I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

[BlackFriYay]

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

She's not - the picture wasn't for him, he came across it by stalking her social media after she rejected him. She doesn't have to respond to this man who treated her badly. If he keeps stalking her and keeps jumping to incorrect conclusions about what he discovers there, does she have to keep breaking no contact to reassure him, or she's pretending that it's all true?

Itsssssss a landslide! YANBU. Looks like there's been a lot of women fcked over on this thread, myself included.

How hard would it be for him to find you? (internet search reveal employer/other details such as being in a choir). Would he turn up to ask?

But she is not pretending.

Through his own lies, he saw something and deduced something.

He did a 2+2 = 7 (baby + op = my baby).

Op has not said anything at all.

The guy sounds like an utter moron, I wouldn't even respond.

I just wouldn't reply - EVER

You must tell him....just wait a week or three

I honestly wouldn't reply at all. You don't owe him anything. I'd read it and delete it and forget about it.

She hasn’t. This Twat of a man has made an arrogant assumption.

Reply:

'Don't worry, your name's not on the birth certificate'.

Which is, of course, true.

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OP this has just made my commute home today 🤣

You are under NO OBLIGATION to respond to him

Can't believe that isn't obvious to some posters

"She'll always be my baby."

Naw, just block without saying anything.

Ha ha! The words “just desserts” spring to mind.

Just to add - even if he is thick as mince (and it very much sounds like he is), he can just look back a month or two and see other photos of op, clearly not pregnant. It would take minutes.

Even if he doesn't have the sense to do this himself, at some point he'll talk to someone else about it who will have to do about 5 minutes of detective work to put him straight.

So really, there is no need for anyone's heart to bleed for this man.

This thread is pure savagery and I’m here for all of it 😂😂😂

Photoshop a pic with triplets and you.

or maybe just reply and say ‘sorry do I know you’?

This. This is gold dust.

He doesn't know where I live, I've moved since the last time I saw him. I don't think he would resort to knocking on my previous place, which is empty and being refurbished so if he were to go knocking he'd soon realise that 😁

My God _ I am in the library supposed to be studying for an exam.

I keep snorting.

I still think my suggestion is best - BORROW A BABY and do another post in a week or so.

I would just not respond OP.

I've had my fair share of avoidant-type twats who circle on social media and pop-up, out of the blue to take up headspace. It is best to 'drop the rope' and stop the whole persuer/persued dynamic.

Either he is trying to reopen the lines of communication to be a twat again, and you don't want to dignify that, or he will realise what a pillock he is in his own sweet time and won't be able to blame you for any silly games you have played. You won't know when the penny will drop, but in a few months time you will realise it must have done, and it will be delicious.

But she’s implying and not denying which is just as bad.

Putting up a baby photo is no different to putting up a pregnancy test, scan photo, engagement ring etc. everyone would assume something.

He’s actually doing the right thing by making sure it’s not his baby.

Its very telling from some of these replies how low some women would stoop to just to get ‘revenge’.

Photoshop a pic with triplets and you.

😂😂😂

I'd reply, 'don't be ridiculous. I'd never have a child with someone like you'

Yes!! With today's newspaper in shot so it's clearly recent lol

If he's the sort of person you describe, I don't believe for one minute he thinks it is his.

I think it is blatant attempt to re-engage you in communication because you told him where to go.

In other words, an attempt to hoover you back up into his sex rotation.

I don't think he's sweating at all.

My advice ignore it 100% and don't reply. It will drive him insane - not because he thinks it is his baby but he couldn't get over that you weren't interested so he really will go mental if you aren't even responding.