Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

YABU saying 8-10 hours is enough, different people have different sleep needs. Id be annoyed being woken at 7am on holiday. That said I'd also be annoyed at spending the evening in bed and/or losing most of the day. It does sound a long time to be in bed, is he always like this?

As PPs have said agree a plan between you that suits you both e.g. you head out early to go for a walk or swim, come back and go for brunch together, then in the evening perhaps you could alternate between going out and about and being in. If he won't compromise on it that's a bad sign.

he sounds quite boring.

Get dressed and go for a walk, take your camera and book. do some exploring on your own, take some nice arty pictures, find a cafe with a view or nice ambience, have breakfast, read your book, chat to some other holiday makers or locals.

go back to the room later this morning / early afternoon, try not to have an argument with the lazy fucker, it'll spoil your holiday.

I’d just get up and go out - leave him a note. It’s not like he can’t call you when his ready and awake to meet you

I'm an early riser on hols, I usually just take myself off to a cafe or for a walk or something, but it can be hard not to disturb someone if you're in the same room! Luckily my bf wears earplugs to sleep which helps.

If all he wanted to do was a week of getting up late then he may as well just saved the money and stayed at home for a week in bed!!

7am isn't early, especially after having so much sleep the previous two nights....

why would you spend £3k to just lay in bed and miss half the morning?

I told my partner about this thread half an hour ago and she said exactly the same!

Holidays are for relaxation. I'd be really pissed off if I had to wake up early.

Again, people need to RTFT.

It was 7am and the first night!

I’ve never been abroad and would love to go to the Canary Islands and if I did I would try and make the most of every second but YABU.
Holidays are meant to be for experiencing new things but also to recharge and be lazy!

You are just very different when it comes to holidays and perhaps you should go and do something in the mornings and evenings to make you feel like you’re not wasting the holiday and he’ll get to sleep longer which is what he wants to do on his holiday.

Waking up at 7am is not missing half of the morning.

So why waste £3,000 going on holiday with him? Did you think this holiday was going to be any different to the last one?

Except for the fact he spends every bloody weekend in bed.

It's pissing down here, dark and cold. Presumably the canaries are mid/high 20s .... such a waste to be lying in bed.

Wow he does sound lazy or unwell with your updates. Is he lacking in something? You sound very mismatched.

I can't understand why the kettle woke him up from another room!
I'd creep out of bedroom but yanbu for making a drink and doing something peaceful in the next room !

This is what I would do.

But then that’s him and he can’t just change because they’re on holiday.

Some people need a lot of sleep and if OP knows this already then she needs to make her own plans.

I think you are being unreasonable to be annoyed at him for still being in bed at 7am and expecting you to be quiet. And I say that as an early riser, well actually an insomniac, but I know my husband likes to lie in when he is on holiday. I would not be impressed with going to bed at 7pm or whatever, that would be my complaint in all of this.

setting the kettle off and banging about with cups isn't exactly quiet. And at 7am on holiday is a bit much.

Get him a sleep mask and ear plugs, but realistically setting off the kettle at 7am isn't very nice at all.

The comments calling you weird for going to bed early are unnecessary as that was not the question...

I get both your perspectives.

I am not a morning person at all so 7 am get up on a holiday is an absolute no from me if I'd had a 'normal' bedtime such as 11 pm, HOWEVER if I went to bed really early I would be fine to get up at the time.

Saying that, perhaps he was knackered and needed to catch up on sleep.

You're not being unreasonable getting up as long as you're quiet. I am assuming he is a bit of a light sleeper?

So, my take is. He is fine sleeping in! I feel 8/9/10 am on holiday is fairly usual? YANBU getting up - if he is a super light sleeper who struggles to sleep oncewoken up he could consider earplugs?

Enjoy your hols x

Exactly....
But waking up at 10am, which is what he wants to do, is. wake up at 10, get ready, go out, that's 11am. Then back for early dinner and evening watching TV? Nah should have stayed home!!

But the OP has booked a suite and was in another room, and they had already had 9 hours sleep, with 12 hours sleep the night before! What is she meant to do - lie motionless in bed until her partner decides to wake up? I don't really understand why she just didn't get up and go for breakfast though.

"Maybe tomorrow I'll wake up later
Think I was a bit excited for the first proper day"

And rightly so, it's your holiday so you want to enjoy every minute and get the most out of it and absolutely right to think that way.

Are you minimising it because you are trying to change yourself to fit into his way of doing things. Or to soothe his feelings so he won't be grumpy with you.

I'd make a plan everyday for the holiday, of things you are going to do on your own.

This. If someone was telling me how many hours sleep I'd had and it was enough it wouldn't go down very well.

He has given me the ick 🤮