Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

🤣🤣🤣 is he 90?! You just sound incompatible to be honest and he sounds boring. You sure about this relationship OP?

Oh wow just read the weekends thing OP. What the help do you get out of this relationship? He sounds so boring and unfun! Find someone better.

Not everyone is like you. When on holiday we generally go to sleep about 10.30 and are up by 7. I think a lie in until 11 is a complete waste of life, when you could have been up a mountain eating a mid morning snack by then.

Oh my days OP bloody hell. Get rid! He'll zap the life out of you. Jesus.

My MIL is nearly 82 and she wouldn't go to bed that early to watch TV unless she was ill. She'd be out for dinner later then a few cocktails in a bar, people watching.

I have the ick on your behalf! What is he expecting you to do, lie in bed awake, not daring to move or look at your phone incase he gets any less than 12 hours sleep? He sounds lazy and slobbish and I personally don’t find that attractive.

Oh god, how boring! I'd be wide awake at 7am too! Doesn't sound like much of a holiday to me. If I were you, I'd take myself off for a walk or I'd be going stir crazy if he doesn't plan on getting up for a few hours.
Are yo7 sure you're compatible?

Why keep doing this when you are so mismatched?

Expecting him to change to suit you is unrealistic, to say the least.

I guess he’s entitled to sleep in as much as he wants but he can’t expect you to sit there silently and not get up after you’ve had the usual 8 hours sleep. As long as you are as quiet as you can be.

But I’m not sure I could live with someone who does nothing all weekend. Or goes to bed drunk at 5 pm on holiday. It doesn’t seem much fun at all.

If he’s got other redeeming points? Then you’ll have to accept that you’ll be doing a lot of your own thing this holiday. Pack your bag the night before and slip out to the pool or beach on your own when you wake up. I wouldn’t be wasting my holiday watching someone sleep whilst I’m expected to be basically silent. No way.

We know what they were doing, they were watching Masterchef!

While I wouldn’t want to be woken up at 7 on holiday, he is unreasonable saying you can’t unpack your case or have a brew. Sod that.

I’d go out on my own. Let him lie in and arrange things for yourself. If he is awake and wants to join you then great but if not you aren’t missing out.

Can you go for a walk? go for a coffee surely you don't need to sit it the room waiting for him to wake up? Sounds like you are a bit mismatched with your holiday expectations. Think you need to accept that or it will just be arguments. In saying that getting up late and getting drunk is not much fun for anyone so maybe you both need to have a chat about what you would like to do over the holiday and try and get a bit on the same page but let him have is lie on he may need it. I find once I start to relax on holiday I could sleep forever, body catching up on much needed rest and relaxation.

Are you being serious? On holiday?
I'm just back from the Canaries with young kids and we didn't even do this 😳

I love my sleep so hate been waken up too while on holidays so early. I think 9am or even 10am is reasonable. You still have all day yo enjoy.

But yes, it looks like you are not compatible. He wants to sleep snd watches tv and you want to be out and about exploring

You’re just incompatible holiday goers. DH and I have been happily married for nearly 20 years but I get up at 6am on holidays and hit the beach with a book and coffee. He sleeps in till 10am which I find ridiculous and a waste of a holiday. You just have to get your stuff packed the night before , shoes by the door and slip out as quietly as possible. Then meet later when he’s awake . I refuse to waste my holiday sleeping and he refuses to waste his holiday waking up too early. Enjoy your solo mornings. I love mine.

Unpack, get dressed and go out for the day. You are likely to be spending much of this holiday alone, so you might as well start now.

Why would you assume he paid for the holiday?

DP is lazy on holiday, he says he has his life scheduled to the milli-second, but on holiday this is abandoned completely.

Anyone who told me when I could or could not make tea would be doing the rest of his sleeping in the corridor.

OP you have been with him for 4 years, this is him. He will still be like this in 40 years.

Is that the life you want? To spend your life with a man who would rather be in bed asleep every weekend? What if you have DC? That is what you need to think about. But don't expect him to change.

and I do have to wonder why did you spend £3K on a holiday abroad if all he wants to do is sleep all the time? Such a waste of money for him.

Have you looked at holidays for singles where you go with a group of people? I have a friend who does this and she has travelled all over the world and made some great friends.

I couldn’t be bothered with somebody like that. If it was a one off after a busy day travelling fair enough but doesn’t sound like it is.

I like to be up and out to do things on holidays. Maybe you could lay out your clothes tonight so that if he’s like that tomorrow you just suit yourself go for a nice walk or a coffee and see him later on in the morning. Enjoy your holiday.

Who spends ££££ to go on holiday to stay in bed and watch tv??

Honestly OP, you’re not compatible as HE IS a lazy arse. Some women are happy to lie around on a lounger all day but it wouldn’t suit me. Is this what you really want too?

You know there are millions of men out there and if you chuck this one back and keep dating, you’re more likely to find someone who enjoys the same things that you do, getting up early and getting on with doing fun stuff.

I had an ex who wasn’t lazy but always waited for me to make all the decisions. Drove me batty. When I met my now DH, he was so different to my ex and I knew he was a keeper when he invited me on a fabulous holiday with him to the far east. He organised everything and we had trips out with just a guide and a driver. It was amazing.

Yes, I thought that too. Going to bed at 5.30pm or something and sleeping 12+ hours.

If you think someone else's need for sleep/rest/whatever is lazy you might be with the wrong person.

He's also being a dick for complaining you went into another room to make tea.

If you want to go and do things, go and do them. Don't let him stop you. Presumably you have things planned since you spent so much money and don't just want to stay in bed.