Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

It’s perfectly clear that she wants to do that! It’s him who wants both the early night and the late morning.

Same here.

I wouldn't recommend having children with him ... you will be on the hook for all care.

Oh dear Relationships are supposed to enrich your life
How is this one doing that
He's lazy and dull and is happy to loaf aboutpaying to sleep in another bed, watching a different TV
If he's like this anyway I don't see how to think he would magically change on holiday especially since last year
Treat yourself as if you were single and go and enjoy your days
When you're home, seriously thinking about life continuing single

When we were on holiday I was awake at 5am most mornings and would leave my swimsuit, shorts and a tshirt out so I could go for a walk, swim, coffee in the morning and let DH and the kids sleep.

Some mornings he stirred, some he didn't but he would not have expected me to stay trapped in a room for 4 hours waiting on them waking in the same way I wouldn't expect them to get up. He's being very precious considering he could quite clearly get back to sleep after you accidently disturbed him.

7am is a bit early, especially on the first morning after a day's travelling, and maybe a long week at work, I'd forgive that. I'd want a bit of a lie in on the first day - maybe even 8 or 9!
But your follow up posts sound like he's a serial snoozer.
That's an insane amount of sleep he's wanting for a normal person, unless he has a medical issue.

I’d be furious with a 7am wake up on holiday. I wake up early for work etc every day and holiday would be a nice treat to lay in longer.

8 - 9 is reasonable. Not too late to waste the day and not early.

You'd be furious with 7am if you went to bed at 9pm ?

I'm with you OP - this is an ongoing argument between me and bf. But it's also a large part of the reason i'm pretty sure he won't still be my bf in 4 years time......
and for all the people saying that it's his holiday - it's hers too! they have equal rights to enjoy it hwo they like.

I tend to opt for a one day lie in, one day up 'early' approach on weekends/ holidays. but warn in advance which is which. Then you need to stay up later the nights beforehand so that you don't mind so much

7am is early. What do you want to do when you get up then? For for a walk? Have breakfast?

Getting shitfaced / going to bed early and watching stuff on TV doesn't sound very exciting either.

If I'm on holiday, I want to be able to sleep as long as I want. I don't want to be woken up at 7am like a child being made to get up for school.

With the amount of time that you say he spends in bed, I'm surprised he hasn't got bed sores.

I think there was enough sleep the previous night in the hotel, 12 hours, then an early night the 1st night... You were awake because your body had enough sleep and everyone is excited on the 1st morning so are usually up exploring.

You were in a different room making tea which isn't the noisiest activity, unless you were slamming the cup off the furniture. You didn't wake him physically or shout for him to get up, you accidentally woke him and apologised and left the room.

I use to date a bloke similar, I hated holidays with him, I was early 20s and wanted to get dressed up, eat out, go dancing and have a few drinks and go home when the bars closed, but he wanted dinner between 5pm and 6pm because that's the time he ate dinner, we'd find the quietest bar and have 3 drinks, as soon as they were gone we'd be back at the apartment by 8pm, he'd be asleep within minutes while I sat on the balcony dressed up and no where to go, then he'd be up at 6am, go running, get himself breakfast and come back for me at 9am. He hated the way I holidayed I hated the way he holidayed there was just no happy medium and no one was right or wrong, just different likes, we split not just because of this but having completely different likes can really wear down a relationship.

nope fk dat, I'd get up, get showered, get ready, get out, I'd go do stuff I wanted to do, first day maybe the pool, but I'd be looking for trips and excursions too, and then when he moaned I'd act shocked as he wanted to sleep. No way I'd be waiting for someone to make my holiday what I wanted. Its not going to be long before you're resenting him for wasting your holiday. Don't let it happen.

I think the problem lies the other way round. The bf likes to eat dinner at 6.30pm, have a drink and then get to bed by 8pm. Last night they lay in bed watching Master Chef, on holiday! He sounds boring as fuck. I could do all of that on my own.

You spent your first evening on holiday watching Masterchef 👀 it sounds like you both have your own little holiday foibles that are a bit odd like going to bed early etc but I’d be p!ssed if you woke me up at 7am on holiday, it’s called a holiday for a reason it’s supposed to be a break from the norm

You were awake because your body had enough sleep and everyone is excited on the 1st morning so are usually up exploring.

Yes. I would be the same after that much sleep. There are a lot of sleepyheads on this thread.

To be honest after reading a bit more and how you like to say he spends his weekends it sounds like there’s a LOT more going on here than him wanting a lie in, you two sound like you are in an incompatibile nightmare, something you may want to address, also if he doesn’t leave his bed all weekend what makes you think he’ll do a Lazarus on holiday 🤷🏼‍♀️

I do love breakfast buffets but at the same time I always say you can always get more food during the day when you are out but you can't get more sleep! 😅

What are you doing this evening op? Please say you are out and enjoying yourselves too much to be in bed watching tv.

Why don’t you go and do something when he wants to sleep. You don’t have to be together for every moment of your holiday, surely? During our last holiday, for an hour or two each day, kid 1 went to teen club, kid 2 was in kids club and I hit the gym & spa. Sometimes my husband joined me, other times he would just hang in a cafe and looked at the stunning views with a drink in his hand. Loved it. We spent the rest of the time together, as a family.

It's GBBO tonight! What are you expecting them to be doing? 🍰

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Sounds to me like he's a selfish little shit OP. Personally I couldn't put up with this, going to bed early to watch TV at home, might be OK, but all weekend, and on holiday? I'd be packing my bags and heading off for a bit more excitement than he's clearly offering you? Sorry, late to the party so haven't read the full thread, but how old is this guy, in his 60's?

I’m in my 60s and I certainly don’t spend my time in bed. That behaviour would drive me mad. What’s the point in going away and doing bugger all.