Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

I would be more concerned about the future if the relationship if you want children… who notoriously ruin your sleep and generally have activities at weekends etc. you would effectively be doing all night wakes, early mornings and this would be hellish. If you don’t want children then this is obviously moot.

Go out for a walk before even having a drink in the morning???

I’m always awake early, infact I get up earlier when I’m on holiday 🤣🤣
i get up make a coffee, sit outside and drink it, we always do A/I, so sometimes I’ll go down to the restaurant when it opens and grab us both a decent coffee and then go back to our room, he’s a light sleeper so I always wake him up, he doesn’t mind, we then drink the coffee and by about 8/8.30 go for breakfast. I find it’s better weather in the mornings abroad and starts clouding in as the day goes on so prefer to make the most of the weather.
we eat at around 7/7.30 in the evenings, have a couple of drinks then take a couple of drinks back to our room and sit outside and people watch 🤣
we go to bed around 9/10 o’clock depending on how warm it still is!

Omg the amount of babies in this thread is ridiculous.
How dare someone get themselves a drink, boo hoo, the little baby boyf woke up. Get a grip will you. I don’t like to waste a holiday I’ve spent thousands on languishing in bed. You might as well hit a b&b in Blackpool ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

It’s unreasonable for you to want him to be up so early when he wants to relax but also unreasonable of him to want you to lay silent for hours until he wakes. He doesn’t want you unpacking your case whilst he is asleep which if you’re unpacking in the bedroom is understandable but you only unpack once so when that’s done going forward could you not put a bikini/clothes etc out ready for the morning and head to the pool or head out for a few hours then he can join you when he’s ready. That way your not wasting your first few hours of the day

Let him sleep, its a holiday.

Oh OP..........in no way should you EVER, EVER, EVER.....EVER.. have to creep around unable to do anything in morning so that your idiot ( sorry, he sounds like a boring idiot) man can sleep because hes got no impoteus to get up and do something with his lovely partner on your precious 3k holiday time together......if he wants to sleep early and lie in late and get drunk and watch his usual Brit TV on tele while on holiday, just leave him at home! He can do all that to his hearts content in his bedroom ! He's not worth spending the 3k on honestly, next time just take yourself and a (fun, easygoing) friend, who won't bicker with you over boiling a blooming kettle, on an amazing trip instead. He's so not worth the energy you took to even type this post, seriously. You do you, and let him do him,he'll never change, people don't usually, and he hasnt even tried to compromise until now. Just give up and find your peace elsewhere.

On our honeymoon my husband had flu and had to be in bed most of the day (not the same but you see where I’m going), so I went to the pool, got food, chilled around the hotel until he was feeling better. Go enjoy your holiday! You don’t need to miss out :)

If this is a holiday what does the future look like?

I get up at 4 a.m for work . I'm a terrible sleeper anyway,4 hours a night is my usual. I do like to doze and lie in on a Saturday though. I like to be up early on holiday,I don't want to miss anything!
My partner sleeps much better than me but will sleep through me getting up and making coffee, he lives in a bedsit plus ensuite. He's up early on holiday too though as he hates missing his all inclusive breakfast.
Op you should get up and get on with your day if you wish!

Getting up later on hols ok. Bt why is he going to bed so early on holiday?? I knownthe area,miss nice to be out on hols, are u sure this is the life u want forever if he does the same at game. Does he work particularly hard during the week?

I wonder if he is depressed. Depressed people want to sleep and sleep.

I think 7am is too early to be woken up on holiday (unless got a special excursion etc). However, thinking about the amount your partner needs to sleep, is it possible he has a vitamin deficiency? B12, vitamin D, or an electrolyte imbalance? Or Iron.

Any of these can cause fatigue and also, in turn, to depression resulting in more time sleeping.

Just a thought!

Haven’t read full thread so apologies BUT I’m an early riser and DP is a later waker. At home he would probably sleep till about midday if nothing to wake up for BUT mostly sets alarms around the 10am mark (he goes to bed much later than me on weekends)

On holiday, I tend to wake about 7/8ish, I take that time to sit on the balcony, do my crosswords, browse on my phone, watch the sunrise. But have also gone about my day- popped to the local shop (self catering) got some food bits in etc. sometimes I’ll go exploring the area. He’ll wake about 9ish which is our middle ground as he (and I) recognise the need to chill whilst on holiday but also doesn’t want to waste away the day.

I think moving forward you have to find a middle ground but Yeahh… because 8 hours sleep is enough for you doesn’t mean it is for others. HTH- enjoy the rest of your holiday !

I am always up first on holiday 🤣who wants to waste time sleeping in? Quietly make yourself a cuppa, drink it on the balcony then get ready and go for a wander/ breakfast. Leave him in his bed. If I woke someone up making myself a coffee it would be tough s* I’m afraid. I wouldn’t be sitting silently in bed on my phone till 1100am for anyone. Not on holiday.

My DH likes to sleep for the first day or so but we're not going to bed at 8pm! Usually 11pm and wake up 9am or 10am. Although we're often awake after midnight.

He does sometimes wake up early like you did and just lets me sleep. I text him if I wake early and he brings me coffee, otherwise he tries to disturb me as little as possible.

are you well suited?
could this be make or break situation?

How old is he? Sounds boring eating at 6.30 that really early in Spain.

That's ridiculous.

It's too early for someone who wants to lie around in bed (which they could do at home), but it's a perfectly reasonable time for someone who finds lying in bed a waste of time.

In that situation, I'd get up, make myself a cup of tea, and then go out and about and leave him to laze around in bed. I haven't got a phone so wouldn't be scrolling around on it - and if I had, I'd still think it was a waste of a holiday. If all you want to do it lie in bed and look at your phone, you might as well stay at home.

We have saved all year for this holiday

What a tragedy to then lie in bed early evening watching Masterchef.

OP, I wouldn't be hanging around for this man, neither on holiday or at home if he spends all weekend at home/in bed. Does he not have to get up and do food shopping etc? I hope you're not acting like a maid for him.

He spends 60 hours lying about the house every weekend??
Do you have any social life? He sounds dreadful.

Is he an alcoholic? I'd have left him after the last holiday of waking up only to get drunk. It sounds like you're engaged in some pretty expensive magical thinking here, that spending lots of money will guilt-trip him into changing. He sounds selfish, dull and controlling, and you don't seem very interested in him.

So my DH is like this on holiday. Actually weekends too unless we have plans. I can’t sleep late so usually up and about early. I’m good on 6 hours normally.

On holiday I just get up and dressed (quiet but he won’t have a go if I wake him) quick coffee on the balcony then I’ll head to the pool for a swim. Will either sit in the sun reading or go for a walk and another coffee in a nice local cafe.

we arrange to meet for breakfast/lunch around 11 and we’re both happy. He gets to lie in and I get the morning to myself.

as others have said though that’s early to bed. On holiday we normally have dinner about 8/9 then a few drinks afterwards. As for watching tv we never have it on.

Who goes to bed at 8pm and watches uk tv on holiday!

I would be pissed if you woke me up at 7, I don’t do early mornings on holiday, whole point is to relax and that you aren’t being dictated to by a clock. Get up, do your own thing and enjoy your holiday. Leave your other half to do what he wants.