To not cancel our wedding because DS has COVID

[CheeseCrackers45]

Hi all. 1 year old son has had a bit of a cough for about a week. He's a bit tired but otherwise well. No fever, happily playing etc. Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection (he's already had several). Turns out he has COVID.

Here's the kicker... Me and DSs dad are due to get married on Thursday and DS is obviously attending 😅 We've taken tests and so far they are negative. My colleague is saying I'm being selfish by not cancelling the wedding. Me and my partner have decided to go ahead with it, but of course will be telling all guests that DS has COVID and letting them make their own decision about attending.

YANBU - no you shouldn't cancel
YABU - You should cancel

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The drama surrounding Covid is ridiculous 🙄

@CheeseCrackers45 you sound like a really considerate bride, thank you.

As someone who lives with 2 extremely vulnerable people (one permanently so, one temporarily), I would be very grateful for being given the heads-up so the grown-ups I live with could make their own decisions based on facts. I would still attend your wedding, no question - and so would they in all probability - but they would appreciate the info.

Have a fabulous day tomorrow, and many congratulations!

Indeed, but you said "But its not the killer you think it is, not at the start even"

Anyway, best wishes for a fabulous wedding day OP. I'm so pleased your LO is feeling a lot better and that all your guests will be sharing your special day. 👰

There is no drama in OP informing guests that her child has been unwell. No drama at all.
I went to a wedding this summer where the very young nephew of the bride was just about well enough between chemo to attend the ceremony. If his parents hadn't created 'drama' to ensure he was not consciously put under extra risk then there is no way they would have gone. As it was, every guest was absolutely willing to respond to the 'drama' by testing before they attended.

Covid is not over. People misread the WHO statement as 'the pandemic is over'- that is not what they said. Covid is not a cold or the flu and is not seasonal. There have not be low case numbers since 2021. Sars cov2 is a biosafety Level (BSL) 3 pathogen.

The initial infection may be mild for many but the long term consequences are there for everyone - it's a vascular disease that will damage your blood vessels and your organs. Long term sickness reached another record high this past summer. This link contains hundreds of peer reviewed SARSCoV2 scientific studies published in academic and medical journals. Not news articles. Not YouTube. No politics. Here's another. Do not underestimate it and think you've got off scott free. It doesn't just impact "the vulnerable".

I understand people want instant gratification but the constant denial, being fuelled by anecdotal evidence & social media misinformation is having long lasting ramifications for public healthcare. It can't keep up. No one is saying stay home, have another lockdown. The power of mitigating factors like masking, vaccination & improving air quality is being ignored. One of the reasons vaccinations aren't as helpful as they could be is the unmitigated spread and unfettered mutation developments due to the 'it's just a cold' crowd.

Not like for like, as you say.

Also, where does it say 99.9% experience it as ‘just a cold’?

Im not scared either, to be clear. I go about my life as I always have. I’m not hysterical. I’m not cowering.

But please don’t talk with certainty when there isn’t certainty.

I couldn’t find the bit that says 99.9% experience it as ‘just a cold’?

Congratulations. Hope you have a fantastic day.

Oh a nice little pre winter superspreader event.

Sounds great! Hope it all goes well.

@CheeseCrackers45 I would say, do not cancel the wedding but do test yourselves and then inform the guests so that they can make informed decisions, and do not be offended if a few of them decide not to come.

Some of them may be particularly vulnerable, or be planning to visit with someone who is particularly vulnerable.

I would go ahead with the wedding but tell guests and the celebrant that your child has tested positive for covid.
For the record covid isn't just a cold and it is still making many people very ill. It nearly killed me last year and I was fully vaccinated and had been exposed to it multiple times!!! There are no strict rules but the official advice is that if you have it you should look to restrict mixing with potentially vulnerable people.

Have a fantastic wedding and glad you told people so they have a choice

My fully vaccinated DH died of Covid last April. It can still kill. 🙁

@QuickDraining hardly. All guests have been informed that DS has COVID so are able to take any precautions should they wish to.

Yes, this. The problem will be if either of you catch it,

I would find a baby sitter for DS. He will have no idea what the wedding is about and will probably make the day trickier for you anyway!

For fucks sake.

why does someone always trot out this crap

to SOME it’s a cold, but it’s still potentially dangerous to many.

That said, I wouldn’t cancel, but I would tell people so they can make up their own minds or choose to wear masks etc

Have a good day.

Fingers crossed for you and hope the wee one feels better soon.

Covidbollocks is just one big lie.

Covid = a cold

I have no underlying health issues and have been extremely unwell with Covid for the last 3 weeks. That isn't a cold.

I've had Covid twice, my DC once and then dad once, it was not like a cold in any of those circumstances.