Being ignored by someone new

[Babagirl]

For the last three weeks I have been talking to someone over Facebook (my old school friends brother) and meeting him. The last Time i seen him I went for a drink with him and his friend after I finished work, his friend (who is a good friend of my sister) warned me to be careful. He told me that the person I had been speaking to infact had a girlfriend and not to trust him. I confronted him about this and he said his friend was lying and trying to get into my pants ( this confirmed later on that night when his friend tried to kiss me but I rejected his advances) I didn’t want to speak to him as I believed he was lying so I went into the girls toilets to collect my thoughts to him following me in and refusing to leave when I asked him too as he wanted to “explain” him self. The whole night he was recording me and sending videos of me to my friends boyfriend ( they are good friends, I found this out days later). Still denying he had a girlfriend, I didn’t believe him and I seen in his phone he had several messages of someone saved as “my forever” so I blocked him.

He rang me of his mums phone, he made new Facebook accounts to get hold of me telling me that he chooses me and he’s not been with his ex for months and after about 3 days I got back into contact with him as I was being told he was telling people very personal details about our sex life so I wanted to know why. He basically said he was angry and hurt so he did that because I blocked him, he wanted to speak to me properly so I went round to his house to see him. When there I left my glasses as I went round to his after work.

the day after he wanted to meet me but I told him I already had plans with my friend and that I would meet him after. He was telling me I had best be back home for 12 or he’s snapping my glasses ( sending me photos wearing them) I told him point blank I am not meeting him at all then and the next minute he sent me photo of my glasses snapped in half with the lenses out. I told him not to speak to me ever again and now he’s saying he’s going out tonight and he’s going to have sex with someone but it’ll be someone that I know.

he is completely point blank ignoring me, every time I try to apologise for not meeting him he just ignores me I do understand that he’s clearly upset because I haven’t met him but I don’t understand why he will not speak to me. I feel like I’ve messed up and I’m not quiet sure what to do now

Op, kindly, the way you are justifying him and making excuses for him and continuing to engage with him (including putting x at end of the messages in some) suggests you have no intention of actually blocking him long term. I sympathise because we have all become infatuated with people we shouldn't and you sound very vulnerable due to low self esteem and mental health issues. This sounds like one of those situations where there will be drama, drama, drama and he continues to fuck up your life and his abusive tendencies escalate until you feel there is no way out.

Please, for your future happiness and mental health be strong and block him now for good with no further engagement and do not respond to any future attempts to contact you. It will only get harder of you carry on. Don't feel bad about fucking him off, he will move on to his next victim soon enough unfortunately. And ignore his bullshit about choosing you, his girlfriend most likely wised up to his shit and got rid

You didnt let him down though you told him you were going to see him then he replied that he wanted you there by a certain time or he would break your glasses...dont let yourself get swept up into that self blame crap. Hes the lying abusive twat and you have been given a nice escape opportunity so honestly jist take it!

OP, are you the same poster who has addiction and alcohol issues and keeps bringing strange men back to the house where her young children live? Your writing style is awfully similar

Talking like that to someone who is vulnerable and depressed only pushes them towards an abuser.

I don’t have alcohol issues I drink like most my age on the weekend I also have no kids I just find this website the most useful for advice. He has a son though but they are not together

I don’t have **

Oh please, read the thread, its juvenile. Funny how everyone these days has such awful mental health that we should tell them that every shit decision they make is ok.

You're a drama girl. Grow up.

As your messaging background is from The Marvels - do you think Captain Marvel, Ms Marvel or Monica Rambeau would put up with being treated like this? OF COURSE they bloody wouldn't!

Channel your inner Captain Marvel. There is NOTHING attractive about this man. And I'm sorry to say it but it sounds like he raped you.

Also, please dont tell me that talking like that is wrong, my mental health is poor therefore you should support me.

Sometimes I feel about 100 when I read threads here, this just feels like another universe.

Why a grown woman would tolerate this sort of nonsense is beyond me.

I won’t be speaking to him again I have blocked him, he’s obviously not the person he made him self out to be so I have nothing else to say to him.

Jesus just stop messaging him back. It's really that simple. He will get the message eventually.
Plus he's fucking illiterate and speaks like a moron. I couldn't be doing with that.

@Screwballs

I didn't say to support what she's doing but you don't get though to an immature person by speaking to them like shit.

I think that there’s one of two things happening here

1. You love the drama so you’re keeping it going
2. You feel like you have to keep this going because you’ve got nothing else in your life, so this drama is better than nothing

I have no idea what you see in him. Your OP didn’t mention that you’d had sex with him. And this, after you knew he potentially had a GF? Yay for the sisterhood!

How old are you? 18? Because you need to grow up if you think this is love, or even how mature people conduct a relationship!

Thankyou I really will try to

Kindly OP, this guy isn't going to help your mental health whatsoever. Please keep him blocked

Well the first thing to do is stop drinking, stop sleeping with people that have no respect for you and stop enabling conversations with those same people for continued attention.

Your mental health isnt going to fix itself, you actually need to work on it.

Wait, why are you apologising???

Be happy he's ignoring you. Block him and move on, treat yourself to some nice new glasses

Don’t forget about the Samaritans ( call 116 123) when you’re feeling at your lowest.

Edited as hadn’t read update that he’d been blocked.

Well done for blocking him. Now you can concentrate on getting mentally well, sorting out your medication and finding something really positive to do with your life. Have you thought about volunteering with animals or something? What do you enjoy doing?

His friend told me he had a girlfriend, he denied this and told me that his friend was trying to get into my pants. Later on that night his friend actually tried to kiss me when we was back at his house which I pushed him away. That to me kind of confirmed he was trying to just get into my pants? He was point blank refusing he had a girlfriend. I knew had broken up with ex 5 weeks ago and he had moved back to our home town which is over two hours away from where he was living with his ex. He told me that he had not been in contact with her and that she had a new boyfriend. It was in the morning as I woke up next to him that I seen his phone and it said “my forever” and message after message of missed calls from her at 4 in the morning.

this is when I wanted to go home because I realised I had made a mistake and I wanted to go home and that everything he was saying to me was infact just lies

As someone who left a marriage with two broken arms and a broken nose.
Buy yourself some nice new glasses and happily move on.