To ask how to handle this teacher situation?

[OutOfMyDepth86]

Before I start this is not a teacher bashing thread, on the whole I think they do an amazing job.

My ds14 in year 10 is having a really hard time with one of his teachers, to the point on days he has this teacher he is not wanting to go to school. He has got upset several times and states the teacher singles him out repeatedly. I have emailed school three times and had no response, rang and spoke to the year 10 student coordinator twice, was promised a phone call, email response and got nothing, my ds him has been and ask to move class of a few occasions. He doesn’t get in trouble or have detentions for any other subject.

The issues are as follows:-
We are out of catchment area by 15 miles, first homework was take 35-50 photos of where you live in away it represents community and the place. He did this, I know he did this as I bloody walked around for 90 minutes in the rain helping him and as always I get him to bcc me into homework emails. She told him he hadn’t done the homework properly and just taken random photos of pretty fields and trees as he lives in x place, he informed he didn’t and this is the area he lived. He received 30 minute detention for not doing the homework correctly.

Had to redo the homework same criteria, which he did redo and got told off again. He told her the criteria was where you live not X place and that’s what he did. Got a 30 minute detention for rudeness but she accepted the homework.

She singled him out and wouldn’t allow him to leave the classroom with a camera to complete the coursework made him sit at his desk for all 3 lessons that week. Then gave him a 30 minute detention for not completing the coursework, this has happened three times since September.

According to ds and backed up by a few classmates she screamed in his face in the classroom in front of the class over not completing the coursework, that she didn’t allow him to take part in.

She shouted at him and gave him a 30 minute detention for not looking at her when she was talking to him. He was looking at her to the best of his ability, he has a squint which has been surgically corrected twice and now he has grown is waiting a third operation, his eye involuntarily wonders/crosses, he can’t control this. School are aware as hospital have written to them about seating arrangements best for board work.

There has been several other incidents but these are the worse of them, I can’t allow him to be bullied by this teacher. She is the adult in a position of authority and I don’t think she should be allowed to abuse that power. What do I do as the school are ignoring all my attempts of communication of this issue.

Well done for sticking up for your child. He will remember that you've done this for him.
I remember a PE teacher who hated me and used to target me with makeup wipes when I had really bad acne. Lots of girls wore makeup but she used to wait in the corridor outside my tutor room and pounce on me, and smirk at my skin.

I called my mum from the toilets saying I literally couldn't bear to show my face one day and I ended up being allowed to cover my acne because she drove to school and took me home. I've always remembered it.

How would getting yourself arrested help your child? Not that you would actually make it past the front office.

Given the evidence of the books and the teacher's admissions, your suspicions seem to be unfounded.

The school should now be investigating this teacher's practice very closely. She's admitting to shouting at students without cause and to preventing one from doing his coursework for no good reason, and she's been caught out lying. That is all looking very like professional misconduct which they have to act on, not least for the sake of their pupils.

I wouldn’t be arrested. I would just make sure all teachers were aware of the incident and that there would not be a repeat. I’ve always acted strongly in any cases of bullying. I’ve never been arrested.

No I just cannot abide bullying and I never let it slide. And I’ve noticed that teachers who get called out for bullying are very shocked to be confronted. So they tend to remember the day they met me

The setup of SLT sounds like Outwood Academy schools.

Also the attitude of the teacher does too.

Well done on advocating for your son.

Did you meet with the DHT?

Don’t you realise you are happy to be a bully yourself

So they tend to remember the day they met me

I imagine it’s something along the lines of…

”remember that rude twat?”

“you know, the one that was escorted off school premises and her son looked utterly mortified?!”

Its good to know that you have a great imagination

I do hear you but when I’ve had these confrontations it has always been in defence of a child and there has always been solid evidence that the teacher has behaved badly. They apologise but yes I suppose you are right that I am the bully in that situation. I really don’t want to be a bully.

But no I’ve never been escorted off any premises or embarrassed my children. I’ve been apologised to as have my children on occasions where an apology is due.

I did not realise that my reactions are so unusual as to be unbelievable! But yes if my child ( or anyone really) needs my support I’m there. Clearly I’m not normal in this respect. Never going to change at this age though

Teacher sounds mental, your poor DS.

Also, does she not believe that you live where you live? Very strange.

If you have tried this anytime in the last 30 yrs (if at all) you would have been escorted off the premises and banned from the school grounds.

Schools are pretty much locked down so that people like you can not do this sort of thing.

@OutOfMyDepth86 - have you taken the issue any further? Have the school come back to you with proposed solutions? Have you had an opportunity to work out what steps you want the school to take here? Will you be escalating it to the Board of Governors?

shame the op didn’t update re the follow up meeting

Hahaha loving the idea you can just walk into a school building in the middle of the day while the kids are being taught and tell a teacher ‘off’ for some bs your child has made up!

In other news of things that never happened…

it’s as though @Candymay has never been in a school or certainly not one since the seventies

it would be so selfish of her to even do this. She would feel like she’d done something. Her child would feel utterly utterly mortified and probably very angry at his mother and not inclined to ever open up to her again

@Candymay
Yet!!

Sorry for the delay.
We had the meeting the following day, the teacher made an appearance and did come across as remorseful and apologised for her behaviour. My son will unfortunately have to stay in that class because of time table issues. The teacher will be monitored until February half term by a member of the SLT and my son has been given a go to member of staff if another issue is to arise.

Well done OP!

Glad to hear it!