To be put off by date eating pub leftovers

[Runki]

I have never posted on here before so please be gentle! 😉 I just wanted some honest opinions from people. I've been seeing a man for a number of months. We went out yesterday to a pub for something to eat, at lunchtime. When we got there, the table next to us hadn't been cleared yet and there was quite a bit of food left on plates. I asked him what he wanted to eat for lunch, and he said he would just eat some leftover toast and sausages from the uncleared table. I thought he was joking and laughed. But he actually meant it. He took two pieces of left over, cold toast and some sausages and proceeded to eat them, with no plate. I said I would buy him lunch and he didn't need to eat leftovers! He said he couldn't stand wasted food. I ordered my own lunch and ate it, alone, as he had already gobbled up the leftovers from the people who had left. Would this put you off someone? Or should I more be accommodating?! In all honesty, it made me feel very uncomfortable and I found it very unattractive. How would this make you feel, can I ask? Look forward to hearing what people think. For context, he has never done this before, but has alluded to wanting to do it when we've been to other places. I asked him yesterday if he was worried that someone's saliva might be on the leftover food, but he said he couldn't care less.

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I'm very greedy, hate food waste but would never, ever do that, did anyone else see him 👀

@ElleCapitaine ha ha ha thank you so much ....that has made me laugh so much! I think mine did the same yesterday 😅

@BarryK3nt I did, but only because I was so bloody speechless and paralysed with mortification! I left shortly afterwards. Very hurriedly.

The people who left the food might have gobbed on it.

I used to work with a man who was so tight that he only bought yellow sticker items and he'd wait until the shop was closing to get them given for free. He also dumpster dove. This meant that the food he provided to the office kitchen when it was "his turn" (no one fucking asked!) would be off. Biscuits would be soggy and stale. Anything brought in by others was taken home by him that night, even if it was something for everyone and would be fine for the rest of the week or longer (ie chocolates).

He also borrowed the boss's car that was temporarily useable but booked in for a repair because it was needing regular water top ups. The Cheap bastard couldn't find a free water source when out one evening so bought a 2L out of date cola bottle for 5p and poured that in. It destroyed the engine of course. Stories like this make me think of that nasty, smelly little man. Ew. They actually do exist,

@Whichwhatnow Oh my God, I can't believe people like that even exist!! That is quite something and made me laugh, but the poor recipients of that fart fest! Puts yesterday's shenanigans into perspective though. Ha ha!!!

He does not understand hygiene or just ignores it. A very poor standard. Most people would not tolerate this.

You’ve got yourself a hobo boyfriend. Gross. Get rid

Wow... early in the relationship too - imagine what he'd be up to in 10 years when the bar has dropped!

But yeah, eating manky good with all bits of other people's drool and germs... then kissing you on the mouth😨

It's not so much the hygiene (which is pretty vile) as the bad manners. Just awful. No coming back from that.

Grim, grim, grim. Beyond gross.

Bin!

Please tell me you’re dumping him with a cleverly worded text about how his enthusiasm for sloppy seconds sausages has left you unenthusiastic about your relationship

@Janieforever my only excuse is that I was very hungry (not hungry enough to eat cold leftovers though, I hasten to add, ha ha). As soon as I had eaten, I said to him I can't believe you've done that, you could have caught anything. He said he didn't care. So I went home. I just wondered what people thought. I shan't be seeing him again!!

I would have left there and then to make my disgust clear. I'd sooner be single for the rest of my life than sit down and eat with a man like this.
Way to impress a lady on a first date.

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That made me feel a bit sick reading that. Straight in the bin for him I couldn’t get over that ick

My FIL is an alcoholic and on his 60th birthday, all the family went out for a birthday dinner. After everyone left the pub, I saw him drink everyone's partially finished drinks.

I felt revolted and he had absolutely no shame.

This is vile. Just the thought is making my stomach turn.

However, on a few occasions over last 20 years, I've been out for a meal and sort of caused others to do something similar. Wondering if I did something awful!? I've been in a restaurant- waiter brings over something we didn't order- maybe don't notice straight away. When notice, I've offered it to people on next table. Last night this happened with an ice cream sundae. Ordered one- two came. My partner is allergic to nuts so couldn't eat it. So, I offered it to teenager on next table. I hadn't touched it. Is this bad?

I thought you were going to say YOUR leftovers and I was going to say YABU. But this! Grabbing some rando's leftover who has left the cafe?! BLEUGHH! 🤮

He needs to be careful eating mouldy bread! You can get quite sick from it if you're unlucky. It can be carcinogenic too 😟

I had an ex that would do this. He also ate road kill, which gives you some idea as to his standards on grossness. He just seemed to have another level of what he would tolerate as disgusting, he was a doctor and totally in the right profession as he was not fazed by any illness, bodily function, wound etc…
His reasoning was not being tight, it was a mix of hating waste but also I think he liked the reaction.
All the above aside he was a really nice and good boyfriend. When we broke up I was super sad to not have him in my life but also quite relieved that I didn’t have to mentally block out the yuck that he would do.

@SisterhoodNotCisterhood Oh my Lord. What an awful person! Fancy actually taking food home from the office that other people could enjoy. I am speechless. And I thought yesterday had rendered me speechless, ha ha. Thank you for sharing the tale of Mr Stinge! I think he has a new rival! 😄

Me and my husband hate food waste too. DH once groaned at someone's barely touched food in a restaurant that hadn't been cleared away and he admitted he was tempted to eat it, just so it didn't go in the bin. Tempted but didn't do it due to any potential germs. I agreed it was gross to waste good food.

If DH had eaten the food, I would have laughed and called him a skank but I wouldn't have run away. Depends on how nibbled the food looked I suppose. If it was in tact and still fresh.

I grew up in poverty and DH has known what its like to miss meals. It does affect you!

Oh don't be ridiculous

How is offering untouched food to someone else in any way comparable?