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OutOfMyDepth86 · 13/11/2023 15:14

Before I start this is not a teacher bashing thread, on the whole I think they do an amazing job.

My ds14 in year 10 is having a really hard time with one of his teachers, to the point on days he has this teacher he is not wanting to go to school. He has got upset several times and states the teacher singles him out repeatedly. I have emailed school three times and had no response, rang and spoke to the year 10 student coordinator twice, was promised a phone call, email response and got nothing, my ds him has been and ask to move class of a few occasions. He doesn’t get in trouble or have detentions for any other subject.

The issues are as follows:-
We are out of catchment area by 15 miles, first homework was take 35-50 photos of where you live in away it represents community and the place. He did this, I know he did this as I bloody walked around for 90 minutes in the rain helping him and as always I get him to bcc me into homework emails. She told him he hadn’t done the homework properly and just taken random photos of pretty fields and trees as he lives in x place, he informed he didn’t and this is the area he lived. He received 30 minute detention for not doing the homework correctly.

Had to redo the homework same criteria, which he did redo and got told off again. He told her the criteria was where you live not X place and that’s what he did. Got a 30 minute detention for rudeness but she accepted the homework.

She singled him out and wouldn’t allow him to leave the classroom with a camera to complete the coursework made him sit at his desk for all 3 lessons that week. Then gave him a 30 minute detention for not completing the coursework, this has happened three times since September.

According to ds and backed up by a few classmates she screamed in his face in the classroom in front of the class over not completing the coursework, that she didn’t allow him to take part in.

She shouted at him and gave him a 30 minute detention for not looking at her when she was talking to him. He was looking at her to the best of his ability, he has a squint which has been surgically corrected twice and now he has grown is waiting a third operation, his eye involuntarily wonders/crosses, he can’t control this. School are aware as hospital have written to them about seating arrangements best for board work.

There has been several other incidents but these are the worse of them, I can’t allow him to be bullied by this teacher. She is the adult in a position of authority and I don’t think she should be allowed to abuse that power. What do I do as the school are ignoring all my attempts of communication of this issue.

OP posts:
steppemum · 17/11/2023 19:51

OutOfMyDepth86 · 17/11/2023 19:44

Sorry for the delay.
We had the meeting the following day, the teacher made an appearance and did come across as remorseful and apologised for her behaviour. My son will unfortunately have to stay in that class because of time table issues. The teacher will be monitored until February half term by a member of the SLT and my son has been given a go to member of staff if another issue is to arise.

this is a good result, because they are taking it seriously.

Now the hard thing is to reassure your ds that he can go to that teacher if there is a problem, and that he will be OK in that class. It is a fine line between reassurance and making sure he feels OK and safe to return.

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 27/07/2024 19:02

You need to have meeting with the teacher and a third party - Head of Year? It sounds like bullying but you only have your son's version of events.

It does sound like she's at fault if there is no similar response to him from other teachers but you must talk it out with her.

WTF? Sorry I have resurrected an ancient thread and also not read it. Failing on so many levels - apologies.

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