I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

[BlackFriYay]

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

35, no children 😁

Yeah he smokes alot of weed. He would say he gets anxiety and I suggested that's probably something to do with it.

would you have wanted someone who was 35 and what seemed to be a fairly serious cannabis smoker in your children’s lives even if he hadn’t ghosted you multiple times after sex?

I have nothing against people who smoke cannabis, it's legal in plenty of places and can be prescribed by the NHS now.

I wouldn't have it in my house. My children are nothing to do with it.

I have nothing against people who smoke cannabis, it's legal in plenty of places and can be prescribed by the NHS now.

so you don’t know that often goes hand i. hand with paranoia and other serious side effects?

and he’s 35

not 20

yes but if you thought you loved him, then presumably you were imagining him one day in your children’s lives?

either way - sounds like the end was a true blessing!

OP, don't feed the mras. They love it... attention innit.

I don't think it's as often as people make out. Haven't like 40% of youths tried it?

People tend to be quite selective about things. Found out on here the other week that ADHD meds give you an eightfold increase in the likelihood of getting parkinsons or similar, yet middle aged women in their droves are flocking to be prescribed it. Five year wait in some areas!

I thought it was prescribed to treat anxiety? (I'm not a weed advocate btw, just like knowing the facts).

Completely irrelevant to the thread. The situation is an open and shut case. I don't smoke cannabis. He has never met my children and I wouldn't have had cannabis in the house. Did you miss the part of his message where he says "you were right before I should stop smoking"?

This is the last response I'm going to give about cannabis as it's completely derailing the thread with the sole intent to paint me in a bad light 🙄

a seriously lucky escape i would say

You couldn't make it up could you 😂

First he thought you couldn't be in love in three months and now he thinks you can't care about someone without making immediate plans to move him in as a substitute dad.

It's really patently obvious what his greatest relationship was with and if anyone thinks it sounds desirable, you can get one yourself for £19.99 on LoveHoney. I'd just ignore.

There are no rules that you must reply. Block him and forget him completely.

@Greyarea12
If their is one post the daily mail picks up on, I hope it is this one. To shine a light on the lengths that women will go to to punish and seek revenge on any man who dares to do them wrong.

She made him wait 24 hours for a reply. 24 hours. You don't need much of a light to shine on that length 🙄

Absolutely. It also needs pointing out that OP hasn't gone to any lengths at all. She's done precisely nothing.

He did it all himself. He stalked her social media. He (claimed to have) deduced some amazing scenario, 2+2=364, from a pic of a baby posted on that child's actual birthday, which every circumstance suggests OP was doing what mums do, not fishing for a response for a man who claimed not to use SM in the first place. He spotted a way to resume communication with OP, and he got what he wanted which was to open up a dialogue. Happily, the turn of events which followed ensured that all he achieved was to make a complete and utter twat of himself. QED.

This was brought about entirely by him. OP contributed nothing. Actually, yes, she did. She posted a thread on Mumnset, causing a large amount of fun, entertainment and much-needed lightheartedness on a site which these days badly needs it.

OP. Be kind.
You are not behaving in the manner that good ladies should.
You and all the nasty women on this thread are evil meanies who should be burnt at the stake.
I hope you understand what an awful person you are and how you deserve a public flogging for being horrible to this a catch of a man.
You should have been unswervingly grateful for his attention.

The vote demonstrates 95% support for the OP. That means that we have a very vocal 5% who have dominated the thread. Which is typical.

YANBU, OP, it definitely serves him right! 😂

How grateful we fair maidens should be they took a moment out from their fleshlights to post their misspelled wisdom here to keep us all in line!

He spotted a way to resume communication with OP, and he got what he wanted which was to open up a dialogue

This. I don’t believe for a second this guy really thought OP had had a baby.

Say the baby is named after him and then give the name as a ludicrous version like Jonathaniana (girl) or Jonathanionathan (boy)

Just reply 'well unlike you I haven't been sleeping around'

Lol

You are very naive. He knows it's not his baby. Go look at photos you took 12 years ago, then look at 5 year old photos then look at present day photos. They look very different unless you have the same phone. And if you have the same phone I want to know what make it is because I go through a phone in 2 years, 3 at a push.

He is just trying a conversation starter, if it works he has an in, a potential "session " bloody cringe. If it doesnt work well then he is being ghosted, just like he did to OP.

I'm late back to this thread so obviously after all I've said there is now a whole conversation going on. But meh.

Maybe. But no harm in playing the game a bit. He sounds like a bellend