To not cancel our wedding because DS has COVID

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Hi all. 1 year old son has had a bit of a cough for about a week. He's a bit tired but otherwise well. No fever, happily playing etc. Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection (he's already had several). Turns out he has COVID.

Here's the kicker... Me and DSs dad are due to get married on Thursday and DS is obviously attending 😅 We've taken tests and so far they are negative. My colleague is saying I'm being selfish by not cancelling the wedding. Me and my partner have decided to go ahead with it, but of course will be telling all guests that DS has COVID and letting them make their own decision about attending.

YANBU - no you shouldn't cancel
YABU - You should cancel

nonsense - some selfish twat infected a good friend of mine about two weeks ago, and ruined her life. And I know who was responsible.

Oh a nice little pre winter superspreader event

It's being spread on a day to day basis, and as not many people test now, everyone thinks they just have a cold.
My friend works in a school and they do not have to stay off work with covid now even if they test positive (unless they are ill and would stay off work anyway).

How did it ruin her life? unless she has sadly died, she will likely recover fully, two weeks is no time all, it took me 4 weeks, a friend who ended up in ICU is now completely fine.

Speaking as the carer for someone who’d suffer badly if they caught Covid now I would appreciate the heads up to change my mind on attending.

I dont want to go into details, but the physical damage is horrendous, and there is no possibility of recovery

They have concluded no hope of recovery two weeks after being diagnosed?

Congratulations on your wedding! Hope you have a lovely day 💐

He won’t be infectious any more by Thursday if he’s been ill for a week. Go ahead with the wedding and have a wonderful day.

Trigger warning.

Apologies if this is triggering but I will explain.

It’s the way covid attacks the lungs. I was told this by someone whose dad died. She couldn’t work out why the consultant was saying her dad would die when she had just been chatting to him and he was chatting away happily, feeling much better. Basically you can feel fine but it’s because you are on really high % of oxygen in hospital. You may feel like you are recovering but the damage is still going on in your lungs. There comes a point where you have too much lung damage and the high O2 sats are damaging other organs like your heart. Her died died 3 weeks later. He was in his 80s but very fit before covid.

If it’s a notifiable disease then yes decency is required. Chicken pox might be risky to certain immune-compromised people who also haven’t had chicken pox before. Even that’s not notifiable tho I believe. D&V I’ve already mentioned, I would never attend a gathering if I had that, or if I was “well enough” but still contagious, I would warn people and keep my distance. I get annoyed that others don’t do the same (eg coming into work work a sick bug) but ultimately it’s on me to practise good hygiene, and if I’m that concerned generally about about catching it then i should amend my behaviours accordingly, as I’m the one who’s vulnerable to it and therefore it’s my responsibility to protect myself. It’s not the person with the sick bug’s obligation or responsibility to forewarn me. Same with Covid. Don’t wanna catch it, then eliminate the chances yourself, don’t put it upon other people to protect you.

The 'it's just a cold' brigade never come back to.prove 'it's just a cold' do they?

I sincerely hope they don't have to go through what I've been through in the last 3 weeks to realise they're wrong...

Having had COVID 4 times, if you knew I’d be coming into cLose contact with you when you’re positive and didn’t tell me I’d be really angry. It has been awful and drags on for weeks. The second time I was ill for nearly a year. I’d still come to a close friend or families wedding though but would send my apologies for a distant relative/work colleague.

It's winter if I was going to a social event I would assume someone in the room will be positive. Hope DS is feeling better and enjoys the wedding

It’s a bit more than a cold (I’ve got Covid just now and it’s more a really bad flu) I’d tell the vulnerable guests let them make their mind up.
I won’t visit my friend in hospice or my mother in a care home until I’m negative but I’m walking dog etc as normal.

My dad was fine the night before he died from COVID. I understand a bit better why now. This was this year.

Good luck for tomorrow!

"Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection" - it IS just another chest infection.

You can carry on and not tell anyone

Or tell everyone and give them the opportunity to not attend

But don't cancel

I was in a similar situation when we got married a few years ago. Our 1 year old had chicken pox. In the end we got a sitter (nursery worker), and notified everyone he had had it to be double sure that people knew there was risk being in touch with us also (although we escaped it)

I think they way Covid can effect the lungs is a bit different. It is a chest infection kind of but it is a bit different. I’m not an expert but a friend with long Covid had to travel for tests in London - something about the very smallest bits of the lungs (argh my vocabulary is failing me) so the damage doesn’t show on an X-ray.

Plus she needed an inhaler as breathing was harder

Maybe that why was asked about covid

But yes doctors can and so ask us to test

No - Long Covid is very different. It drops your immunity to diseases that you already carry, but your body stops fighting them to deal with the Covid infection. Shingles, Lyme Disease, Dengue Fever, Herpes, Glandular Fever are just some of the contributors to Long Covid. Sinus and ear blockages don't help either

Really sorry x

My teenager had encephalitis, originally from an unknown virus, which led to brain damage. She’s had a series of operations and we had to stay virus free for them. So we’re more cautious than most round covid and would prefer for people to let us know.

Are you actually ok?

Just a cold?
2 1/2 years Long Covid for me. And back to the Dr on Friday because my heart rate keeps spiking. Met someone the other day who is 18 months LC. Self employed so has taken a big financial hit. Used to hike long distances. The fatigue is life changing. And there are over a million and a half of us. It's a crock.