To not cancel our wedding because DS has COVID

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Hi all. 1 year old son has had a bit of a cough for about a week. He's a bit tired but otherwise well. No fever, happily playing etc. Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection (he's already had several). Turns out he has COVID.

Here's the kicker... Me and DSs dad are due to get married on Thursday and DS is obviously attending 😅 We've taken tests and so far they are negative. My colleague is saying I'm being selfish by not cancelling the wedding. Me and my partner have decided to go ahead with it, but of course will be telling all guests that DS has COVID and letting them make their own decision about attending.

YANBU - no you shouldn't cancel
YABU - You should cancel

To all those that are saying you need to tell those who are vulnerable. We are ALL vulnerable. Covid damages all of us invisibly, and some of us (10% is the WHO's estimate) will go on to develop long covid from an infection. The risk of long covid continues with reinfections.

The mere fact that someone has already has covid once makes them vulnerable. It's not trivial.

Presumably you know your guests well.
I wouldn't cancel or even make a big announcement but if anybody is vulnerable I might have a quiet word and say "ds is just recovering from Covid so you might be better to keep your distance"

I don't see this as a big issue but keep your fingers crossed that neither of you feel unwell on the day.

You honestly know how vulnerable every guest is plus every member of their family, their friendship circle and any relatives they may care got. Never assume. Care for others

It's not that simple. Not everyone advertises vulnerabilities. They can be hidden. Or those of their family or friends who may be vulnerable that you don't know about'

This. The arrogance of presuming that Covid is no big deal is so repugnant.

I would not cancel the wedding. I would let everyone know and that ds will be attending. They can make a decision based on the information. Don’t let anyone pressure you into leaving him home or postponing.

Follow NHS advice not this random on Mumsnet. Her words!

• "avoid meeting people who are more likely to get seriously ill from viruses, such as people with a weakened immune system, for 10 days after the day you took your test

So let people know in case they or moved ones are vulnerable! It's not hard!

Also advice about symptoms from NHS

Try to stay at home and avoid contact with other people if you or your child have symptoms and either:

• have a high temperature
• do not feel well enough to go to work, school, childcare, or do your normal activities

You can go back to your normal activities when you feel better or do not have a high temperature.

This sounds like the most sensible and fair plan

Would they be warning everyone if they had a cold, and be prepared to drop their kids out of their wedding or postpone altogether, for a cold? Or a chest infection, or tonsillitis or anything contagious?
Theres a thread on here about an influencer who had scabies- are you telling me you wouldn’t warn people if you had that? Or d and v? Chicken pox? Some things are just common courtesy!!

It’s a cold, calm down. Can’t believe you got a little baby tested 🙄

The GP would not have tested a baby with a mild cold

and the op wandered off as soon as she was asked about this

So my guess… the op either tested her baby (but she certainly indicated In the op it was a test carried out by the GP) or it is BS her baby has Covid and the Op is looking for an excuse to cancel

Why are people so obsessed with who tested the child? Testing is a diagnostic tool. If the GP did it it would be to rule out giving pointless antibiotics. To be honest GPs should be doing more testing as routine for this purpose, rather than prescribing antibiotics like sweets.

Of the OP did it, it's just sensible. It's useful to know what you're sick with. Just because the government is trying to discourage testing (because it wants us to believe COVID is over, which it most definitely is not) doesn't mean we need to follow their advice. We have agency to look after our own health when public health has completely given up on doing its job.

We've only just confirmed the link between Epstein Barr virus and multiple sclerosis. Acute polio infection is just a fever, the paralysis etc comes later. Same with AIDS and HiV. Who knows what will be linked to COVID 10 years down the line. In which case it will be helpful to know if you've had it.

(Edited typo)

Please don't do this. I wish people would stop with this BS. It's still really dangerous to some people. My friend is waiting to find out if the result of her recent covid bout means her heart operation needs to be bought forward and I've 6 months in to having long covid for the second time and can't even walk slowly without struggling to breath.

@Giantgold

So my guess… the op either tested her baby (but she certainly indicated In the op it was a test carried out by the GP) or it is BS her baby has Covid and the Op is looking for an excuse to cancel

It seems rather a lot of nonsense to make up a story and post it anonymously just in order to cancel her wedding. There are easier ways to do that, surely?

Tell your guests and let them make the choice about attending or not.

Congratulations by the way 🥳

Omg haha these comments. I didnt run away, I stopped replying as I was at work and, well, busy 🙄

GP tested him because, as previously stated, he has had numerous chest infections before and been on antibiotics several times. They didn't want to prescribe more if they weren't needed so tested him. Why on earth would I make up such an elaborate story if I just wanted to cancel my wedding? I even say in my OP that I'm not going to? Why would I not, just, well, cancel it?

Some of the conclusions people are leaping to are hilarious though.

Hilarious. Thank you for the laugh. Reported for troll hunting though.

I didn't wander off. I had work and have been rather busy as I do have a wedding coming up.... You may have time to spend hours on MN replying to every comment but I don't. Please see previous reply. I'm not a troll or making stuff up.

I would imagine your ds won't be the only guest with covid, whether known or unknown. I was out with friends at the weekend and a couple of days later one of them messaged me to say she'd just tested positive for covid and was really sorry if we got it from being around her.

I told her it was fine - I could get it at any time from anyone and that's true for everyone. The checkout person at the supermarket, your neighbour, school mums, friends of dc, etc. I wouldn't miss a wedding for this reason. I might just not get up close and personal to your ds!

I know why I find this thread depressing, I'm just wondering why you do, @wildthingsinthenight?

My dd had a go appointment the other month for sore ears /headaches

Gp did ask could it be covid

I said no as I did a test

It's a case of ruling it out if a child is poorly

@Blondeshavemorefun nope apparently GPs don't do that and we're making it up 😂

Enjoy your wedding. Xx

So…. What have you decided to do op?

presumably wedding tomorrow or over weekend if you’re worried about this

I have 3 times and agree with @Ace56 - post vaccine and new variants its a cold. Mild flu at best.

OP, he started his cough a week ago, which means he likely picked it up a week before that. The wedding is still a few days away, the chances of him being infectious by then are low. Even then, its a cold. Don't ruin your big day because of yesterdays hysteria.