Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

What’s the point in going away and doing bugger all.

It’s a holiday not a boot camp

Yes.

How many hours do you sleep? After 10 hours I would be bouncing off the ceiling.

Well last night was a improvement stayed out till 10 and watched the entertainment
I'm up again this morning ,going to make a cuppa and sit on balcony
Managed to sneak out without waking him this morning
I know some people think it's strange getting up 7 am on holiday but my body after 8-9 hours just wakes up
I can't force myself back to sleep
I like a 9am breakfast then getting a good sun lounger next to the pool
If you don't go down before 9.30 You don't get a decent bed

What did you both do during the day?

Fantastic! That’s definitely the way to do it. I regularly get up early on holiday and take a walk while everything is quiet or have breakfast sat outside with a newspaper. In fact they are some of the most memorable moments I’ve had.

Enjoy it!

I would like a sleep in on holiday too so probably wouldn’t appreciate being woken at 7! However if I woke up early, I would be getting dressed and out the door exploring or bring myself off for a nice brekkie, he can buzz you when he wakes and is ready to join you, I wouldn’t be sitting in silence waiting for him to wake up!

I’m an early bird but I don’t expect everyone else to be up at the crack of dawn. Given it’s day 1 reasonable to have a bit of a lie in. Last holiday I popped to supermarket to get some Portuguese tarts for breakfast and just browsed the web for a bit before my adult son got up. He was up for 9 ish though, I personally don’t want to lie in bed until 11pm etc on holiday. It’s difficult if your boyfriend likes sleep. I can’t even imagine getting 8hrs sleep let alone 10!

@crumblingschools we stayed round the pool till lunch time then went into Maspalomas and had some cocktails and had a look around

I'm with you OP in that it's not the time on the clock in the morning that makes the difference for us, it's the length of time in bed.

If DH and I roll in at 2am or later on holiday then we'll sleep happily until noon, but if we've been in bed and asleep at 10 (especially if not drinking) then the chances of either us being asleep past 7am is very slim, and once we're awake we want to seize the day. It's holiday, there's always scope for a nap later.

I like to sleep in but wouldn't expect my partner to lie there awake in silence next to me if they woke earlier. Nothing wrong with you getting up quietly and going to another room.

I’ve always thought this to be one of the most ridiculous sayings. I know I’m probably taking it too literally but still, we need sleep in order to function properly whilst we are alive!

but my body after 8-9 hours just wakes up

Exactly the same for me. I think quite a few posters have missed this point.

My favourite thing on holiday is getting up early and going off exploring local markets or going for walks and coffee by myself. It's so liberating and peaceful. I also then feel smug returning with pastries at 8:30-9:00am as though it's still early and I have achieved something. Enjoy it!

I think you both need to be a bit more reasonable when it comes to the other. He is allowed to sleep in, you’re allowed to get up and make a drink.

My ex used to stay in bed until 10 or later on holiday. I used to think it was a waste, so I’d get up, go for breakfast and down to the beach and he’d catch me up when he caught me up. I didn’t like it, though- it was lonely. And it basically summed up the battle of wills that was the whole relationship. I’m much happier with someone who shares my outlook on life and wants to get up at a reasonable time and make the most of the holiday.

Absolutely agree, it his holiday aswell. While he sleeps in the morning, use the opportunity to shower, dress, coffee and take a swim in the pool, wander round the local area or whatever fills your time for an hour or so.
Either pre-arrange a time for him to meet you for coffee/breakfast, or he can call you when he wakes, and you can meet up then.

I'm glad you had a better night last night and hope your boyfriend is feeling ok.

Just had a thought OP, while you are awake early could you use some of the time to plan stuff for later i.e navigating maps, places to go, booking tickets etc.. This will save time later and you will make up potentially some of the time you have "lost" in the morning as you won't be faffing with maps, getting lost and stuff. If you see what I mean.

Very mixed messages. You woke up and while trying to quietly make a cupppa and go outside your partner woke up, that's fine. It happens and your partner shouldn't be too upset about that. But then you go on about the length of time he sleeps and how they're lazy. So which is it?

You don't sound very compatible tbh

Its completely rediculous.
A life not climbing a mountain before 7 am or getting pastries to feel smug before 9 am is not a life half lived.

I have 4 young kids and work night shifts so I actually have a terrible sleeping pattern 🥲
It’s not really about how long I sleep for each night. It’s more the inconsideration on a morning.

I do have to agree tho that this dp seems very boring reading further posts.

That's not a holiday!

Umm, what? 😱Why are you with this person?