. Also he's being pretty creepy by stalking your social media, and rewarding that behaviour with attention might not be a good idea.

I think no reply and block is the best bet. If he wants to ask you in a more official capacity than an Instagram message then you can respond accordingly, but I suspect that after this tactic doesn't get him your attention, he will probably give up.

He knew i had school age children yes. God knows why they weren't the first thing that sprung to mind when he saw the picture. He thinks the picture is a new baby.

😂😂😂
This has absolutely made my evening. I agree, let him sweat.

However, surely you posted something along the lines of happy birthday to your daughter with the photos? Is he unable to read? Surely he'd read the caption and see he was wrong? 🤨

@BlackFriYay I have nothing to add except that may be you need to increase your privacy settings on social media if people who aren't your friends can see your posts.

Oh, you cannot do this to us! Just put "Please don't try this at home" as an opt-out and then share.

Many of us have the need to know..........begging

I haven't pretended anything! It is all wild assumption on his part.

Oh OP, this is hilarious!

please, please ignore him, and don’t let him think that you’ve even read the post. ( keep a screenshot of his message though).

Can’t believe pps are suggesting you should put him straight eventually. Just ghost him.

‘Sorry who is this? I’m a little busy at the moment’
Then ignore

You are because you’re not telling him the truth straight away.

You know he thinks that you’ve had a baby which is potentially his but you’re not denying it - so you are pretending that you’ve had his baby.

Reply:

'Don't worry, your name's not on the birth certificate'.

Which is, of course, true.

For those pp who are saying he should be rewarded for being so "responsible" - don't worry, he'll keep cyber stalking op and find out quickly that it's an old photo of school-age dd.

So ghost away, op!

She hasn't pretended anything. He has assumed because he was cyber stalking her and is probably now crapping himself in case he is liable to pay child maintenance.

He has also now been caught out in the lie that he told about not doing social media.

So fair enough to let the twat sweat.

In my heart and soul I want to be @Mangledrake .

Unfortunately I am like the rest of you!!

I think - ignore!

But borrow a baby and line up another post soon...😎

Sourpuss