Not invited :(

[BlueNavy]

Mum friends just posted on FB them all out drinking and having fun tonight. I'm on the sofa watching telly, wasn't invited and really upset about it. All people I'm friends with and I would have loved to have gone. No falling out, get on with everyone, I hate that things like this happen. Feeling shit now and wondering what else I've missed. Only know cause of stupid social media.😔

I had something similar happen to me, when I found out my group of close friends had booked a weekend away and not invited me. I walked away from the friendship group, and although it really upset me at the time, I don’t miss them. They were really cliquey and I’d put up with lots of little unkindnesses from them but this crossed a line. Sorry that you’ve had to go through this, it’s a really horrible feeling but says more about them than you.

Could it have been something so spontaneous that they just didn't have the time to include you ? Are they involved with some activity your dc don't go to and theirs do ? Do you socialise with them often ?

I don't think OP is coming back. 😶

It rubbish when people do that - I posted about something similar recently!
Social media makes these moments worse!

I hope for your sake it’s a misunderstanding - it’s easy for people to suggest that you change your friendship group but in reality it’s never that easy.

I would have commented, looks fun, it would be nice for me to come along next time.

I couldn’t have so little self respect.

The original post said mum friend's not mum's friend's so it was op friend's .

Hi sorry for this I know how you feel. It genuinely might be that some one forgot to ask ?

Mum friends are important part of school life. Maybe when you bump in to one in the playground point out politely that you would love to join them next time ! Is there some one who you are closer to in the group that you can have a chat with?

Don’t take it to heart try not be angry might have been an oversight.
Best

Good for you. I would too. It's really shitty.

This happened to me too.
one of the times they went out I had been inadvertently invited by one of them, i couldnt grass the friend up who invited me so i said i was in town anyway and it was just a coincidence.
For years, even after I had cut ties (as I knew they only pretended to like me) if I saw one of them they would bring up how I'd known they were out and tried to get out of me who it was.
They only invited me to make up numbers for cost reasons and party's where the host wants you to buy the candles so they get a free gift.
I wouldn't want to turn the clock back to those days EVER. Mums groups can be really nasty it's like being back at school.
Honestly OP cutting them out of my life completely was the best thing I ever did, it's not good for your mental health and believe me it gets worse because it becomes like a game to them and cements their bond with each other.
Find another lot of friends that are genuine
Take care OP all the best, sending you hugs 😘

Hugs to you OP.

Just let them! Not really any of your business what they are doing. Focus on yourself.

I would have put a similar message on. It’s awful but probs a genuine mistake. Message one of the group separately and ask what happened to your invite.

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Then surely an apology would have been forthcoming by now…. I

People are twats. It's not you, it's them.

I’d take isolating myself any day over having to maintain fake friendships in order to feel fulfilled. Some people might be fine with that sort of shite, but the older I’ve got the more I realise that I don’t give a shit, I can rely on myself if needs be. Too many people settle for being treated like dirt in life.

People meeting up for one on ones within a group is very different from one person being 'deliberately' excluded from a group meet up.

@BlueNavy you going to come back and update us?

It’s that awful stomach dropping moment-
I felt that. In my experience any attempt
to tackle the situation either by being nice or straightforward you still will have lost trust with them and it’s not the same. I think you did a good thing by letting them know you know and leave it at that.

Cry it out, be honest how much it hurts- because it genuinely does- and then find a hobby, anything that can take up your time so they can’t “pull you back” when they feel like it.

Just be busy with more important things, even if you have to fake it!

I would never write that. Sounds really desperate and desperate isn't attractive.
Just rise above it. Distance yourself and reach out to other people. I'm sure there are other people who would love your company.
I'd never chase people who didn't want me there. You deserve better.

Definitely not childish and passive aggressive. Ironic that you make that comment to her about social media.. on social media ha

The organiser has to be the culprit I would imagine. She clearly had to invite everyone. I have never had a big circle of women friends. Just a couple of very close friends. I much prefer working with only men too. Seen so much bitching at work with only a group of women. I would go out for lunch to avoid the lunch time bitch fest. Perhaps she is jealous in some way or perhaps a simpler less sinister explanation. Best to speak up then fester.

Could it be purchased tickets to a fundraiser you did not buy?

@BlueNavy did anyone respond to the comment you wrote? You haven’t
responded on here since page 1!