Not invited :(

[BlueNavy]

Mum friends just posted on FB them all out drinking and having fun tonight. I'm on the sofa watching telly, wasn't invited and really upset about it. All people I'm friends with and I would have loved to have gone. No falling out, get on with everyone, I hate that things like this happen. Feeling shit now and wondering what else I've missed. Only know cause of stupid social media.😔

Ouch! OP I'm sorry.

Yeah you've been iced out. The only thing you can do is put your efforts into making new friends.

I don't get upset by this sort of thing any more, I expect no loyalty from friends or family. Just enjoy their company with no expectations.

I've had similar, years ago.
I stepped back, but still chatted to a couple of them who I ran into regularly.
There was a queen bee type in the group and over the next couple of years she pushed out a couple of the other less compliant group members.
This is the type of 13 year old/ mean girl behaviour that unfortunately a small number of women never grow out of. They'll pick one person to target and the others go along as they are worried they'll be next .

The other thought, if this is school mums, could your kids have had a falling out?

Why don’t you just come clean
Message them tomorrow. Say ………
“hope you had a great time, I was sad to see you hadn’t asked me too. I would have loved to see you all. “
Then suggest a next night out together. With place, date etc.

just be upfront
you’ regret it if you ponder and wonder why me

I think this would be humiliating

I am going to be totally honest. They don't like you.

Why is it nasty? Maybe they just don't like her? You can't force people to like someone? I actually think it's massive red flags how this woman is obsessed with going out with a group of women. I don't get it.

PLEASE don't do this. It would be totally and utterly humiliating.

..what the poster suggested..do people really do stuff like this???

I would like the photo

That's really hurtful.

I would write in the group chat. Have I done something to upset you ? Then step away from your phone don't read any replies until tomorrow night

Sorry you've had to experience this OP and hope you're feeling better.

For me, I wouldn't be able to get over that they've most likely got another group chat going to organise a night out, and it's not one I'm part of. Was anyone else on the night out or was it just those friends? If just that friendship group then I'd be stepping away and calling it quits.

I think this is very poor advice and should be avoided.

It's the equivalent to the pick-me dance - humiliating as others have said.

Quiet, dignified withdrawal is the route to take when this shit happens. As others have noted, they will turn on someone else within the group in time, it's how they operate. Leave them to it.

Don't do that!! My god people really want the OP to look like a saddo. Just leave it. They're clearly not her actual friends and they have a friendship group outside of what she thinks.

Good god DONT DO THIS

It's not necessarily 'nasty' maybe they don't like her. How she's acting i wouldn't want her in my life either.

Agree with this. You specifically asked re plans 2 days ago and got radio silence - that's a clear message that they did have plans together and you were being kept out of them.

You're right, no friends IS better than fake friends, OP.

I think I'd leave the group and try to move on.

Bless you, that must hurt. They're all spineless shits for not speaking up though. Better off without that in your life.x.

Gosh.
It seems I’m outvoted.
I stand corrected.

You come across as very extreme and judgmental, in both the threads I've seen you in.

Long winded way of spelling arsehole 🤷‍♀️😂

to pp

Nice rude comments from lots of people on here! Poor OP. XX

If the group chat has become mundane, they unfortunately may have created another one without you. I’d wait and see what one or any one of them says, if anything. You can always leave the group chat at a later date.

You aren't coming across as particularly pleasant yourself.

I think you need open communication here. Is there one of the 7 you are closest too? Can you call her/have a face to face chat and tell her how hurt you were, and ask what the reasoning was?

Ignore this poster OP. It’s a totally normal reaction to be hurt by this. You don’t sound obsessed but understandably confused.

It seems unusually unkind to deliberately exclude you and then post a pic on social media they knew you would see.

Are you new to the group? Were they all established friends before you? Or has there been tension with one of them who the others have sided with?

@Sausage1989 Are you one of the women? Or just a troll?