Would you wait forever for your dream man or would you ‘settle’?

[Missgemini]

Random post that doesn’t actually affect my life, but I’ve been wondering about this.

I’m in my early 30s, married with kids (just for background). I have a couple of close friends that are single and looking. They’ve dated, but haven’t found anyone to be serious with.
It's not a case of a lack of men around. The ‘issue’ is the perceived calibre of the men. These are high flying women that have achieved a lot in their lives, so they only want men that have either achieved the same or higher. For example, one would not date anyone earning less than 100k a year.
I’ve tried to say on a couple of occasions that they’re probably missing out on lots of good men earning a bit less but with the potential to make more in future (not that I think that money is the be all and end all). Anyway, they disagree and say they don’t see why they should reduce their standards.

Disclosure: I got lucky and met a great guy who ticks a lot of my boxes and did not have to ‘settle’, so this really isn’t my business, but these close friends do discuss their dating lives regularly with me.

So, my question is: would you wait potentially forever for the man of your dreams if you’re single? AIBU for encouraging them to give some ‘Lower earners’ a chance?

I can’t quote from some reason but re the studies about men - yes I agree.

its also the famous mental load. I have ADHD traits so I struggle a lot with admin especially around remembering dates & getting things done. My husband does almost no admin apart from paying for the internet package. I do every other bill, and everything to do with the kids admin wise, and trips, hobbies, holidays etc.

My life would just me so much easier if he made more money. At this stage I feel he’s not going to change in any other way. If I thought I could come home to a decent meal & a fairly clear house, know that someone else was going to remember the date of the parent teacher meeting, or to pay for the swimming lessons I could be a higher earner more easily because I could focus.

This has always been my fear so I'm sorry. You are not alone though. I would love a house husband if he was as good at it as the average woman but otherwise now.

I'm not interested in taking most of the mental load, doing most of the childcare (if we have children), doing most of the chores and earning most of the money. I don't even care if people think that makes me shallow or starts laughing about being alone with cats!

I always wonder why they don't say, "How bad are so many men that some women prefer cats!"

The concept of dream partner is so incredibly flawed that it can only result in disappointment