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I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

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BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 16:54

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

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ladygindiva · 17/11/2023 23:45

This is brilliant. You're just so busy at the moment you just don't have time to reply... Oops now you've completely forgotten to reply. Ever. Serves the twat right. Love it.

Grrrrdarling · 18/11/2023 00:37

BlackFriYay · 15/11/2023 16:54

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

I wouldn’t even reply to him I would just block him.
You owe him no communication or explanation at all & he can sweat forever for being a d1ck!

CandyLeBonBon · 18/11/2023 07:29

@Grrrrdarling you need to read OP's updates

Dibbydoos · 18/11/2023 09:16

Hilarious!

You owe him nothing...

CostelloJones · 19/11/2023 01:06

This has actually been my favourite thread in a while…

contender for MN Classics IMO 🤰🏻

Concannon88 · 19/11/2023 01:25

I cant get over all the replies practically saying you're leading him on. You havent had a baby, you arent in a relationship anymore, therefore there is no onus on you to ever speak to him again, especially not to put his paranoia to rest.

Hellohowareyou12 · 19/11/2023 16:58

Exactly I agree Concannon88 🤦🏽‍♀️
hope you’re ok OP
you made me chuckle!

CostelloJones · 19/11/2023 17:57

@MNHQ please keep this one forever 😂

Meowandthen · 19/11/2023 19:07

Greyarea12 · 16/11/2023 20:33

Ok well.. I stand by my last posts since your recent updates.

There's something really wrong with you & the women on this thread.

You think that because he ghosted you, 'used you for sex' that it is OK to do what you have done.

You ain't invisible. I see right through you. The story goes.. women seeking revenge. Its not a coincidence that 9 months after the 3 month fling ended you just so happen to post a picture of your teenager as a baby, as your profile pic, the only pic he would be able to see.

The plan - to seek revenge on him by having him believe you had had his baby. Of course though, you had to seek approval from mumsnet and that you did get.

Of course though, you needed to ensure you didn't come off bad so you listed all the wrongs he has done to you and had to put in the post that you weren't going to lead him to beleive you had had his baby. But of course, that is exactly what you did. Only you went further by then telling him his name wasn't on the BC.

Having a baby is the biggest life changing event any person will ever go through. To lead someone on like that for revenge is vile, disgusting and infact makes you abusive.

He doged a bullet with you like. You should be ashamed.

If their is one post the daily mail picks up on, I hope it is this one. To shine a light on the lengths that women will go to to punish and seek revenge on any man who dares to do them wrong.

What you have done is worse and makes you abusive. No matter how many of your buddies on this post want to quote this post and 'defend' you, it doesn't change it.

Oh look. Another weird bloke stalking a form for women and trying to play the victim.

🙄🥱😴

Grimupnorth442 · 19/11/2023 20:50

It's not exclusively for women though is it.

Thelnebriati · 19/11/2023 21:04

If their is one post the daily mail picks up on, I hope it is this one. To shine a light on the lengths that women will go to to punish and seek revenge on any man who dares to do them wrong.

LOL! The lengths! If he hadn't stalked his ex's profile, he'd never have seen the photo...

CandyLeBonBon · 19/11/2023 21:17

Grimupnorth442 · 19/11/2023 20:50

It's not exclusively for women though is it.

You a fella then?

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 19/11/2023 21:20

Grimupnorth442 · 19/11/2023 20:50

It's not exclusively for women though is it.

Men can read and post without being entitled pricks. In fact, we expect them not to be entitled pricks when they post.

SurprisedWithAHorse · 19/11/2023 21:45

Grimupnorth442 · 19/11/2023 20:50

It's not exclusively for women though is it.

No but it's known to be mostly women and that attracts a certain kind of man who needs more punishment than he's prepared to pay for.

As well you know.

Grrrrdarling · 20/11/2023 10:56

CandyLeBonBon · 18/11/2023 07:29

@Grrrrdarling you need to read OP's updates

@CandyLeBonBon Read them… absolutely ROTFLMAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Girl power is alive & kicking. Hopefully he will stop smoking, buck his ideas up & put a ‘sock’ on it in future 😂

SerafinasGoose · 20/11/2023 13:26

Grrrrdarling · 20/11/2023 10:56

@CandyLeBonBon Read them… absolutely ROTFLMAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Girl power is alive & kicking. Hopefully he will stop smoking, buck his ideas up & put a ‘sock’ on it in future 😂

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Neeeeyope.

Hopefully he will fuck the fuck off. And not come back.

The intended outcome is beautifully simple by MN standards.

Globerunner · 08/12/2023 07:49

I wouldn't reply at all on the grounds it might encourage him to start pestering you. He's treated you really badly, you owe him nothing.

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